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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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yorkshiremumofone · 13/07/2022 13:44

Well I did it 😅

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 08:53

@yorkshiremumofone hang in there and stay positive. Find something to take your mind off things for a while! I understand though I'm super anxious that when I'm pg again I'm going to have another CP.

As for the hair dye. Health line says it's fine. I've spoken to my hairdresser to and she says it's also fine xx
www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/dying-hair#:~:text=The%20good%20news%20is%20that,your%20skin%20during%20a%20treatment.

yorkshiremumofone · 13/07/2022 08:17

I'm soooo anxious this morning! I felt cramping last night and I don't know I've just woke up with such a anxious belly. Im so so nervous about this pregnancy I really don't want it to end like last time. I just want these next couple of weeks to go by so I get further along. I'm so tempted to do a weeks today I'll be 15 DPO approx but I'm scared it will show 1-2 but I'm just so anxious , it's getting to me today! 🙈 I have my bloods at 9:20 but I won't find out for a day or so I'm guessing too!

Laurzz · 13/07/2022 07:17

@yorkshiremumofone i survived 😂. I bought ice lollys at lunch time which i've kept at work to help cool down when it gets too hot. Today's forecast looks cooler.

I don't know the guidance for hair dye but i have a cut and colour appointment next Friday. I spoke to my hairdresser and she said the safest option would be for highlights as no dye is touching the scalp. But, she has coloured pregnant women's hair before and had no issues. She has left the decision to me. I've looked online but everything is so conflicting around hair dying!

yorkshiremumofone · 12/07/2022 20:44

@Laurzz deffo talk to your H&S when they come in! How have you coped today? Have you seen the forecast on Monday 😳

@Lauren441 amazing news about your bloods!!! That's heading in the right direction 😃 bet you feel good with that! I'm so nervous about mine I just don't feel pregnant!

@TheCakeIsALie18 how are you doing today?

What's the stance of hair dying whilst pregnant?? 🙈 x

TheCakeIsALie18 · 12/07/2022 14:59

@Lauren441 great news with your bloods ❤️ I hope it continues perfectly for you.

@yorkshiremumofone good luck with your bloods too 🤞🏻 it's going in the right direction xx

Lauren441 · 12/07/2022 14:25

@laurzz - hang in there with the heat! Awful isn't it! Maybe if you chat with H&S they will allow you to work from home or make allowances with their dress code so you can stay cool.

@yorkshiremumofone - good luck with your bloods lovely. Hope it offers you the reassurance you need.

I had my blood results back today they are 9204 from around 3500 ish. So that's absolutely great. Fingers crossed that's how it continues.

Hope you are all doing OK?

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Laurzz · 12/07/2022 08:52

@yorkshiremumofone ahh that's brilliant news!

Been keeping on top of my water intake but still need to drink more. I'm in Scotland so the weather is slightly cooler. I have a desk fan and we have all the doors windows open to let some fresh air. I've got my risk assessment next week with H&S so i'm going to talk about the heat. I'm rubbish in the heat at the best of times! X

yorkshiremumofone · 12/07/2022 08:08

Just chased up the doctors and got an appointment tomorrow to have bloods and then on Friday! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 so this has made me feel a little better.

@Laurzz glad you are feeling better!! Have you been drinking lots of water? This heat is awful isn't it. Especially when your stuck in a hot room. Have you got a handheld fan you can take with you? Xx

Laurzz · 12/07/2022 07:17

@yorkshiremumofone hopefully they get back to you soon. Yesterday i just felt awful and struggled to eat. I work in an stuffy office environment with a strict dress code and i think the heat had a part to play in it. This morning i'm feeling ok but still not great. Hopefully they will lift over the next few days!

I managed to avoid boozy social events for 12 weeks but would have used the car as an excuse 😂.

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 17:24

@yorkshiremumofone haha yeah, I'm hoping for something to celebrate. I'll keep you posted.

As for the tight dress and not drinking...you could say the heat is making you uncomfortable and therefore not want to drink... I think they'd buy that. In this heat all I want to do is drink water! Xx

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 16:56

@Laurzz well I've heard nothing back from my doctors at all!!! Think I will chase them up tomororw if not heard! How have you been feeling today? Any more symptoms? Oh absolutely we all love to complain about symptoms! And it someways you want them just to make it feel more real!

@TheCakeIsALie18 omg!! Go you! The will power is real! But that would be super cute something to celebrate at the weekend 🥰 you'll have to let us know if you test on Friday!

I think I'll do my cb weeks mid to end of this week! I have a wedding to go too on Saturday and not looking forward to wearing a tight dress as feel bloated and having to make excuses as to why I'm not drinking!

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 11:02

@Laurzz flaunt the bump! Is it bad that I have a wish list of maternity clothes on depop and shein waiting..... 😅❤️

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 11:01

@yorkshiremumofone well I've just got back from a trip to tesco...and I walked straight past the preg tests... so I'm staying strong 😅 I've got a reasonably busy week this week with sports massage clients so that should help me resist the urge lol. But I reckon I'll cave by Friday. Hoping to go out for a meal with hubby on Saturday...would be nice to have something to celebrate about... xx

Laurzz · 11/07/2022 09:44

@TheCakeIsALie18 thank you! My clothes feel slightly tighter but nothing major. I'm looking forward to wearing what I want with a bump without worrying its too clingy 😂.

@yorkshiremumofone I know I always feel but for complaining about my symptoms but sometimes you just need too! Oh I hope you get a better response than I did. Although I midwife is amazing! I'd stuck to the dates in the leaflet to avoid disappointment. I really hope you see that 3+ soon.

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 09:30

@TheCakeIsALie18 good that you had a busy day yesterday! Keeping your mind occupied!!! Eeeeeek your getting closer! Do you think you'll resit in testing any earlier? ☺️

yorkshiremumofone · 11/07/2022 09:29

@Laurzz awwwww amazing your officially in the 2nd trimester!! 😀 another amazing milestone!
It's good you've not got major symptoms though think of that as a good thing (even tho I know we want some haha)

Well I've sent off to the doctors this morning a request for my bloods so we will see what will they will come back with!

My digis are coming today and I don't know when do to them as I'm so nervous I don't want to see 1-2 weeks on it as that's all it went too last time 😓😓

Hope everyone's well this morning! Xx

TheCakeIsALie18 · 11/07/2022 08:38

Thanks @Laurzz I'm sorry you're feeling rubbish! Even if it is bloating bean is growing nicely and most likely will be making a bump appear soon! Eeek exciting ❤️

Laurzz · 11/07/2022 07:20

@Lauren441 Amazing! That's another milestone smashed 💪.

@yorkshiremumofone lines looking good. I asked my GP if they would check my hcg levels via a blood test and they refused. However that was my GP so might be worth a shot. It will defiantly give you re-assurance.

@TheCakeIsALie18 Let's hope you get your BFP this cycle 😀.

I'm 14 weeks and 3 days so officially into the 2nd trimester. I've been feeling pretty rubbish the last few days but think the heat has a massive part to play in that. My tender breasts have completely gone and morning sickness comes and go's. I don't know if I'm bloated or if I can see a small bump forming.

TheCakeIsALie18 · 10/07/2022 21:35

Yay congrats on getting your 3 week digi @Lauren441

Ooooh those lines are looking good @yorkshiremumofone

It's been a crazy busy day for me today. On the go non stop. I'm on 7dpo today and holding stong haha. Will aim to test next Saturday. AF due 17th. I've had light cramping a lot of today and the last 2 days I've been on my knees tired. 9 hours sleep, an afternoon nap and still want to be in bed by 8pm!

I hope you're all doing well xx

yorkshiremumofone · 10/07/2022 20:49

@WaitingWatchingPeeing awwww bless you! I know how your feeling at the minute I don't have any symptoms other than bigger boobs! I'm sure the digi will be fine!! Do you think you'll stop testing soon? Or order more?

I was Googling symptoms earlier and some don't start till 6 weeks!

Line progression good at the moment!

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 10/07/2022 20:39

Exciting @Lauren441 🤩
And ofcourse, I forgot the levels can be different across blood/urine.

I'm trying to stay calm despite not really having any symptoms for a few days now. I had one moment where I felt nauseous yesterday for a few mins and today have felt like I have low blood pressure (which I got a lot with DD) but I'm scraping the barrel to try and find anything really 😳 hopefully will start feeling a bit more pregnant this week, I don't have any normal tests left only a digi so I can't even test to reassure myself 🤦🏼‍♀️

How is everyone doing? How are the lines coming along @yorkshiremumofone?

yorkshiremumofone · 10/07/2022 20:35

@Lauren441 massive congratulations on your 3 plus!!!! 😀 does it make you feel a little less anxious? How many DPO are you now?

My tests are still going strong 🤞🏼🤞🏼 thinking of getting in contact with docs tomorrow to have the bloods checked for hcg levels! Do you think it's worth it?

Lauren441 · 10/07/2022 19:04

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Lauren441 · 10/07/2022 19:03

Hi!

Hope you've all been enjoying the sun?

I had my 3+ on a digi today! 🙌🏼 So ill be ringing the midwife in the morning to confirm/arrange bookings.

@yorkshiremumofone - I think now I've had my 3+ ill stop testing every day, maybe even all-together. Maybe just to the odd one here and there to reduce my anxiety. How's your tests looking now?

@waitingwatchingpeeing - the clearblue didn't show 3+ on Friday even though my levels were way above the threshold. That's probably because bloods are far more accurate and my urine sample was late in the day so really diluted also. I give it until today to retest. And will keep you posted on the blood results of tomorrow.

Hope you're all doing OK? @TheCakeIsALie18 @maya12345 @laurzz @waitingwatchingpeeing @yorkshiremumofone

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