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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 14/07/2022 14:44

Thanks everyone ❤️

Mum2yorkie · 14/07/2022 14:40

Thank you for the lovely support ladies ❤️

@Laurzz congratulations on 15 weeks, how exciting!

@yorkshiremumofone fingers crossed your bloods come back super quick and that all is progressing as expected 🤞

@TheCakeIsALie18 I'm so sorry AF pitched up. Like you say at least your cycles have gotten back to normal so hopefully you'll have a good idea of dates etc and miss the crazy hot weather predicted for next week 😱 Fingers crossed for a sticky bean soon 🤞

Laurzz · 14/07/2022 13:29

@TheCakeIsALie18 that sucks 😔. Such a great attitude to have sometimes too much pressure can cause all sorts of issues. I've got every faith you will have a sticky bean soon. We're all here for the journey so please keep us up to date X

TheCakeIsALie18 · 14/07/2022 12:29

@yorkshiremumofone thanks. Yeah, we will get back on it in a week. I'm pretty laid back about the process to be fair. If we don't get a sticky bean by September I'll start to buck up haha because I don't want to be heavily pregnant throughout the summer 🤣🤣 xx

yorkshiremumofone · 14/07/2022 12:25

@TheCakeIsALie18 oh im soooo sorry! 😓😓 at least your cycles are back to normal hun! Will you try again straight away??

TheCakeIsALie18 · 14/07/2022 11:49

I don't need to wait to test. AF showed her face out of the blue... 😭

On a positive at least my cycle is now back to normal after CP and we can get on to the fun of trying this cycle haha.

Good luck to everyone else ❤️

yorkshiremumofone · 14/07/2022 11:18

@Laurzz thanks hun no worries; I've googled to death! I just hope the docs can put a rush on tomorrows bloods so I don't have to wait until Monday it will kill me!

I have a nearly 2 year old to keep me occupied but it still keeps me wondering 🙄🙄😳

Laurzz · 14/07/2022 10:00

@yorkshiremumofone Sorry, I don't know enough about HCG levels to comment. Please try not worry, she might want to call to go through all the measurements etc and what she expects from tomorrows set.

There are a few on this thread who had recent bloods. Hopefully they will have some advice for you.

Try focus on something today that needs done in the house, work or garden until the doctor calls. X

yorkshiremumofone · 14/07/2022 09:35

My levels are 334 Is that good I was 4 weeks yesterday!? Im worrying as doc said we need to discuss further and she'll call me

@Laurzz

TheCakeIsALie18 · 14/07/2022 09:29

@yorkshiremumofone no I haven't tested today I have managed to resist! I felt sick as a dog when I go into bed last night and still feeling peaky this morning. I'm praying this is a good sign even though I feel yuck haha. I will test tomorrow morning. God I hope its a BFP xx

TheCakeIsALie18 · 14/07/2022 09:28

@Laurzz just tell everyone that doesn't need to know that you really enjoyed eating 15 pies last night.... 🤣 I hope your bump shows properly soon ❤️❤️

Laurzz · 14/07/2022 09:24

@yorkshiremumofone I still don't believe I'm pregnant either. I don't think I will believe it until I have baby in my arms. Not really got a bump yet but my clothes are tighter and when i look in mirror my tummy has grown but not rounded 😂. I'm hitting that stage where people don't know if your pregnant or put on weight. Hope you get your results back today and good luck for tomorrows set 💞

yorkshiremumofone · 14/07/2022 08:52

@Mum2yorkie welcome! 💞 it's a hard one isn't it! But we are here for when you are ready!! How are you feeling in yourself? And Thankyou!

@TheCakeIsALie18 one more day!! Did you resist this morning?

@Laurzz thanks hun, it's not till tomorrow but I'm just hoping my results from yesterday come in today it's driving me mad 🤣 why do I still not believe I'm pregnant! Also amazing 15 weeks today wowaz!!! Have you got a bump??

@Lauren441 @WaitingWatchingPeeing @Maya12345 hope your all well! X

Laurzz · 14/07/2022 08:00

@yorkshiremumofone Good luck with your second lots of bloods 🙏. Keep us all updated!

@TheCakeIsALie18 Your symptoms are pretty strong and well done for not testing. I tested with a first response at 11 dpo and got my BFP. I wanted to test at 12 dpo but just couldn't wait that extra day 😂. I hope you get your BFP and have a healthy pregnancy.

@Mum2yorkie Hope your doing ok. It's very crappy but don't give up hope. I gave up all hope after our MC but tomorrow i'll be 15 weeks. You've got this 💪. Good luck on your journey!

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 22:34

So sorry to hear of your loss @Mum2yorkie. Wish you all the luck in the world for when you're ready to try. We will be here with you xx

Mum2yorkie · 13/07/2022 21:56

Evening ladies, hope you don't mind if I join? I found this thread after recently going through a miscarriage.

Just wanted to say my heart goes out to you all as this has been so so crappy but at the same times you're all giving me hope that when we're ready to try again we might get a sticky bean 🤞🤞

Best of luck on Friday TheCakeIsALie18 🤞

Congratulations on your BFP yorkshiremumofone 🎉

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 18:36

@yorkshiremumofone well whatever the outcome on Friday I'll let you know. I'm so nervous!

Aww it will be nice to go away though. Get an early one to tide you over and then you'll have something extra special to look forward to when you come back. Xx

yorkshiremumofone · 13/07/2022 18:02

@TheCakeIsALie18 yeahhh I used the easy@home ones first and then used the FRER after!! My wee seems better in the afternoon too! I'm so excited for you!!!!

Yeah I'm definitely going to get a early scan weather I can get it from the Epu or I'll get a private one! I go away end of august so I'll be away when I hit 12 weeks too! 🙈🙈

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 17:43

@yorkshiremumofone thanks ❤️ I'm trying to stay positive, but anxiety always creeps in. I'll do a FRER on Friday. I'll keep busy tomorrow. I do also have some cheap easy@home tests on the way from amazon too so I will use those first I think.

I hope you'll be able to relax soon. Count down the days until you get your scan 🥰 maybe get an early 7 week scan so you can see the heart beat 💓 put your mind at ease a little xx

yorkshiremumofone · 13/07/2022 17:34

@TheCakeIsALie18 oh wow!!!!! Look at all those symptoms though 😍 I've got my everything crossed for you!!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼 I really hope you get your BFP this month!!! I can't believe it's so close for you to test now eeeek! Oh it's so much anxiety isn't it, it's crazy. I just want to enjoy it a little and you have it at the back of your mind like you can't relax thinking something will happen! X

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 14:54

@yorkshiremumofone yeah been peeing like a racehorse today, trying to quench and unquenchable thirst, the gross snot CM yesterday and a little bit today as well, dizziness on Monday, cramping a few days ago and tiredness...3 naps in one day is a new one haha

I won't test today. I'll try and avoid it tomorrow.... wish me luck to hold off haha. I'll be fine. I will test on Friday haha. I'm so scared now though. Don't want a BFN after the CP last month and scared I'll have another CP 😭 xx

yorkshiremumofone · 13/07/2022 14:49

Thankyou!!! I do feel a little better seeing that! Now just to see what the bloods come back at 😆 wow what an emotional rollercoaster!!!

@TheCakeIsALie18 eeeeek!! Will you resist until Friday? Have you been getting any symptoms?

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 14:37

Urgh they've arrived... already struggling not to test now lol

TTC immediately after miscarriage
Laurzz · 13/07/2022 14:33

@yorkshiremumofone amazing! Hopefully this result along with your blood test results will give you some re-assurance 😀

TheCakeIsALie18 · 13/07/2022 13:52

@yorkshiremumofone hurrrraaaaayyyyyy congratulations! Go celebrate! Xx