TTC immediately after miscarriage

@Lauren441 hi op.

i also have a 4 year old DD :) we have been ttc number 2 for a year though.

took me 11 cycle to fall. But mc at 9 weeks end of April. Then needed ERPC surgery for retained tissue early May.

i then ovulated 2 weeks ago and been charting. Got a positive frer. For it to now be fading away. My period is 4 days late. So I know it’s a chemical but my temp is still high and not sure when to expect bleeding

I’m so so sad. Two losses in a row. And a year down the line with nothing to show for it!

i wasn’t told to wait after my mc or surgery so we tried straight away.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you and know how you feel@Lauren441 I can’t give any advice but wanted to comment as your post has a lot of similarities to what I was coming onto post.

I got a surprise positive last week on the 2nd day of our holiday and spent the last week getting nervously excited but sadly my tests havnt got any darker and Iv started bleeding today ( 6days after period was due) and in my gut I know it’s a full loss not just early pregnancy bleeding (I will test in 5/6 days to check test goes back to negative)

I think we will try immediately this month as I have been reading about how a chemical pregnancy (hate that term) can almost be viewed as the body preparing the womb for a future sucessful pregnancy and you are more fertile right after so hopefully that’s true?!

I will follow closely and see what answers you get about Asprin. Good luck and il keep an eye out for you on here as I guess we will be going through the TWW about the same time 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Sorry for your loss. It is very early but it’s still a loss and you’re still entitled to feel sad.

I have had this happen twice in a row. Once in a March (4wks2days), we didn’t try in April but would have done if DP hadn’t been away, and again just now in May (again 4wks2days).

The first time I thought was just bad luck, two in a row seems more than that so I’ve contacted the doctor for some tests. They’re starting with blood tests but guessing a scan might be something they look at further down the line or something I would look at paying for privately if we’re still having no luck.

I wouldn’t worry about doing this yet since it was just your first time and you were also lucky enough to catch first month, hopefully it was one off and you’ll catch again soon, this time with a sticky one.

They can’t do my blood tests until next cycle but I’ll be 100% trying again this month as I don’t see any point in waiting, I’m just mentally more prepared this time for it not to be successful if I do get a BFP.

good luck!

Sorry for your loss OP.

I had exactly the same circumstances, I miscarried my second pregnancy at 4 weeks, 5 days. Painful cramps and bleeding and pregnancy test went back to negative a few days later.

We started trying again that first cycle and got pregnant immediately. Everything went well and my 4-month old daughter is currently sleeping on me.

As a previous poster said, just make sure you're emotionally ready to try again. I was a nervous wreck until we got a private early scan and even then I was extremely worried throughout the pregnancy. I wasn't nervous at all during my first pregnancy as I didn't think it would happen to me.

Good luck!

I felt the same, once you’ve had one baby you think well I’ve already done it how can I not do it again. There’s so many things can influence why you have a miscarriage but that doesn’t stop it from sucking 😢. The one thing I know is there’s nothing you’ve done or not done, it was just nature being horrible.

Like Laurzz said, if you feel ready go for it. It is more nerve wrecking after a loss but fingers crossed for a quick sticky one for you too!

I’ve seen about aspirin but don’t really understand it but I’m tempted to ask the gp for thoughts on that one as it seems a lot of people rate it.

good luck getting your sticky bean!

Forgot to add.. It doesn't matter when you miscarry the heartache is the same for each person.

Hey

We had a miscarriage at 9 weeks, and I fell pregnant right away with no period in-between. I tracked my cycle so was able to pinpoint ovulation day etc. I was told to wait at least one cycle but they only say this for dating purposes. My Midwife dated me for confirmed day of Ovulation. I’m currently only 7 weeks pregnant but praying this one sticks 🙏. I'm unsure about the aspirin theory but maybe worth speaking to a medical profession on that one.

One thing I will say… make sure you both a mentally ready. We thought we were and got straight back to it but now it’s happened we are both a nervous reck. I’ve also been having nightmares about bleeding again. Every little twinge scares me. Although I think it is very natural to feel like this after a loss.

So my answer is "yes it's absolutely fine".

Good Luck on your journey!

Hey,

I have broken your message into questions as there was a lot but I hope this helps. I’ve had a miscarriage between my first and second child and between my second and what I hope one day will be my third so I do understand what you are going through.

1. with both miscarriages I didn’t wait for a period and went back to trying straight away. With the first, I was successful that first month. With the second I’ve only just had my first period so can’t say this time around. Fingers crossed for you that it works for you and your ovulation pattern is the same.
2. yep, count it from the day you started bleeding as this is effectively your cycle day 1 now.
3. i can’t answer to do with scans, I have never done it, but given this was earlier on I’d expect your body will bounce back faster. (No promises, I’m not a scientist, it’s just my experience).
4. 4.5 weeks is totally normal, I think the issue here is how people perceive miscarriage I.e. to them it is much later in the pregnancy. Don’t pay any mind to that, once you’ve passed your period due date it’s normal to test.