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Secondary Infertility

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Hoping43 · 23/05/2022 18:05

Hi Everyone

Thought I would set up a thread for those of us going through secondary infertility and it would be great if anyone wants to join me.

a bit about me…. We have been TTC our third baby for 14 months now and been through all relevant fertility testing and so far it’s unexplained. We are trying naturally until the autumn before discussing other options such as IVF

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ffiffi123 · 04/06/2022 01:33

Hi

Trying for our second for over a year, had fertility testing after 6 months as I'm 36 soon to be 37 years old.

Was told I had low ovarian reserve (0.8) high FSH low AMH Sad husband however has better .. much better than average sperm count!

We've stopped trying to be honest! I have hormonal epilepsy (have been told it's not connected Hmm) but we're happy with just DD who's 3 soon, but if another were to come along we'd be happy. I'm currently taking folic acid & Coq10, but not testing as of yet, ovulation test etc as apparently I don't every cycle anyway!

bluebird2022 · 01/06/2022 14:34

@ladybuggoldfinch I am looking at my finances and think I will go down IVF. I was hoping I would not need to but as I’ve got one blocked tube it means I only in theory ovulate every two weeks or 6 times in 12 cycles. I’m getting anxious as I’ve been trying since I was 38, I know that’s old but still thought I had not left it that late. I was also told my reserves were on the lower side which again has me worried as to how long I can keep trying ….

Its so difficult to know what to do and I know IVF isn’t guaranteed but at least I feel like I am giving myself the best chance. I only wanted one more as I don’t think I can handle more than two. I also wanted a smaller age difference and at this rate there will be a 4+ year age difference 😥

I know how you feel as someone at my work is 41 and pregnant and I know she said it took ages but equally I thought I would be first as I’m 3 years younger! I think secondary infertility is more common but most people assume you don’t what another one not that you do but are struggling.

I’m sorry to hear you’ve had miscarriages, I can only imagine how heartbreaking that is given how much you want this.

Wishing you lots of luck and hope you don’t have to wait too long.

x

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Hoping43 · 01/06/2022 08:36

@bluebird2022 sorry to hear that. Is that your 12th month? Do you think you’ll go down the IVF route? We have been advised that it can take up to 2 years and to discuss with the hospital again after 18 months. I feel so heartbroken and like this hardly happens to anyone, why is it happening to me 💔.

not sure where I stand on IVF. I feel there’s a lot of research which suggests that given time most people get there naturally with unexplained infertility but similarly I want to do all I can x

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ladybuggoldfinch · 01/06/2022 06:55

Hi 👋 I've been trying for number 2 for around 18 months. I've had 3 Miscarriages now. It could be age related or thyroid related. I feel so frustrated and sad. We conceived son first month trying so was not expecting such a difficult journey for number two. I'm 41 now so time is definitely ticking 😔

bluebird2022 · 01/06/2022 05:17

Hello Hoping43,

You’re not alone. I’ve just had my anniversary of TTC. And today it was confirmed I have not been successful again. I’m 39 and have a 2 year old who is almost 3, I desperately wanted another baby before my 2 year old turned 3 and I’m not even pregnant.

I’ve had some tests and aside from telling me I’m older and I have a blocked left tube (I paid privately) there is nothing else other than expensive ivf.

Wishing us both better news soon.

x