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How do you deal with the disappointment?

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Lucy304 · 20/05/2022 14:25

Just that really.

AF arrived with a bang this morning, meaning we are now going into cycle 11 of ttc.

Every single month I spot a new 'symptom' or two which convinces me that this is the lucky month, only for it not to be.

We're incredibly blessed to have a 2 yo DD already. She was conceived quickly, and I now realise how lucky we were. But it's just not happening this time and I am feeling very down today.

Any words of advice, support, success stories or positivity would be gratefully received.

Thank you x

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Charl881 · 20/05/2022 20:49

@Lucy304 i know what you mean, I swear pregnancy announcements are everywhere at the moment! Fingers crossed we all get a BFP soon.

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Lucy304 · 20/05/2022 19:07

@tootrueblue @Charl881 thank you so much for your replies, I felt so alone earlier when I posted my message. I'm sorry that we're all in the same crappy boat!
I think CD 1 is probably the worst. DH working tonight so I will allow myself a bit of a pity party and hopefully wake up more positive tomorrow.
@Charl881, I get the distraction thing, I'm trying to do the same. It's hard to get ttc off your mind though. Every time I see a pregnant lady or a newborn, or hear of another pregnancy announcement, my thoughts just go right back to it.
Wishing you ladies the best of luck xx

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Charl881 · 20/05/2022 16:20

No advice but I share your frustrations and disappointment. We’re only cycle 9 of TTC #2. DS is 2 and I really wanted a small age gap. I had a chemical last year when not even trying to stupidly I thought it would be easy.

At the moment I’m trying to book lots of fun summer activities and days out as a distraction but I know it absolutely won’t stop me obsessing in the TWW or being frustrated/ worried/ disappointed when we have another unsuccessful cycle. It just helps give me something to look forward to and at least means I’m not thinking about TTC 100% of the time.

tootrueblue · 20/05/2022 14:32

Hi, I don't really have words of advice, only sympathy! We've been trying for 17 months and I get my hopes up each month - though nowhere near as much as the first 8-9 months. I allow myself the day I started AF to be a bit down and then try and get into the 'new cycle, let's go" mindset after that. I also stop myself from letting my thoughts lead me down the garden path, so to speak. So I try not to imagine getting a positive test or how exciting Christmas might be when I'm x months pregnant. I find for me, it just leads to disappointment and that feels a bit silly when it's self-inflicted!
I've literally collected so many symptoms along the way that I don't trust any of them anymore. I just think we notice our bodies far more when we're TTC so they're not necessarily new things.
So I totally understand how you feel and am right here with you (and everyone else in the same boat!) Flowers