Preparing to TTC in 2022

That's so strange @LemonZestDribbles that you had such a good line yesterday and not today. Fingers crossed you'll get a darker line again this afternoon and it's not a chemical

@HeathenPlayingHouse that's crazy that 6 months is deemed urgent!

@BlueberryMacaron I had horrible morning sickness and was so knackered with my first in the first trimester so if that would ruin it for you then definitely an idea to wait a month, but didn't really kick in until about 5 weeks or so

So I'm definitely over obsessing but I had a temperature drop this morning at 6DPO which I've been Googling all morning as a possible implantation dip, so now there's no hope for me not testing ridiculously early. Hoping temp goes back up tomorrow and stays up. AF due next Thursday (12DPO, short luteal phase) so I will probably cave and test on Monday now at 9dpo 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@LucyLoopyLu I did consider it for a second, but then I realised there's no way we'd be able to afford it.

Last time I saw a consultant privately was simple- I didn't need any tests because the issue was visibly assessed, then straight back on to the NHS waiting list for surgery. This was 15 years ago, and I paid £120.

This time, I'm going to need an examination, blood tests, possibly another ultrasound or maybe even a hysteroscopy. I requested a quote last year while I was waiting for my fibroid scan, and I think just the consultation alone was £250.

After the bills are paid each month, I wouldn't even have enough left to pay for that, let alone the battery of tests needed to figure this out.

I'm miserable, but I can wait. They'll just have to put up with me constantly calling for updates though.

@Heathenplayinghouse
6 months for an urgent appointment 😑 that's so awful. I know it's not ideal but can you afford to see someone privately?
I (grudgingly) paid to see a private dermatologist earlier on in the year and I didn't feel I got my money's worth (because I am tight but haha) but she was a consultant specialist, very knowledgeable, and gave me the answers I needed straight away.

@Organictangerine day 11 is when my test seems to show a surge as both lines strong.. Will keep taking the tests for next few days though as new to them so not sure if reading correctly.. I have googled and apparently it can vary for women and some do ovulate earlier in cycle..

Hi @Jennifer89
I haven't done testing myself but I read quite a lot around ovulation timings and it's v normal to ovulate later or earlier than day 14.
That's why the NHS recommendation is to keep having sex every 2-3 days across your whole cycle, so you're less likely to miss your fertile window.

6 months @HeathenPlayingHouse 😩😩😩 on what universe is that 'urgent'

Is that the day of the surge Jennifer? Or ovulation? O tends to happen the day after you get the surge on the tests. I usually get a surge on day 11 and O on day 12

I have been using ovulation sticks this month and seems I ovulate on day 11. Is that normal? According to app on my phone it should be day 15 🤔

I caved and called the booking office lol. Not laughing now though.

Apparently, even if they agree to an urgent appointment, that's still a 6 month wait. If they keep it as routine, I'll be waiting over a year.

We're so lucky to have the NHS, but it's falling to pieces.

@LemonZestDribbles Fingers crossed for the afternoon! 🤞

Thank you all again, its lovely to have the support on here. I worked out yesterday I've now bleeding/spotting for just over 7 weeks, my fear is finally getting the hospital appointment after it stops and then not doing anything because I'm not actively bleeding. But I'm sure that's just my anxiety making me feel that way.

I'm trying my hardest to wait until Monday to chase my referral up, but I'll probably cave and ring them today haha.

@LemonZestDribbles congratulations and fingers crossed that your line is stronger in the afternoon.

@Amber17 congratulations!

We’ve booked a holiday and have decided to push back trying until October now. I’ve never been pregnant before, but judging by how my body copes with everything else, that’s probably means being sick! This will probably (hopefully!) be our last pre baby holiday so want to have a really good time.

@WingingIt09 11/12dpo and AF due any time from Sunday to Tuesday. If my tests arrive I'll try this afternoon 🤞 with ds I had lovely morning tests so this feels weird

@HeathenPlayingHouse that is absolutely beyond frustrating. They don't seem to be helping you at all :(

@WingingIt09 eeeek that's so exciting!

I got a really good line with a frer yesterday and now nearly back to nothing this morning so feeling very disheartened. I'm hoping I'm just testing better in the afternoon with this one 😩 feel like it was too lucky for cycle 1

@WingingIt09 ah, so exciting! Bet it felt so strange to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing for years.

@Amber17 😂😂 bless him, bet he was hoping to get a bit more 'trying' in

@Amber17 😂 it might take a while to sink in. How did the baby outfit reveal go?

DH is in shock and has gone out for a walk to process it 😂 As far as I can tell, he’s very happy but also slightly gutted that TTC was over so quickly.

@Anonymouslyposting Thank you for the welcome, and also for your view - really helpful. I think current plan is to stick to trying the month before the wedding. Then if it happens, amazing, but if not I will focus on enjoying the day and continue ttc afterwards. As you say, no guarantees!

Tentative congratulations @Amber17 and @LemonZestDribbles, fingers crossed the lines keep getting stronger!

@DesertSnow welcome! I’d want to be either in the first month or after the first trimester to reduce the chance of morning sickness - but no guarantees either way I guess. Good luck whatever you decide.

@WingingIt09 thank you!

@Amber17 and @LemonZestDribbles congratulations, so exciting! Keep us posted on partners' reactions!

@LemonZestDribbles and @Amber17 .. Congrats, how exciting!

@LemonZestDribbles @Amber17 congratulations to both of you such exciting news