🌈 Ttc after miscarriage thread 7 🌈💕🤞✨

@peachiekeen love The Midnight Library!

@calimc83 I also have reflexology! I'm a super stress head so I find it really helps to calm me down and unwind - even if it's only for two hours in a month! 😄

Feeling very sleepy after a huuuuge Sunday dinner. The eating well around ovulation hasn't gone to plan 👀

@bunnykins123 some say it's good for fertility, can help with sperm count in men and hormone balance in women. Good for energy and libido which can't hurt! I've also sworn to try to lay off the alcohol from now and to start yoga etc, hope it helps!

@peachiekeen thank you lovely and enjoy your holiday! I totally agree about being told we're so fertile after MC because now every month that goes by unsuccessful I feel I'm running out of time!

@Tofu35 literally perfect timing! Couldn't ask for a better way to stop me from obsessing. I booked it last min after my last af as I felt so low and just needed something to look forward to and to get some headspace from myself!

@Louisa89614 urgh I hate it when it’s like that! My first one after MC was terrible, totally soaked myself at work ☹️ Hope you’re feeling ok

@peachiekeen oh yes I've read that book too. I'm bad for ruminating over past mistakes so that was a nice book for reminding me that way of thinking isn't useful! I hope your holiday is relaxing, sounds like you picked a good spot in your cycle to go away!

AF also arrived for me yesterday afternoon and is unbelievably heavy - had to have a shower at 2am as had flooded! Mentally feeling ok though. So strange so many of us have somehow synced cycles virtually and is weirdly giving me some comfort!

@peachiekeen I am exactly the same here, messed up cycles ever since MC when I was regular before 😔 and definitely not super fertile like I’m ‘supposed’ to be.

@calimc83 @MrsRosaline yeah that’s true, I don’t think putting it in hours beforehand is necessary even for spontaneity 😂

@bunnykins123 Ahhhgg I’m sorry AF arrived, it’s so crap, only thing to keep positive is it’s a fresh cycle and all 😊

@bunnykins123 good luck in cutting down on the alc! 😫 I never managed that 🙈 xx

@bunnykins123 oh no AF has showed up?? So sorry. I was convinced it was your cycle 😔..I also did reflexology 😂. I tried to focus more on myself this cycle - mindfulness and breathing techniques, as well as doing stuff for 'me' like getting back into horse riding - trying not to make TTC the be all and end all..🙈 so I went for hypnotherapy to help me process my grief and I told her I wanted to relax more and stop obsessing. She really understood as had struggled to conceive as well. Found it super helpful for relaxation and definitely I obsessed less after seeing her. I've used hypnosis before for fear of flying so I know it works. It's really interesting..worth looking into xx

@Tofu35 yay! That's lovely news! I've got everything crossed for you!

@Sassy144 I'm so sorry! I checked in while I'm away to see how you were doing. I'm not 'actively' trying this month and have no real idea when I'm ovulating as my holiday started before ovulation and af is due the day after I get home next Monday so it's a nice mental break away from it all. I know I'll still be gutted when af comes this month though. You can do this lovely. You're stronger than you think. I just read The Midnight Library and honestly it was so lovely and gave me a new perspective on things. Nothing to do with MCs at all. Just a lovely book.

I absolutely hate that everyone gets told how fertile you are after a MC. I also caught first time trying with my first pregnancy in January and the fact it's so hard since the MC suggests the complete opposite. My cycles are SO messed up and I was always so regular before. I'm going to try reflexology for my next cycle. Continue the de-stressing from this holiday. Sending love to everyone who needs it today ❤️

@MrsRosaline so sorry to hear that you've had 2 MC. It's truly heartbreaking isn't it. Xx

@Lizm1990 @Sassy144 mines arrived too 😞 so back to CD1 again!

@Sassy144 what is maca powder supposed to do? I'll try anything! 😂

@calimc83 thanks for the info! I'm defo going to take a leaf out of your book this cycle. How did you do hypnotherapy? Im going to try some yoga too as I do feel my want for another baby is getting the better of me! Im even going up cut down on alcohol this cycle, god help me 🤦‍♀️

@calimc83 @LuckyMoonstone I think you'll always find a reason not to use anything when ttc. I know so many ladies who used preseed with absolutely no issues what so ever!

@Tofu35 huge congratulations really pleased for you 🥰

@Sassy144 sorry AF arrived, mine did too it’s gutting isn’t it? It’s so hard not to get hopes up each cycle.

Well af arrived for me today right on time 😞 am starting to feel really down about it all as we fell first time before which was amazing luck but now each month that passes I feel so disappointed. Bought some maca powder today in desperation haha and ready to try anything that might help our chances if anyone has any suggestions!

@Tofu35 I'm so happy for you congratulations! What lovely news

Early miscarriage in Sep 2021 and then a chemical pregnancy in Jan 2022. We didn't try in Feb as I was devastated to lose a pregnancy twice. So this is the second cycle since. 🤞🏻@calimc83

@LuckyMoonstone I used conceive plus when I conceived my daughter five years ago. I think you're right about the few hours thing. That's why (in the conceive plus) the label says to use 15mins or something before sex. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@LuckyMoonstone I think the article mentioned something along the lines of it affecting mobility after a few hours..but surely u wouldn't use it 2/3hours before u get down to business?? X

@calimc83 yeah I read something recently about pre seed actually having a negative impact, but I’ve got pregnant quickly twice with pre seed! And now I’m still using but scared I shouldn’t be….

@MrsRosaline Good luck! What cycle are u on post MC? Xx

Very exciting @Tofu35 ✨

@calimc83 thanks! I think I'll also ovulate around 16/17. Lots of EWCM today soo 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@MrsRosaline hope that helps as well xx

@bunnykins123 hopefully AF doesn't show up and it may be implantation...so we didn't t use OPKs as I just went with ewcm and when I got my usual chin spots 😂..I really worked on relaxing more - think the hypnotherapy helped with that but appreciate it's not for everyone. After BD I try not to move 😆😆..so we dtd day 10,11, 13, 14, 15, 18. I'm not sure when I ovulated - possibly around 16/17? Oh and I also use pre seed and check my cervix 😬but now they say not to use pressed? Xx

@Tofu35 arghhhhh so so happy for you 🥳 huge congrats xxx