🌈Ttc after miscarriage thread 5 💕✨🤞🌈

Thank you @Skl2021 luckily they did say if you fall pregnant call us straight back. So 🤞
My discharge was just as bad. They were running out of beds and the day after surgery said sorry can you be picked up asap and wait in the EPAU waiting room we need your bed. I would've completely understood someone needed my bed. But to stick me back in the waiting room of the EPAU on a really hard uncomfortable chair the day after surgery was just not on.
I just have to think to myself that my desire for having another child is greater than my fear. And if I give up I'll be plagued with "what ifs"
I've had 3 children with no issues so it CAN happen 💜 and my partner has said that if the same was to happen again. He will do everything in his power to start the IVF process 💜

@aesgriff you're welcome ☺️ yes they are ☹️
Im 6DPO today and temp still going up. I've just told my partner that I'm starting the testing in 2 days as I want to catch it as early as I possibly can and he's supportive. My Medicheck progesterone test is coming today or tomorrow, and will be sent back tomorrow 🤞
Still feeling overwhelmingly anxious. It's weird because I can talk to people I don't know and they can say everything will be fine and relax and that really helps. But when my partner says it I just want to throw him in the dog house 🤦‍♀️ does anyone else find that?

Just checking back in to say hi! @arianasky you can self cert for 28 days now, I was exactly the same as you and the thought of going back to work makes it even worse! My work also mentioned about counselling but I’ve not decided to go ahead with that yet but def would consider it!

Who else is in the TWW? I’m CD26 and I (think) I’m either 8/9 dpo, I only use the CBD so never know whether to count O as the day of peak! But anyway I should be expecting AF Saturday, I’m not going to test at all until at least after AF is due! Although obviously the urge is there I was so upset after the CP last month! X

@HoneyLemon29 that sounds horrific and traumatising 😱 xx

I don’t know what I’d without you all 😭😭

@Skl2021 it’s so frustrating!! Just want to have a ‘normal’ textbook pregnancy with no bleeding 😪 I am planning on telling them when (if) they call that they must think I’m completely neurotic (verging on true) but that I don’t want to be calling them about this and given the choice I wouldn’t be. It’s the cramps for me that are different this time.
How are you feeling? Like you’ve been hit by a bus 🤣 xx

@Sparklesurprise29 welcome back! Xx

@Cruz86 it’s just blood, no mucus 😞. It’s rubbish that you’re still spotting too 😢 what’s yours like? Sending you a get well hug. I had a cold last week and it was terrible xx

@bunnykins123 I’m 5+5 today… I’ve had a implantation bleed already so it can’t be that. Can’t help but think maybe it’s the progesterone but they’re meant to stop bleeding not cause it 😫 xx

@Ganesh2022 thank you, I hope so. Really interesting that you’re a counsellor.. I work within that field and try as I might I can rationalise with myself but then I end up running away with the feelings instead 🤦🏻‍♀️ Xx

@HoneyLemon29 thank you!! I can but try.. it’s the condescending way they speak to you that’s get me 😪 How many dpo are you today? Xx

@Skl2021 yeah exactly. Honestly with my first loss it was just line progression I was worried about. I did ring them and said I've had on and off bleeding and didn't know when my last period was 🤦‍♀️ I was seen and sure enough blood tests confirmed the loss.
With the Ectopic that was a complete shit show tbh. They told me to wait until I was 5 weeks to be seen even though I said I was bleeding. Went to another hospital one night in another county doubled over in pain left sided. Couldn't walk. Sent home after IV pain relief. Went back to EPAU eventually for a scan and Ectopic confirmed and given a Methotrexate injection to dissolve the Ectopic. Few days later I called the ambulance I was screaming in pain. Taken and admitted to hospital and after 2 days of being drugged with oramorph and screaming this pain isn't normal and being told it's normal after the injection, my BP dropped dangerously low and I was found internally bleeding and rushed to theatre having ruptured and 1.5 litres of blood in my pelvis. I still to this day believe there was a fuck up somewhere 🥺 if I fall pregnant this cycle or in the future I will be outside their unit demanding blood tests before 5 weeks x

@skl2021 yep I'm currently 10dpo😵‍💫 at the nail biting stage😅 sending all the love💕 how far on are you?💕

@arianasky definitely 😅 it looks like it peaks out of nowhere then drops gradually as CD17 it was negative but still quite a strong line🤔 I'm going by CD16 as ovulation but it could have easily been CD17🤯

@cruz86 good luck for your scan😍 hoping the week flys by, nothing worse than waiting😬

Hi all. I have been trying to conceive since my MMC September. I am not 15dpo but I have had irregular cycles since my miscarriage. Really don’t want to get my hopes up so waiting until Wednesday to test incase I got my ovulation day wrong - to try and take some stress out I only used OPKs to peak result and didn’t take any after or my temp this month so always a concern ovulation was delayed.

Sending love hope and baby dust to all

@arianasky late ovulation really does suck. You plan absolutely everything on O happening on a certain day to then get nadda in return. Have you got any other signs ie EWCM? I honestly think CB causes more stress (I use it every month religiously though so I'm not one to talk 🙈)

@Cruz86 oh no I'm so sorry you're both poorly - hope your little one gets well soon! DD has a cold too which is absolutely no fun for anyone. How is the spotting? I hope it's easing up a little bit now!

@Skl2021 how are you doing lovely? Are you feeling a bit more relaxed since the scan (sorry if you've discussed this earlier, I'm just catching up!)

@Sparklesurprise29 those are all some very promising symptoms! Sounds like you covered all bases so you really are in with a good chance - keep us updated!

@Cruz86 good luck for Monday 💜 hoping the week flys for you ☺️

@aesgriff sorry to hear about the spotting xx

Maybe take @Skl2021 advice, or maybe say it's for your mental healths sake surely they can't ignore that? X

@Sparklesurprise29 mine was like that last month haha isn't it strange how some peoples surge just comes from nowhere 😂

@Skl2021 thank you 💕 hoping it won't be too long, how are you feeling? Any more symptoms at all?

@calimc83 oh no I'm sorry you're spotting 😞

It's next Monday @HoneyLemon29, only 7 long days to go 😂

Ah thank you @Ganesh2022. I feel so rough and my little boy is ill too so I'm using all my strength to get up and get ready to take him to the drs 😩

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Keeping my fingers crossed for your peak @arianasky! I got mine CD16 in the morning completely out of nowhere🤣 CD15 it was a faint line😅

I hope so @bunnykins123! We managed to dtd on O day and before so fingers crossed🤞 been getting symptoms, bloating, gassy, sore boobs etc. But then that could be because of impending AF! how are you doing?

Thanks @skl2021! How are you getting on with your pregnancy 💕

@Ganesh2022 that's what I was thinking it's still a type of taboo subject where no one wants to talk about it so a counsellor will understand, I'm really thinking about it tbh 💕

@Cruz86 hope you feel better soon

@arianasky I'm a counsellor and have had a f-tonne of counselling over my lifetime lol so I'm biased. I did go back to therapy after the miscarriage and found it really helpful, it also triggered a lot of stuff from the past and it was helpful to talk about it. Between that and this group, it made it more tolerable that sometimes people "in real life" didn't really get it/thought I should move on. I think a lot of it depends on "clicking" with the counsellor and feeling like they get it.

@aesgriff ugh, sorry the bloody spotting is still going. It's so shitty to see it even when you know it can be perfectly fine and normal, I hope the docs take you seriously

@Cruz86 how long have you got left now for your scan x