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Ttc after miscarriage thread 4 🌈💞✨🤞

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Skl2021 · 08/02/2022 18:39

New thread ladies 💞🌈✨

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Vhopeful · 09/02/2022 15:17

This thread does really move fast. I recently found out that a friend of mine is pregnant. We started trying together and they got pregnant the around the time I miscarried, it's progressing beautifully and I am honestly very happy for them. But, when I heard the news, I felt such a heaviness in my chest and felt like throwing up. I put a brave face and congratulated them. But, all those emotions came back to me. I felt horrible for feeling this way since it's good news and I am actually happy for them.. But sometimes reality hits you hard ☹️

Prayingformyrainbow93 · 09/02/2022 15:10

It is! The MW did say the main thing was the BFN which I have now so I’ll see what my OH thinks! I thought I wouldn’t want to try this month but as it gets closer to thinking about ovulation I want to give it another go! I don’t really want to wait another month like you say! Where are you in your cycle now @Ganesh2022 x

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 15:03

@Prayingformyrainbow93 Ugh, it's a hard choice isn't it....we've decided to go ahead and try straight away as the loss was uncomplicated (physically) and I'm 38. For me, that's less stressful than waiting for a period but I can totally see how it could be the other way, or I might feel I wanted a break if the clock wasn't ticking so loudly lol. Also my husband doesn't mind one way or the other so it kinda fell to me to decide, for better/worse.

Prayingformyrainbow93 · 09/02/2022 14:56

Ah that’s positive @Ganesh2022 Thankyou! Not sure whether to “try” again this month or wait until I’ve had a my cycle regulated with an actual AF as I had a MC at 7 weeks in December, didn’t wait and then had this CP so it’s hard to decide! Especially like all of you ladies, all I can think of is being pregnant and having a happy and healthy 9 months! I do love looking at this thread though, you’re all very supportive to one another x

Ganesh2022 · 09/02/2022 14:35

Hi @Prayingformyrainbow93 I know lots of positive stories about people who had babies after chemical pregnancies. I would say of the friends I know well, it's only maybe one or two who haven't experienced something like this before or between successful pregnancies. I also think "back in the day" lots of people wouldn't have known they were pregnant when such an early loss happened, so many have had these without knowing and gone on to carry to term

Prayingformyrainbow93 · 09/02/2022 14:27

Hi ladies! Followed you over to the new thread! Glad to see a lot of you getting your BFPs congratulations! I’ve had my “not pregnant” today after my CP, feels weird to celebrate this but can try to move on again. Has anybody got their BFP after chemical pregnancy or knows any positive stories? I’m scared and anxious about ttc again! Xx

Bundaberg84 · 09/02/2022 14:26

@Cindy974 they can't get any darker than that :)

Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 14:24

@Skl2021 yeah I’m thinking that, need to pull myself together! X

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 13:49

@Cindy974 I think there lovely and strong! Try and step away now as it will only make you worry! My last cheapie tests I took never got a dye stealer it always looked like yours so maybe they don't do it? X

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Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 13:44

Sorry heres the pic

Ttc after miscarriage thread 4 🌈💞✨🤞
Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 13:43

@Skl2021 here are my tests again 🙈

Top one is a 20miu and bottom one is a 25miu, think I was hoping for dye stealers 🤣🙈

arianasky · 09/02/2022 13:43

@Cindy974 yes I think pregnancy after loss is so hard! The first time I was oblivious in a way 😞

Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 13:29

@Cruz86 thank you 💕 it’s hard to relax but I really need to try relax and stay positive, its just so hard but I will get there x

@Skl2021 maybe Ive inputted it wrong, not sure! So will I we are going to have to explain ourselves constantly 🤣

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 13:10

@Cindy974 yes 26 dpo but my app puts me at 5+5? Wonder why it's different 🙈 but IL be a week behind my dates that's the midwife's go off. I should be 7 weeks now according to them! Dreading all the appointments already 😩 xx

@Cruz86 it's honestly terrifying. IV never had anxiety like this. I thought getting pregnant would be that hard past! I am trying to stay positive like you say new pregnancy! Today is just testing me! 🤞 Xx

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Cruz86 · 09/02/2022 13:01

I honestly can't imagine the worry and anxiety you feel when you fall pregnant again after a mc. As much as I really want to be pregnant, this side of things does scare me. Cancelling booking appointments etc brings back bad memories. I hope you're both okay @Skl2021 and @Cindy974. Just remember this is a new pregnancy and what has happened before won't necessarily happen again ❤️❤️

Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 12:54

@arianasky thank you 💕 well I was scouring the internet and saw some people said that but for some people it ended in MC, just dont know what to think 😢 you think your worries will stop once u get the BFP but I just gets worse, hope youre doing okay, your line progression looks really good x

@Skl2021 yeah you did the right thing definitely need to be seen, I’m gonna pluck up the courage and do it soon, are u 26dpo now like me? My flo puts me at 5+4 because i did it from my ovulation date

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 12:43

@Cindy974 I wasn't going to do it yet but if I go from LMP I would be 7 weeks so I know booking appointment wil be very soon so needed to get ready. I don't think I'm having a scan upto now but I change daily on that 😩 unless like you say I bleed or anything xx

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arianasky · 09/02/2022 12:43

@Cindy974 I've seen loads of people take ages to get a 3+ so try not to worry too much 💕

Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 12:28

@Skl2021 bless you, its so hard isn’t it. I haven’t referred myself yet because last time I had to cancel it. But good for you for taking that step and hopefully your first appointment will put your mind at rest? Have u decided on an early scan? Think
If i get to 8 weeks without bleeding I’m going to book one. Sending you lots of positive vibes 💕

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 12:15

@Cindy974 I'm struggling today feel really down. I referred myself today to the midwife so waiting to hear back but now I feel sick and anxious. Like it's all become soo real and I'm not ready? IV been ignoring it for this long and not believing it 😩 trying to snap out of it but it's hard! Xx

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Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 12:06

@Skl2021 I will thank you lovely 💕 how are you feeling?

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 11:36

@Cindy974 exactly hold onto that! 💞 Keep strong let us know when you have done your test! Thinking of you 💞✨ xx

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Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 11:34

@Skl2021 I know I feel so silly 😢 I thought they had yesterday but woke up this morning gagging and feeling sick and still have sore boobs so I’m holding on to that x

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Skl2021 · 09/02/2022 11:32

@Cindy974 I was just about to say try and stop testing it's just going to cause more stress and anxiety 😩 but I understand were your coming from as we have had previous losses. I would also want to test. Have your symptoms stopped or anything unusual? I'm keeping everything crossed for you 🤞✨ xx

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Cindy974 · 09/02/2022 11:29

@Skl2021 no but I’m on my way to town to get some cheap ones… I know I shouldn’t but I can’t help it, I wasnt like this with my other two pregnancies but because my second pg ended in a loss its turned me loopy 🥴 its so hard isnt it x