Ttc after miscarriage thread 4 🌈💞✨🤞

Hi everyone 👋 not long got home after driving most of the day. Will have a proper read later once I’ve had my tea but just wanted to say hey and also that I’ve done another test and the line is darker 🙏🏻 I am still spotting however. Am planning on phoning the docs tomorrow xx

@calimc83 that's fair enough! Hopefully that spot will lead you to another bfp 🤞

@MO22 I usually have a drink then a wee and after that hold for 2-3 hrs without anymore liquids. The longer you can go without a wee, the better!

Ladies, can I just check what everyone means by a "hold" with wee - am I supposed to drink normally and hold it for a few hours, or not drink much and wait a few hours?

@bunnykins123 No not yet...gonna give myself another year TTC and if it doesn't work out I guess it's not meant to be xx

@calimc83 I also know women who have had babies well into their 40s so you shouldn't worry about age!

@calimc83 I'm so sorry 😢 Nothing will prepare you for a MMC. Have you have any checks from the GP etc or just going to keep trying?

@bunnykins123 ahh I see. That's frustrating! Yes I have 2 ( and feel incredibly lucky ) I have a 4yr old and a 2yr old. Both conceived relatively quickly. Then had a MMC in Nov at around 10 weeks. Was such a shock after 2 healthy pregnancies. I've just turned 39! 😭😭 xx

@calimc83 I had a MMC followed by my DD and have been trying since Aug last year (fell pregnant 3/4 months trying which is pretty impressive!) but I just can't keep them - sob 😢 I think deep down, I'm really hurting but I can't do anything as neither the GP or the clinic will touch me until 1 cycle after miscarriage. So it's false optimism until then 🤞I worry about age too but have been reassured that I'm not that old (thanks very much 🙄). How about you? Do you have any kiddos?

@bunnykins123 ohh I'm so sorry to hear you're going through your 3rd chemical. Have u spoken to the GP at all? I definitely need some of your optimism. Been such a Debbie Downer, I worry about my age a lot...Yeah my DH always knows when it's a good day when the sexy camisole comes out 😆😆...I never get ovulation pains but always that damn spot! 😩 x

@calimc83 ah me too. In the same place. Every.single.month! At my age, I should have glorious skin but it seems like I've gone back to being a teenager again 🤷‍♀️ glad I'm not alone with the 1 hormonal spot at ovulation! I also get really quite sore at ovulation pains too.

I'm CD4 - just going through my 3rd chemical which is just horrible but I'm optimistic (you've got to be, right?!) so I'll probably be gearing up next week to be all glam and sexy for DH 😉 yeh I seem to get globs of the stuff a few cycles and others absolutely nothing 🤷‍♀️

@bunnykins123 what cycle are u on and are u in the 2WW?! I can't keep up with everything at the mo 😆 x

@bunnykins123 yeah I used to get loads but last few cycles it's been a bit skant. Also get a lovely ovulation spot as well 😂 x

@arianasky I am so sorry, thinking of you 💕

So sorry to see this has happened to you again @arianasky ♥️

@Skl2021 oh I can but he would totally suss me out when going to the bathroom - those OPKs are an absolute pain to open subtly!

@calimc83 that's true. I think I continue with them as once I've got that peak, I know I can finally chill out and throw back on the old pjs for another month 😂 that sounds like you have it covered! Do you get EWCM? I feel like that's a pretty good indicator too!

@arianasky I'm so so sorry to hear this. Sending you big big hugs 💕

@arianasky sending a big hug, look after yourself x

@bunnykins123 yeah I had a feeling it was every other day...can defo fit in a sesh tomorrow (DH working tonight) then he's off Tues, Weds, Thurs. possibly ovulate Thurs so when else should I squeeze it in?! 😆...have used OPKs in the past but don't think they help my obsession! X

So I took a FRER when it arrived and there was the smallest faint line, I'm now cramping and brown tinged discharge. So it's official even though I knew. Im going to take the day off here today and I'll be back soon, thank you for your support ladies ❤️

@Skl2021 you're right, it's such a turn off 😂 he can't avoid it as our bathroom is filled with tests so he knows it's coming. That really must add to the stress, poor lad. I probably need to change my tactic to make him feel a little less pressure... 🙈

@MO22 YES! And even I get a bit like 'hurrrrry up, I'm so done with this'. Is that awful to admit 😂 I use the smileys too and my last cycle I had 9 flashies. I was absolutely loosing my mind by the time we actually got the static. It really does feel like years! I've had 3 chemicals in 4 cycles (sob) and I always get stupidly long fertile period and EWCM so it's actually impossible to know when I'm about to get my peak. So every other day / 3 days it is for us.

Good luck testing tonight!! I think we have a few testers today 🤞🤞🤞

@bunnykins123 so true, I used the flashy smileys for the first time last cycle and kept being like, this is really the day we MUST do it, wait no, THIS is the day we must do it... Actually I've got it wrong, it's now. By the end of it he was like, why is your fertile period FOUR YEARS LONG. It all got a bit much haha at least I can laugh about it now, at the time I was a woman possessed...

@Skl2021oh that really helps, thank you! Maybe I will try after a hold this eve, or tomorrow... 🤞🏼