Ttc at 40!!!

@Jellyfishjean wow, I'm 41 two weeks tomorrow and hadn't known that about the chance each month!

I've been trying for a 2nd for 7 years. Over 40 we have a 5% chance per menstrual cycle. Better than zero I suppose!

Hi everyone, can I join in?
I am 40, and ttc. My son is nearly 17 so we have been trying for another baby for roughly 15 years! I can’t remember the exact time we started (it is a long time ago!), but I know my son was about 1.5-2 years.
I think now I have turned 40 I have started to panic thinking that it is never going to happen now but I still really really hope!
I also have PCOS and some other health problems which increase the risk of miscarriage :(
It’s great to read that some of you are over 40 and have fallen pregnant, it gives me a bit of hope xxx

@Nik84 1st period 12 days? Woooh. Do you think that it was that long and that much because you still had your uterine lining to shed? Sorry I didn't realise your post was back in early february. MC is a very painful and at times isolating experience. I don't know why it isn't talked about more in real life. Could help us all in handling it better and knowing what to expect etc Wish you well. x

@mrsmb03 yes the miscarriage is over. So many ups and downs since. Thinking yes I want to try, but then too scared. I’ve had my first period since and it lasted 12 days! I started to worry but everything was ok. Wr need to start trusting in our bodies. I’m so sorry you are in the same situation. Brighter days are ahead xxx

@mumpea thank you for your kind words, means a lot. x

@Nik84 I'm exactly the same. Surprised and was shocked too.10 weeks and lost last week as well. I am 42 and also scared to try again. I'm so sorry for you loss. Is the MC finished or are you still recovering. I am still recovering. I had fever last night called 111 they gave me antibiotics but I will try and have appointment with GP tomorrow for check up. ..

Hello,
Introducing myself here :) I’m 41 and we are etc after a vasectomy reversal (6+m ago) neither have had kids and I’m now doing the clear blue ovulation tests but fear we may have left it a bit late. Anyway, preparing for a bumpy ride :/ hope everyone is doing well, what a strange place this is (where I am not this page) I’ve never really thought about my fertility so much before and it’s making me very aware of my body and life in general.

@mrsmb03 so sorry to hear of your loss prayers for you xx

Hi I am 43 and currently pregnant with my second 23 weeks. I had my first DS at 41. I took folic acid before trying and cut back on drinking and caffeine. It look a while to conceive with the second pregnancy but also convince my DH! About 10 months I was convinced it wouldn't happen.
It's been a good so far just chasing after a toddler is exhausting. I now take pregnancy vitamins just Asda own I checked with my midwife they have all the correct vitamins but are cheaper. Hope that helps anyone trying and the best of luck to you all

@ukborn thank you so much for sharing, it is so nice to hear your and your friend's story. It gives me hope! I have been trying to conceive for the last 2 years. I am 42. Sadly, we suffered pregnancy loss last week. Was there anything that you have done to prepare yourself for a successful pregnancy? x

@Yellowsubhubabubbub thank you, I was using the clear blue ovulation tests and then stopped, thinking of starting them again. That's good that your fit bit does that isn't it? Hubby was taking wellman vitamins as well so will ask him to start them again, I've been taking high dose folic acid, vitamin E, omega fish oil, vitamin C with zinc and have got seven seas trying for a baby. Concerned that doing all this is a waste of time as my periods seem to be a lot lighter so that makes me think the lining is not thick enough for an egg to implant.

@Lauraliverpool I actually didn’t use strips - I had been inputting my cycle into my Fitbit! And it told me my fertile days
Must’ve worked !
I tried before the “fertile days” too as the sperm can be there a while? Maybe the middle 3 days .every day ?
But quite honestly, I think it was just keeping regular.
And DH took conception vitamins too so he was tip top.
Best of luck to you

I got married at 40, had my first at 41 second at 43, conceived after about four months trying each time. I'm certainly not the oldest mum - a friend had her first (snd last) at 46 - she married at 29 and took a 'if it happens it happens' approach, so was surprised it did after so long waiting! Another at 45 after being told her age and PCOS made it extremely unlikely she would get pregnant so she relaxed her birth control then boom. Several more in early 40s, only one with any assistance (IVF).
So you never know. I was dead regular with my periods and that made it easier to know fertile window.

www.healthymummy.com/spotting-cramping-discovered-symptoms-low-magnesium-levels/

Low Magnesium is also associated with higher risk of miscarriage, as is low Vit D.

I’m 39 and have no DC but would love 1 (or 2) but I have Tokophobia due to previous abuse, I don’t see how I can ever do it 😔

Also the thyroid can cause issues, IIRC. But try Magnesium, it’s required for 300 body processes, it’s like a miracle supplement and most people are deficient due to low levels in soil. Selenium is v important too, and anti carcinogenic.

@Yellowsubhubabubbub can I ask with the ovulation tests, did you wait until you got your high days to start, and then when you got the peak when did you stop?

@IsabelHerna that's ok! ♥ It's okay I didn't think it would be! I've never seen this clear blue lubricant, supposed to be sperm friendly etc, opposed to normal lubricants which can damage sperm etc. Thought I'll give them another go!

@Lauraliverpool Thank you so much for your message, and I'm sorry this wasn't your month. ❤ The tube sounds interesting, even though I trully have no idea what that might be 😅 But if you can use both the tube and the ovulations sticks go for it.

@Sunnierdays7 with my first two pregnancies, yes very sick - throwing up at least twice a day and one of those babies is now three years old and i lost the other. With the last three pregnancies, nausea but not actually throwing up and one of those is my current pregnancy so I'm not sure there is a link between viability and level of sickness in my case at least.

@Mattieandmummy your journey is very similar to mine. I am 42 and about 4 weeks. Very anxious. Did you get a lot of sickness ? X

I had my first at just 37 and am almost 21 weeks with my second at 40 and I have had 3 miscarriages along the way, the first was at age 35. I am lucky and conceived very very quickly with all those pregnancies but sadly lost a fair few of them too.

I was 38 when DC was born.
Was a bit more dicey, I’ll be honest.
We tested high for Downs So we’ve decided not to have any more,as we feel this was us sneaking a healthy baby in already.
I tracked my ovulation and had sex every other day. Took us about 4/5 months.