9 months+ trying to conceive, still losing hope, still trying

@Carla2601 woo! Such amazing news! 15 is like the perfect number. Are you transferring this cycle? When is the next update? So pleased for you and enjoy the rest of the day. Well done you!!

@lemons44 haha ikr! I didn’t wake up to lots of tinned goods and baked bread but you can’t win them all! 😂.

@Tinkerbell098 tysm!

All it was totally fine - I have no pain, no bleeding and no drowsiness, honestly felt like I could have gone to the office (don’t worry I didn’t) but wanted to share in case anyone else goes this route, hoping to reduce some of the anxiety around it. And I PROMISE I’m not sugar coating I’m being completely honest. To now it’s been really straightforward and not even a tenth as bad as I was expecting.

In other good news, I got 15 eggs!!! So many more than I was hoping for. So I had a relieved cry about that and I feel really happy with the result. Of course they might not be mature/fertilise/make it to day 5 so there’s a long way to go but it’s absolutely the best outcome I could have hoped for so I’m relaxing on the sofa watching MAFS Australia and Below Deck and sending positive fertilisation dust to my little crew in the lab.

Thank you all again - you’ve really really helped me and your messages really made me feel good and made me less nervous x

@Carla2601 thinking of you lovely!! Hope it all went smoothly and you've got a nice relaxing evening planned xxx

Hope all is going well @Carla2601

Also the Harvest Festival really made me laugh! I have this image of you wearing a stereotypical farmers check shirt and straw hat whilst it's being done

Let us know how it goes

@BritInNZ @FlyOnTheWall89 @NatW2021

TYSM for your lovely messages - just at the hospital waiting to go on. I’ll send you and update on the process later….hopefully it’s as smooth as the other bits have been.

Hope you all have lovely days. Baby dust as always x

@Carla2601 THINKING OF YOU TODAY! Hoping everything goes well. 💕

@Carla2601 - sorry misses your earlier post! Good luck tomorrow, will be thinking of you 💗 xx

@Tinkerbell098 with the NHS contact PALS from the hospital you’ve been referred to and complain - also send emails and be clear the mental toll it’s taking on you. Mines also really slow but those things have helped.

Thank you everyone for the well wishes. The harvest festival (as I’m calling it to make it sound jolly) is the next step and I’ll be up at 5am making my way through London so send me good vibes over brekkie 😂

@lemons44 my understanding (which is limited) is that it doesn’t matter where in your cycle you are - I had to have mine on cycle day 2 (grim!!) they just want to see baseline number of follicles (it’s similar to AMH) which I guess are there the whole time because they just grow whenever - don’t get FSH then go to waste because they aren’t the chosen egg that month (you produce loads all the time but your body picks one).

I’ve had 6 of them as part of my treatment and it doesn’t hurt or anything so try not to worry too much on that front - less bad than a smear for sure

Sorry I really didn't make it clear in my post that I am referring to the scan 🙈 the receptionist said it's an internal one

And welcome @KatieLooLa

Hope your collection goes well @Carla2601

Glad you're feeling better today @BritInNZ

In my fertile window here. Keeping everything crossed that cycle number 12 is our lucky one.

For the ladies who have had scans done as part of the initial fertility tests, can I please ask some questions?

We have our fertility tests booked the day before my AF arrives. I'm a bit worried I may be spotting by then.. or even have AF if it arrives a day early. Do you think this would cause an issue (aside from me feeling a bit embarrassed?)

Also I have booked this initial fertility testing package but to be honest I don't really understand what the scan is for 😂 is it just checking for cysts?

@Tinkerbell098 - i know i was shocked just hope its not long waiting times for consultation as the first appointment is with.a nurse. A year seems a long time, so frustrating! Are you waiting on a follow up for IVF?

How is the gym going? I WFH aswell but actually been eating better as there isnt a vending machine to hand but also put weight on over lockdown.

Bet you cant wait for your hols! I am really looking forward to lying on a beach for two weeks x

@NatW2021 4 months isn't bad at all. It's now been 8 months since referral for me and still nothing! I was told it'll take a year. I'm also in the process of trying to lose some weight. The pandemic hasn't been good for me as I've been WFH for over two years now, so very limited movement. I've started gym now so have been going about 3-4 times a week. At least it's something else to focus on other than TTC. We've also booked a holiday in just over two weeks time and really looking forward to it :)

@Pineappletarts - thanks 😊 they maybe able to do everything other than ivf so definitely worth a go.

@Tinkerbell098 - 4 months - not long, i was expecting longer so a nice surprise this morning. I think i am glad to just get some specialist advice and support as i haven't really done that yet and also just to get in the system and get the ball rolling. Hopefully this will give me the kick up the bum to lose this weight, if AF shows on monday i am booking my holiday so at least there is something to look forward to! X

@Carla2601 12 days don't seem bad at all! Hope work is not too stressful and will help keep things off your mind for a bit. Are you taking the whole day off tomorrow?

@NatW2021 that's great news your appointment has come through. How long have you had to wait to hear back? I wonder if it's just my area that is extremely bad in terms of backlogs and giving appointments. I can't even ring the clinic as the phone number is either always busy or puts me through to voicemail and they never call back even if you leave messages. So annoying!

Thanks @Carla2601 and well done on your injections so far 💪 Thank you @NatW2021 too! I also have an NHS referral at end of month but as I already have a DC they are unlikely to do much I think :-/ Best of luck with yours and yes being proactive and trying to get into shape can only help us I think, plus good mentally too x

@Carla2601 - thats great news! I am glad you are finding the process is going smoothly, what are your next steps?

@Pineappletarts - great news on you LP, hopefully will help things along 😊 hope the Hycosy goes well next week.

I am 9dpo and starting to get twinges and my BBT is looking pretty standard to all the other months so no doubt another cycle on the bed post! I suppose on a positive note i got my appointment through foe the NHS fertility clinic today, its in 3 weeks time, not sure what will happen initially but hoping i can get booked in for some repeat/further bloods tests/hycosy but just got a feeling they will tell me to lose weight which i am really going to try now im in the system

@Tinkerbell098 so in total 12 days so not too bad at all! I’ll be in the office till 10 in order to quietly be missing tomorrow so not quite the fun night of freedom I had planned haha.

How are you?

@Carla2601 amazing! Well done for getting through them all. How many days in total were you on stims? Enjoy the jab free day and all the best for tomorrow. Fingers crossed for you xx

May I join?

Been trying for 2+ years. Today is another failure (AF decided to show her ugly face).
I can't say I've tried religiously as my partner and I have conflicting schedules and some months we don't try at all.

Still though, I'm fed up of not getting anywhere so I'll be making an appointment with the doctor to see if there's anything more going on and see what options we have.

Wishing baby dust to all x 👶🏼✨

@BritInNZ well done - it’s mentally so tough I know, glad you’re feeling a bit better today.

Trigger also fine - 21 jabs down, one egg collection incoming tomorrow morning!! Will give you another update then but so far so straightforward. Time consuming, a bit boring having to come home every night for 7, but nothing awful at all I promise.

@Pineappletarts welcome back and good luck next week!

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been on in a while. Tried to take a break from the thinking about it all tbh. No news from me other than still no spotting before periods, either due to my daily 1000mg vit c dose or new multi vit with Iron. This is the third month of those supplements after almost two years of pre period spotting so can't be a coincidence? Also booked a private Hycosy next week just to check stuff out and see what's happening as we are 15 months in. Hope everyone else is hanging in ok..Nice to see some positive steps with ongoing treatments/ IVF and sending good vibes to you all xx