Temping buddies 9 - New year, new start, new bfp's please

lol - that should say 'gap' rather than ' gasp', which is still kind of appropriate!

hiya ready - well, i have 3 children already and it goes like this;

dd - 16 years old
ds1 - 11 years old
ds2 - 8 months old!

as you can see, there's a gasp between our littlest abd the older two - dh needed 10 years of persuasion before he would agree to number! since having our littlest, our lives have been so enriched and we've been so haapy and we wonder (or rather dh does) why we left it so long. i would like to have one more child to complete our family but, as i'm 39 years old now, i feel that time isn't on my side. we've talked about ttc again and dh is not against this time - he is supportive of my charting etc and has agreed thar once we sell up and move, we can try again. we're also getting some pracrice in now - i feel that at 39, i can't really take any of my cycles for granted.

when we started ttc our littlest, i went to see my gp for advice. he told me to expect at least a year of trying and that i may not be able to conceive at all, given my age. he said that i would not be eligible for any fertility treatment should i have problems because of my age and the fact that i already have children, which is fair enough i think. luckily for us, it only took 3 weeks to conceive!

i'm now in my 5th cycle of charting this time around but most of that has been about monitoring whether my body and cycle are returning to their pre-pregnancy ways of operating rather than actively ttc. my body is just about on an even keel now so i feel like this is the start of ttc, rather than when i started charting again back in august, iyswim.

minxi- 9 months is average, with I think a year around that being normal variance. I was taking depo because of breastfeeding, but now that I want to conceive, and knowing that it can contribute to bone degeneration, I kind of wish I'd never used it.

RahRah- I'm finishing my BA (majoring in Psych and Comparative religion). I really miss it, and am really looking forward to going back, but also wondering how I'll strike the study/mummy/wife balance.

RE everyone moving house- maybe we're all prematurely nesting. We just moved country, and I'm trying to turn my mother's whole house around!!

Oh yeah... forgot to say, I tried the pill when I was 17, but I didn't react well, dizzy spells and the like, so that put paid to that. And to think how much we spent on condoms over the years - might have been pointless

PMSL at Rah's suggestion

FP Forgive me, I am about to be incredibly nosy - Are you ttc your first? How old are you? You said something about "at your age" so got me wondering. Oh, and why won't your PCT help if you need intervention?

It's really funny how many people on this thread have been moving house isn't it. Like we are all strangely drawn together.

Lots to do, should stop posting on here

I'm another one who's never used any form of contraception other than condoms (I tried the pill once many years ago and stopped after a short while - it turned me into an emotional basketcase the size of a house!) and not even a hint of conception so far. Mind you, we're not going hell for leather at it just yet as we're supposed to be selling our house and moving before we ttc properly. It doesn't hurt to get some practice in though and at my age, you can't really take any of your cycles for granted.

I've noticed that my temps so far this cycle have slowly dropped over the last few days instead of dropping steeply on CD1 s they usually do. God, I hope my innards are still working. I already know that my PCT won't offer me any assistance if it turns out I need it.

ummmmmm, that is interesting.....
maybe we should both go on the pill and miss taking a couple in conjunction with a one night random drunken sex session with a stranger and maybe we will catch. Not sure what DH's will say but I'm getting desperate!

All talk and no action, you and me Minxi

Rah - it's really funny that you say that, I haven't ever been on the pill, and I thought that would be a good thing fertility wise, but it hasn't seemed that way! The people I know on the pill for over 10 years both fell really quickly!

bcsnowpea don't know much about depo I'm afraid.... In fact me and DH have never used contraception, except in the early days when we used a condom. I might have more joy if I was on the pill...
Everyone is different, so you never know it could be quicker than you think. What are you studying?

bcsnowpea I only asked as I was on depo for a year and my last injection was Nov 2004 - periods back to normal July 2006 and been ttc since with no joy but have read that it can take up to aything from 9 -24 months for fertility to return back to normal so I'm hoping as I know I was ovulating since nov 2006 that it will be one day beansprout on another thread - I think she got pg within the year after depo... so you never know!

Ready I still haven't called reflexologist and am also wondering accupuncture ?!! must call want to call to get an appointment tomorrow just before ov

What a lovely situation to be in

Thanks for the welcome.
minxi- yes I am on depo. DH is a pharmacist and pointed out that it takes on average 9 months for fertility to return. All the research I've done pretty much confirms this. We'd like to have dc2 soon after ds's 2nd b-day (he's almost 14 months), but I'm also studying this year, so in theory we're not in any rush. However, I've been broody for the last 14 months, so it's on my mind .
Anyway, no harm in trying!!!

If I were you I would definitely speak to your GP about the bruising and the clotting. And treat that as a separate issue. Because if you were not ttc that would still be a concern, wouldn't it. And the fact that you are ttc and your complications with Bertie should mean that they bend over backwards to sort you out!!

Sorry just realised I went on about myself when I was actually meant to say, you have made a wise decision on the specialist front and just giving yourself some time. The stress of the last few months is probably now lifting and if it does not happen in the next few months I would contact the specialist again. Would you have to change hospitals?

I have to say I found acupuncture better than reflexology for results.

You never know you might get lucky on the doctor front. I've just moved doctors and I'm hoping that we will see a difference in the service. The hospital have put me on aspirin in case I conceive (fat chance) but I'm not sure its having the desired effect. I really suffered from a lot of clots this month and the aspirin is meant to thin the blood. Do you think I should try and raise this with the doctors again? Even though they are saying they don't know what the problem is??? Also I have been getting lots of bruising... Do you think I should go and have a word with my GP rather than the hospital?

Well Rah, the last time we saw the consultant, he said come and see him in another 6 months. But since then we have had all the upheaval, and so we have decided to lay low medically for a while, and as soon as we are a little more settled we will start the ball rolling again. I doubt I will get a GP anywhere near as good as the one I had before, which is a shame. But fingers crossed for someone a little understanding

Crossed with you Minxi - everything you said is right. I'll have a think about it. Chocdays on another thread suggested acupuncture, which is something else that I have been thinking about. Note to self: Must really stop thinking about these things, and start doing!

Morning lovely people....

Minxi - sorry your DH is ill.... what a nightmare! This time of the year is a pain for flu and colds... touch wood we have been clear of any so far.. Please tell him not to sneeze this way. Have fun with the school run..

Ready - As a reflexologist they consider themselves to be in a similar profession to health care professionals so should have the same principles of confidentiality. So she should be fine. When are you next seeing your consultant?

Rah - Go Isabella Go I think you are right about my family friend, she does like a gossip, but I doubt that she would be like that about my personal situation. Definitely something to think about.

Welcome aboard Eleveld and bcsnowpea - I second what Rah says, ask anything and we will do our best to help you out.

I've been trying a fair while now, so have done my share of researching the subject

FP - cd3 LP13
Rah - cd4 LP
Minxi - 35.69 cd9 LP14 ttc 17th cycle
Ready - cd14 LP12

Welcome to Eleveld and bcsnowpea....good luck with ttc....

snowpea - is it the depo contraceptive you were going to stop ?

Ready Like Rah I would want complete confidence of confidentiality - especially if it is not common knowledge - most people I know do know that I want another baby but it is not talked about in an every day conversation - as its been 3 years people just occasionally ask am I still trying and I say yes - otherwise one of my friends may see me on cd1 - and I might then end up in floods of tears in front of them - which I hate doing so do try to avoid the talks too.... I just want to be able to say today is the day I got a bfp!!! and obviously for those who haven't had their first its worse... so for you make sure you discuss it first or find someone who doesn't know you - which in some ways is more refreshing as you can just talk away...

Rah hope Isabella becomes real...roll on the 9th January...x

Anyway girls I must get of mn my boys back to school today and I must get house cleaned!! DH off sick with flu thing now - what is going on ?!!! This is my year to definitely focus and sickness and pain is not going to stop me!!!

Welcome Eleveld & bcsnowpea, I hope your TTC path is a short one. Just ask anything if you want any info and we will try our best to help.

Ready... A reflexologist should be a professional and therefore not disclose any information given to them. Its a good idea to go with a treatment with some one you trust and can confine in. Is she this kind of person or do you think she is too much of a gossip? If you do decide to go with her I would re-enforce the fact that it is completely confidential.

Just booked in for my next scan and they will start scanning on the 9th.... fingers crossed. The egg this month has been called Isabella..

Same here!

Have just started trying and, before reading this site, had no idea about best time of the month, signs to watch for etc etc.

Obviously getting pregnant is not as easy as I thought! Have spent years trying to avoid it and am now desperate for it to happen!

Hi everyone!
Not yet officially trying (due for next contraceptive shot on the 5th -although obviously not having it), but thinking about it a lot.
Very happy to have found this thread - hope I can join you all in conceiving in '08 !!!

How about FurPost perhaps not. FurPo ??

Shortening my name is a good idea but not so sure I want to be known as 'furtive' - sounds a little bit dodgy!

Best stick with FP, I reckon!