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TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

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hester · 17/11/2004 08:18

Here we go! Thread 14 for the nicest bunch of women on Mumsnet

Thread 13 was very joyful and very painful for me, but what it has shown me is that even old warhorses like me can get lucky, so there's no excuse for all you nubile young honies not to deliver the goods! Come on now, Mama Hester expects you to do your duty by your fellow ttc-ers

Get ready now, 1 - 2 - 3, GO!!!

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hester · 01/12/2004 16:16

or BDing?

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hester · 01/12/2004 16:14

This thread is spookily quiet today. Are you all eating chocolate?

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hester · 01/12/2004 13:28

Afternoon all.

Velcrobott - I was so sorry to read your post; that must be very worrying for you. Did your doc give you any idea of how much this will compromise your fertility, or is that for later discussion/investigation? I thought your post was very brave, given how shocking this news must have been. I have a friend who completed her menopause in her early 30s; she did already have children, like you, which was a great comfort but I know many people reacted like it didn't really matter, when it did matter, terribly. I do hope that it turns out to be not as bad as you must be fearing. Lots of love and hugs to you.

Tania and Hula, hugs to you too. Hula, this must be doing your head in, you poor thing.

Jedds - I think I'm ovulating because on Monday I started feeling a bit coming-up-to-ovulationish (amorous twinkle in my eye, watery cm) so I started doing OPKs. My persona wasn't any use because it hasn't adjusted to my new cycle yet, but I supplemented with others and bingo. Having said which, the line wasn't quite as strong or lasting as I would have liked, but beggars can't be choosers and I would happily have got on my knees and begged to ovulate this month. I am DESPERATE to be pg again; am going to have to manage my expectations downwards - keep reminding myself that Mother Nature doesn't care whether I deserve to get pg or how much I want to be pg. But I'm very glad to have this opportunity; would have found it hard to have waited weeks before my next chance to try again.

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cockenzie · 01/12/2004 12:43

Anyone out there up in Scotland?

cockenzie · 01/12/2004 12:42

Thanks Ernest

Advice is very comforting.I must say that i am struggling with the abbreviations.
Its amazing the amount of people out there who got same or worse problems and I thought i was the only one !!

But its also very helpful and i learn a lot from all your difficulties.

Hollybaby · 01/12/2004 12:23

Cheers Geordie. Feel in limbo - to test or not to test? Don't wwant the disappointment I guess, but no that I will get that once Af arrives anyway. Trying really hard not to read to much into it yet as not that later really. But it is so hard to concentrate on anything else!!!

I am going mad LOL

geordie · 01/12/2004 12:19

well if temps still up then I think a boots test or a clearblue would be pretty accurate!!

I always try to wait for 16 high temps past ovulation....but I would test cos then you can have a good drink......

lots of people get +ives at 10 dpo

you never know sending you lots of baby dust *

Hulababy · 01/12/2004 12:02

So, you reckon if AF hasn't arrived by Friday morning would it be too early to test (be about 15DPO)? Going out to MN meet on Friday night - need to know if can drink

Feel sick just thinking about it all now. LOL!

geordie · 01/12/2004 09:15

Morning all,

((tania)) ((hula))

Hula- I know ff didn't detact but I think that you could have o'd on cd17.....so If you get to 16 dpo you really should test (3 days time- if you don't before then) just in case.

As for me getting usual cramps for 9dpo temp still up but not feeling hopeful...

I am wondering about temping but not putting the data into fertility friend until af arrives next month to see if relaxing a bit helps......I don't know

Tania2 · 01/12/2004 09:02

Oh hula this must be so frustrating for you.

Hulababy · 01/12/2004 08:58

I do still have backache though, in lower back. AF symptom? or my dodgy mattress?

Hulababy · 01/12/2004 08:40

Temp rise today . Messed up yesterday's temp though.

Hulababy · 01/12/2004 08:38

CD30. No AF yet. Not sure what to think. FF says I didn't OV this month. had strange cramping pains, but higher than normal AF pains (or am I kidding myself???) more like all over areas - a bit like the very very early signs of labour was like if that makes sense. Temp went up today, but then I have had highish temps during AF a bit too.

Argh!!!!!!

ernest · 01/12/2004 08:12

depends what you mean by 'messes up' - if you mean stops altogether, then no, esp not if not fully b'feeding - my ds2 is living proof. If you mean makes irregular, than maybe, but even if you're not b'feeding not can be irregular anyway, which is why so many women spend so much on opk's and persona. your other thread seems to answer the q. if you're still not convinced then maybe you need to speak to your doctor and/or consider weaning your lo, but as your periods have returned I don't see that as necessary. loads of people conceive while still b'feeding.

My dh finds it incredibly offputting, to the point of offensive if he's presented with anything like 'this is the right time/now i'm ovulating/now we must bd' sounds like your dh is similar. I don't see it as a problem monitoring your fertility without involving him, why rub his face in something he's not comfortable with. if you happen to know you're at a fertile time you can just try to get him in the mood without bringing up the whole ttc thing.

cockenzie · 01/12/2004 07:14

None of you think then that breastfeeding messes up ovulating?

cockenzie · 01/12/2004 07:12

Anyone out there who knows they have to go according to ovulating time but hubby doesnt believe in al that scientific stuff and thinks it will happen when it happens? Why do we make it so hard to fall pregnant?

Tania2 · 01/12/2004 04:32

S**t that was a long message sorry.

Tania2 · 01/12/2004 04:31

Gee you girls can talk. Just caught up on the post so here goes....
ernest my op is on the 15th of Dec fingers crossed it works have given up on the natrapath stuff will take the herbs after the op it may help never know will try anything.
Welcome Greenbug, mikejon and cockenzie and good to see you about nasa.
Hula still no af could be promising will be logging in tonight to see if you have tested yet stay strong girl
Jeddah thanks for thinking of me iam feeling very low atm but i could also just be PMS very stressed out atm dh is in the process of starting new buisness and not really getting any income well just enough to cover our mortage and car repayment. living off spag bol atm. anyone know of any low fat budget meals??? So jeddah a holiday at your farm would be great you might get a big post pack at your door soon
Velcrobott sorry to hear your news is it that for sure or is the dr just asuming? What is a womb message???
munnzieb may have to consider that option you suggested incase iam still bleeding not really my thing but could be a good shot at getting pg thou and as i said i will try anything. thanks for asking about ds. he has turned into a spoilt little boy atm thinking everyday is his b'day went to a friends house today for her ds b'day and ds got so upset when his friend opened his present cause he thought it was for him. been in time out alot since Sunday and it really does work. Oh and the weather....its now pissing down but thats Melbourne for ya. we need the rain though. You know it was the same to the day when ds was born hot when i was having him and while i was in hospital then the day we came home it pored.
Marinda hope your ds is feeling better soon. ((HUGS))) to him and you.
Yingers74 IKWYM about the pressure bd puts on our dh/dp my dh really struggled this month we only had one successful bd not having any luck pulling through with the goods (pardon the punt)(is that the saying???) so if i fall pg this month i would be a but then again i dont think we had done much bd when we conceived ds dh was away alot during the weeks just really lucky i suppose. Gee we are so lucky to have him thank god!
AF due between 7 - 9 days time not feeling anything every other month i have had sore boobs, cramping, sick and everyother pg symptom by now but not this month proberly cause i know it is impossible to be pg this month. will be dropping off dh swimmers sample in the morning should know the result in a couple of days or maybe even 24 hours it should be interesting.
Hope you are all well dont get to catch up much anymore with the time difference it is making it very hard.

colinsmommy · 30/11/2004 22:14

It wouldn't hurt to try.

kizzy212 · 30/11/2004 22:12

well i thinks thats what im gonna do?

munnzieb · 30/11/2004 22:06

anything's worth a shot kizzy.

kizzy212 · 30/11/2004 22:05

LUCKY FOR YOU!

WE HAVE FAMILY BUISNESS AND HE STILL DOESNT COME HOME FOR LUNCH. I HAVE EVEN OFFERED ALL SORTS OF STUFF LADIES SHOULDNT OFFER UNLESS HAVING TWO BOTTLES OF WINE, AND STILL NO JOY.

I THINK I AM MAKING THE WRONG DECISION IN INVOLVING HIM IN THE OVULATION AND TIMING. IF NOT POSTIVE IN 1 1/2 WEEKS THEN I AINT GONA TELL HIM AND TRY TO MAKE IT LESS OVBIOUS. WHAT YOU RECKON???

colinsmommy · 30/11/2004 21:59

I know what you mean about DH and being tired. This time of year he works 12+ hours a day and is very tired. However he only works about 2 min from home, and comes home for lunch. Fortunately, it is DS naptime, so I make sure lunch is ready when he comes home, so he has time to do other things during lunch. or should it be ?

kizzy212 · 30/11/2004 21:49

what am im i on about hopefully i will be preganant this time in two weeks. i wont be sad and write the excatly time and mins till i test.

lmao

kizzy212 · 30/11/2004 21:47

lmao. i know what can i do?

we are having trouble finding time as i work nights. so the minute hes home i start to get fruity. he is reading me like a book. i have to be at work for 9pm. younger son (7) not in bed till 7.30... 8pm when finally asleep. by then husband is sitting on seatee will full belly of food. i cant win.

i hope im on days next month!!

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