TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

v v quiet tonight girls.

(changed again, didn't like the chrismunnzieb name)

Munzie, not a bad friend, just human [hug], lolx

Morning Tania, hopoe you're having a good day x

Hi Muppet, sorry to hear about your mc , it can take a while for your periods and stuff to settle down. I mc in July and this month is the first month that my cycle has been "normal" for me. Don't worry too much about bugging your GP, that's what he's there for and if it helps to put your mind at rest that's the main thing. Ask anything, someone on here normally has an answer or will try and find out for you.{{{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}}

hi girsl, b4 I check the posts, I want to ask one question, am I a bad friend because my other friend who's also TTC (not OV/AF etc..) has told me tonight she needs to test as her nipples r sore, has AF style craps and when she was doing some heavy liftin she felt all faint and had a fuzzy feelin accross her hips, also says is feelin sick in the monrings but recons this is a sign of AF, so am I a bad friend for being what doesn't help is we were trying first, and i'll be really peeved if she is PG.

Pleasure, nice to talk to you. Take care and hopefully we will chat again x

Well I'm off to look up about "Blighted Ovum" on Google.

thanks for the info girls

LOL Muppet

Morning Tania

Good Morning girls, (well for me anyway Aussie)
Welcome to the new girls and i hope we dont shock you too much.
Havent read through the post properly yet but just want to say that iam keeping my fingers crossed for you Hula i have a good feeling about you this month.
DH filled his little cup this morning and i will be dropping it off to the clinic soon fingers crossed that his sperm count is normal so we dont have to worry about him being the problem too.
I one more person says to me just forget about ttc and it will just happen i will scream and put their head through a wall dh said it to me last night and i just burst into tears it just gets me so frustrated how can you possible not think about ttc when you want it so bad. Went to a friends house yesterday and she is having her second (first same age as mine) she is due on the 18th but yesterday was feeling a little achy so is expecting that it might happen soon her ds was born on the due date. couldnt help but be so .
Hope you are all well i must go get ready to go to the clinic ds is still sound asleep we are off to a farm today for a xmas break up party for playgroup should be fun.

Blighted ovum just means that there is no foetal development, just the sac. Put it into google and you will get a load of info on it, thats what i did.
the good news is that it is not an indication of future birth abnormalities, it realy is just a one off, one of those things.

Marinda,

It's hell waiting to test isn't it.

I think the not knowing is worse than the knowing.

And then when you do know you try to convinve yourself that it;s negative because you tested too early, or at the wrong time of day, or that you did it wrong, or you've drank too much and so it's diluted the HCG.

I used to get awful nausea and faintness before my period when I was on lots of different types of pills - they had to try several different types until I got one which didn't cause nausea. I also get nausea when I'm not on the pill - but haven't had it since about 8 weeks ago when I thought I was pregnant but sadly wasn't.

The body plays cruel psychological tricks on us.

Good luck for whenever you test.

What helped me was that they gave me a scan picture of my "baby". It made it real for me (both M/C,) and gave me something to grieve over.
Although it was an empty sac, for me i had been pregnant with all the symptoms so could not accept that there was no baby, just an empty sac.

Please ignore bad spelling part of depression! Is this thread going on till Xmas it's getting long (although comforting!)

Yes, I remember seeing on the screen at my GP's the words Blighted ovum.

What does that mean then ?

23rd August Miscarriage
30th September Day 1 of period

Nothing since - and all tests negative - including blood test for HCG 3 weeks ago.

At least the stomach pains which made me think ectopic pregnancy have stopped.

Also been to GP to see if have any other physiological reason why no periods eg. UTI, infection, etc etc and everything is normal.

GP thinks I'm a paranoid nutter.

That sounds like a blighted ovum which was the cause of my last M/C.
Strange to get your head round isnt it?
I know what you mean about ICU, im an ICU/HDU nurse myself and i found it difficult to cope with that sort of thing also.

Hi everyone too depressed to think of a chritmas name but impressed by the two - munnzeib and hula - welldone. Welcome muppetmentality and donbeam !
Where is bl*y AF ? CD25 (usually 24, but 28 has been known!) Will hold off testing but the depression and the pain is killing me!!!!!!!! Just know i'm not pg as am iritable on and off - but the cramps are also on and off to! Also lately since i have been TTC, AF has given me bad nausea - anyone else had this ??? Anyway must go and try to take it off my mind Love to you all!!!!!

I know exactly what you mean.

I was expecting the news at my scan - because I had started bleeding on the Friday night and had the scan on the Monday.

I was expecting the worst and so partly prepared and I thought I'd prepared my husband for the same - but he was devastated and I felt guilty for not feeling upset and kept comforting him - but I felt guilty that I wasn't sad - when I'd done my grieiving on the Saturday and Sunday ! I also felt scared that he'd blame me for doing something that caused the miscarriage - but he never did - he was really supportive.

I'll never forget that empty sac on the screen and asking the radiographer "Was there ever a baby in it? and where has it gone ?"

Then I work in Intensive Care and women take overdoses and do drugs and all sorts and have healthy babies. It's so unfair.

He is he's gorgeous.
have you not had a period at all yet then?

Donbean,

I bet you 17 month old is a real treasure - that age is really special when they start to get their own personality.

Thanks for the encouragement and reassurance that I'm not as mad as I feel most of the time.

I think that it was the unfairness of it that i cant seem to get over, do you know what i mean? We were so ready and so excited and so very deserving and it was just gone in an instant.

Sorry to be vague, i have a 17 month old boy now and i still cant believe that he is here and that he is mine! My M/C are still very prominent in my mind, in fact i dont think that i will ever get over them.

Chrismunnzieb,

I tried to put all the baby bits away and that made me really sad - as if I'd never get to see them again - so I left them out where I could see them as an incentive to get pregnant.

My friend tried to help by squishing them up in a cupboard and that annoyed me but I know she was trying to help me.

My mum bought me some snowdrops which she thought would remind me of the happy thinkgs in life - so I planted them in a pot outside my front door and the bloody neighbours cats keep crapping in them.

My mum said in prayers at my Wedding that we need to remember to support each other and that

"Rainbows follow Rainy Days !!" which I try to remember every time I get down.

OMG i went through 10 pregnancy tests a month at least! luckily i found a cheap shop which sold them for 99p each so i bought up loads. I cant tell you, it was all i thought about. My cycle dates were etched in my brain. I drove myself mad with it all.
I know how desperate and impatient you feel. You are not mad, not mad at all you are just READY aren't you.

Donbeam,

Thanks for the re-assurance.

I'm assuming from your message that youo have sucessfully conceived - how far gone are you ?

Congratulations - hope all goes really smoothly.

LOL Muppet

don't worry MM we don't think ur mad! could you possibly store your baby bits elsewhere until you conceive again?

I think my problem is that being a physio nothing seems gross - when you deal with peoples phlegm all day - cervical mucus is easy !

I'm 63 days today since a period - which is frustrating as I don;t know where I am. I feel it's probably my bodys way of making me wait as I'm the most impatient person in the world !

I'd just like a period though - to know that my body is working normally again. Feel in limbo with no period (so feels like no chance of conceiving) and no pregnancy either.

Was really prepared for my expected baby and bought all the nursery stuff thinking that these days nothing goes wrong with pregnancies - and my sister breazed through her pregnancy with no problems - so I've got a room full of moses baskets and blankets and clothes. Doesn't help much.

Can't believe how common miscarriages are ! This site is brilliant as you see how many people's lives actually are obsessed with trying to make babies.

Great to know that other people are thinking they could be pregnant - feeling sick - bloated - sore boobs and then negative tests - I though it was just me going mad and psychotic.

I had no periods and awful pains about 3 weeks ago and convinced myself I had an ectopic pregnancy - so now since my harassing my GP about this - I feel afraid to see him again. He already thinks I'm mad.