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TTC Thread 14 ... Santa knows what we want for Christmas

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hester · 17/11/2004 08:18

Here we go! Thread 14 for the nicest bunch of women on Mumsnet

Thread 13 was very joyful and very painful for me, but what it has shown me is that even old warhorses like me can get lucky, so there's no excuse for all you nubile young honies not to deliver the goods! Come on now, Mama Hester expects you to do your duty by your fellow ttc-ers

Get ready now, 1 - 2 - 3, GO!!!

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hester · 24/11/2004 18:12

jedds, I think we're a pair of raddled old doxies, our eggs pickled in gin. Lordy, will we give these fertile young things a turn when we appear at the ttc meet-up; they'll think we're someone's granny come to babysit, or the head cleaner

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jeddah · 24/11/2004 18:10

No munnzieb haven't had the big 'O'....I assume you do mean ov??!!!

I usually ov cd17-22 but last month ov cd12-13....not not really sure when it will be....just waiting for the machine to tell me, cos like Hester I don't always get EWCM (Hester do you think we are a pair of dried up old knackers!!!!!!!!)

Bella23 · 24/11/2004 18:08

Hester thanks for comments on what people say - what makes people so blunt and so lacking in feeling. I realise they have the best intentions but usually comes from people who just "fell" pregnant without even thinking about it. Hate the word "fell" - seems to me ttc is bloody hard work!

Have told DH about feeling a bit teary so we are going to go out for dinner and some wine .....well it is what people do without children isn't it ? Just do something on the spare of the moment !
Actually just read what i have written and must point out that I am not actually as bitter and twisted as i sound! xx

jeddah · 24/11/2004 18:07

sorry munnzieb!....thought you were up and running with it......I think I read your earlier posts and thought you were using it now.

munnzieb · 24/11/2004 18:05

i'm off to start some tea..... must stop coming straight onto the computer! lol. c u in a bit.

munnzieb · 24/11/2004 18:03

give me a chance jeddah, i'm only on CD 20 six more to go and i'll start it off, have u had the big O yet?

Hulababy · 24/11/2004 18:03

Hi all. Not much to report. No idea if I OVd this month, as FF says there isn't enough data to detemine - I suspect CD17. Now on CD23, so maybe 5 DPO.

jeddah · 24/11/2004 18:01

munnzieb!!! hi! was going at ask you how the persona is going???????/

Mine is going good....cd11 for me, nothing much happening here.

munnzieb · 24/11/2004 18:00

oi we could always just have a big glass of wine, and huge box of chocs and a nice long relaxin bath! hmmm sounds good to me anyways.

jeddah · 24/11/2004 17:59

Tania,....glad the party went well....I'd love to see a picture!!!!

Sorry twiga about AF!!!!

munnzieb · 24/11/2004 17:59

evening girls, hope every one had a relativly good day today, although lookin at the posts probably not! lol.

((hugs)) twiga hopefully the old girl won't turn up next month.

Hester - Thanks for the info on the persona, I had decided to keep bd everyther day regardless and maybe everyday when OV. hopefully they're won't be anything wrong with my works as it were! lol.

hester · 24/11/2004 17:58

Ooh jeddah there you go again, corrupting young Bella just when her body should be a temple! And you a healthcare professional

Bella, I think you'll find that if you drink gin WITH chocolate the cocoa solids absorb the alcohol, allowing you to benefit from both the vitamin content of juniper berries and the iron out of the choc

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jeddah · 24/11/2004 17:55

bella have you tried Gin!

hester · 24/11/2004 17:42

Bella, and add to that:

'You just have to relax'
'It will happen when you are least expecting it'
'I know a woman of 86 who had been trying to get pregnant for 6012 years and now she has triplets'
'You're lucky - you should enjoy your freedom while you have it!'
'You want children? You can babysit mine anytime!'
'Why don't you do IVF?'

Or, my particular favourite:

'Ah well, you know it's so much better to get them out of the way in your twenties' (so give me the magic pill to make me 29 again and I'll take it tomorrow! Oh you can't? Then why suggest that I'm in a position to choose?!')

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Bella23 · 24/11/2004 16:44

It does help knowing that other people are going through the same thing. I usually share everything with my friends but just don't seem able to about this. The couple I have told just ask me all the time in front of people which I find really uncomfortable as I just don't want the world to know that secretly I think I am infertile!
I have become so irrational that people saying "it will happen when it is supposed to" make me want to scream!

Big hugs to all those who know what I mean!

Twiga · 24/11/2004 16:42

Hester, thanks for your message and sorry that you're feeling down too. I'm finding situation with my friend so hard, everyone is excited and can't wait for them to get back from Oz, love my friend to bits, feel really selfish feeling the way I do. Chocolate's great isn't it?

Thanks everyone for your support x

Twiga · 24/11/2004 16:36

Hey, feeling less tearful, went into town to stop myself mopeing and to get some fresh air. Also dosed up on ibuprofen as feel quite sick and sore. Intend to do very little except eat chocolate and veg this evening.

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to Bella and Moschops.

Bella23 · 24/11/2004 14:20

Poor you - sounds like you are having a rough time of it.
Agree that the stress of waiting makes me very emotional so hard to tell if it is the ttc thoughts or the hormones which are making you upset!

moschops · 24/11/2004 14:10

well i am having the week from hell. yesterday i did that crazy hormonal wild woman thing again. got to work, totally blew up at dp about some insignificant little thing, stormed out of the shop and round to my sisters with tears streaming down my face. have convinced myself i am not pg, and that i am suffering PMT.

also having work related problems which is putting a strain on our relationship. certain people are showing their true colours and it makes me wonder........i am an honest person and yet it seems to get me no-where. the only thing keeping me going is my belief in karma......

well at least i have tonight to look forward to......Ash and The Darkness......i shall feel like a teenager again!!!

Bella23 · 24/11/2004 14:04

Yes am stuffing face with chocolate as we speak !
If AF doesn't arrive I have promised myself I will wait until Friday before I test. Feels like such a long time - have started painting the lounge in an attempt to keep self occupied.

hester · 24/11/2004 13:51

Bella, we understand! it is CRAZY-making, isn't it? Have you tried chocolate?

Best of luck for tomorrow. If af doesn't arrive, when will you test?

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Bella23 · 24/11/2004 13:46

Hello - only occasional poster but long standing lurker. AF due tomorrow and can think of nothing else! Am trying to work but can't concentrate at all. Am convinced that am not pg but can't help imagination going overboard.
History is have been ttc for 7 cycles now. This is for our 1st. Annoyingly all friends have had 1st after only a couple of months of trying so feel very much alone. DH is great but very much of the frame of mind that all is ok and "things take time". I on the other hand have turned into a pre-occupied nightmare who can think of nothing else other than rushing to the toilet every 5 mins just to check in case AF has arrived.
Help! If Af arrives again this month am going to sooooo disappointed. To be honest just want to get the waiting over with as it drives me mad !
Sorry - needed to get that off my chest - need to learn patience!

tooks · 24/11/2004 11:56

oh, Twiga, bad luck. Thinking of you

hester · 24/11/2004 11:28

Oh Twiga, big hugs from me. I keep writing things and then deleting them because they're not coming out right - really just want to say that I TRULY know how you feel and it stinks, doesn't it? Much love to you today. I'm having a bad one too and have already eaten way too much chocolate.

Tooks - great to see you back. I really hope you get your good luck soon.

Colinsmommy - welcome; it's great to have you here.

Tania - so pleased the party was good.

Munnzieb - there's no reason not to do temping as well as Persona; some people would find the extra information useful. Personally, I never got the hang of temping and don't get ewcm so was very relieved to be able to ditch in in favour of Persona.

A general note on Persona - I think it's great, too, but it does have a couple of disadvantages. One is that it tempts you to get lazy about tracking other fertility symptoms so you can end up missing the start of your fertile period and only starting BDing just before ovulation. For some women, this can mean the loss of a couple of fertile days and so reduce their chances. The other problem is that if something doesn't work right with the Persona it can send you a bit crazy, again because we can put too much faith in machines and shut off the other sources of information about what is happening with our bodies. Having said which, i wouldn't be without mine.

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Twiga · 24/11/2004 10:45

Have a friend who is pg just now and due not long after I would have been in March, am pleased about it but so glad that she is away in Oz and not back until Jan. I feel bad but I don't know that I could face seeing her at the moment, and am dreading March when the baby arrives, not sure anyone will understand and don't want to be a bad friend. Was hoping I might be pg before then, next significant deadline would have been 22nd Dec which would have been start of maternity leave - ironically is now the date for next af if cycle continues as normal. How do you get through everyone celebrating a new arrival when it should have been you too - sorry just feeling really sorry for myself today.

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