🎵 Anyone for a spot of Sunday Evening Xylophone? 🌈 TTC Bus 52 🚌

@larrythelizard Bellatrix wasy twinnie in cycle, cd 25 today and nothing happening, we were really worried about mil, looking forward to seeing them all in easter

Sometimes you have to be the brave one and talk about it first @Somatronic. I have a couple of friends really going through the mill at the moment - one of them is much more open than the other and that's because one of the husbands views it all as a personal failure and would be devastated if anyone knew they were looking into IVF - so it might be because of that she didn't share back.

How's the EWCM @LoveQ?

Annoying @BellatrixK but sounds like a lovely day

Oh you too @Franklydear ☹️☹️☹️. Great news on your MIL though!

@BellatrixK oh no, my twinnie... damm it
@Minster2012 we need to write a how to chill manual
@LoveQ the advice is always if in doubt dtd
@Somatronic in the open is best, one of my friends, a couple of years ago, was clearly unhappy, didn’t want to say why, managed to get it out of her and was very relief when I told her I had losses too, and was able to support her, I hope one day she can do the same for another woman,
One bit of good news, my mil is finally getting better after a Xmas in and out of hospital, she’s 86 so...

I love sloshing sperm around as much as the next lesbian @pennysays @Minster2012

Oh, how exciting. Good luck @blackcurrantqueen.

@Somatronic I definitely agree with @Minster2012. The more things are talked about, the better. I casually mentioned to my SIL today that we’d had losses. She and my brother had two accidental children, so I’m sure she’s won’t understand it, but the conversation was close to this and I really don’t think it is something that should be a secret or taboo. Definitely no embarrassment needed!

I can’t really advise @LoveQ, but just keep DTD to cover just in case?

AF showed up for me today, so I’m absolutely miserable. However, we have just been for a lovely, if cold, dog walk and we are at my DH’s parents’ for tea. There are lovely and we’re getting a take away curry!

Thanks @Minster2012

You're right, as usual! I need to chill out.

So it's not looking that great so far 😕 according to the flo app today is ovulation day but the tests have gone down instead of up 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Minster2012 @lakejupiter yeah now I have said it out loud... it doesn't sound right! I'll see if I can find a source. Far be for me to be the person spreading biological hokum on the internet.

Well it's a bit rude to the other sperm if your cervix just goes "this'll do" and shuts down for the others @pennysays @lakejupiter 😜🤪

It's always waiting @pennysays but that's progress so it's something!

@Somatronic I don't think you have anything to apologise for and that's the kind of thinking that makes infertility a taboo subject. When we had friends over the other week one of our friends (male) said "we though oh let's try for kids, thought it might take a while but it happened so quickly we were like hmmmm thought we'd have longer having fun" and I said "well it's better that way than trying for years and it becoming all you can think about & a chore" 🤨why is it better for him to say that than me to say the opposite? If you find a way to escape your head then let us know the secret 😊

@blackcurrantqueen wow best of luck tomorrow! How exciting!

I ended up meeting an old friend and her partner (who I've only met once before, briefly, as they live in Asia) on Friday and having 3 unplanned glasses of wine on an empty stomach.

Anyway I ended up talking about my infertility woes at length including complaining about friends of mine who became pregnant after trying once. I apologised for oversharing at the time and they told me not to be silly etc. I have been fighting the urge to send pathetic apologetic texts to her again about it, even though I already apologised, I didn't do anything bad as such, and I need to stop being such a worrier. I haven't met a single friend since December 21st (actually no, I had one window visit from 1 friend when I was isolating) because that's when Covid hit and I've worked from home since then so I think it was a rush of seeing a friendly face after so long. Unlike most of my friends she has no kids and thinks she might have similar problems but hasn't started trying yet so I blabbed.

Good grief. My own head causes me so much hassle 🙄 I wish I could escape it sometimes.

@pennysays oh thanks for this. Not sure I totally understand though! As in the first sperm per attempt or the first sperm of an entire cycle? Will do a google.

I found you all, with the help of Minster! Taking my seat!!

Hi everyone I’m here! Gearing up for another round… irregular cycles so lord knows when I will ovulate so I’ll just keep passing on sticks and hoping for the best.
In the meantime waiting waiting waiting for our referral to the fertility clinic. Waiting a week to talk to doctor about my blood and urine tests… Wednesday I’ll find out. DP preparing himself for the sperm analysis. Has anyone seen that sperm donation episode of Peep Show? “Hello queenie…” 😂

@BellatrixK if your cycles are regular then digital ones will be fine. But expensive. I just used internet cheapies dip sticks… order 100 yesterday because that’s my life. You become an expert at reading them.

@lakejupiter I’m sure you’re already an expert, and @Minster2012 definitely is but just have a read up about uterus + sperm physiology. I read an article which said that when the first sperm are received then the cervix closes to new sperm… worth considering before you dedicate hours to sloshing sperm around.

@Franklydear your dream 😢

Thanks @polkadotpixie for starting the new thread. I’m definitely going to be practising my xylophone tonight!! It is Sunday Evening by after all!

Eeek @blackcurrantqueen exciting!

@blackcurrantqueen good luck for tomorrow

@Franklydear tomorrow 😬😬😬

@blackcurrantqueen tomorrow !?!

@blackcurrantqueen madness!!
@Sausage1990 sad times when you sell a house you love! What's the reason for the move?

Hi gang
Just checking in and taking up my seat
Thanks so much for the new thread !!
C section on Monday... wow how time has flied!!!

I'm still here, just a bit late to get on. Still want to know how everyone else is getting on, the support from this thread made all the difference for me. x

I found temping less annoying than the OPKs @BellatrixK!

I’m also loving all of this help and advice, thank you ladies!

@RMS0209 I’m definitely drinking and DTD in the TWW. When we get BFPs they’ll be plenty of time I’ll be missing wine!

@Minster2012 lol at the cavernous foof! Made my DH jump I laughed so much!

@LoveQ I’m really tempted to temp, I love data and I’d love to know more, but even the OPKs were annoying me, so I’ll see!

@Franklydear it’s lovely here. I feel so supported.

@RMS0209 we do questions, doubts and reassurances here, mosquetero style, one for all and all for one, I dtd in the tww, but often don't fancy it, specially towards the end

@RMS0209 happy to help & we usually have ppl that can answer most things!

@Minster2012 thanks so much for sending that through - 2nd time you've reassured me I like it! will try (not promising!) to have no questions tomorrow x