The month of valentines, pancakes and lot’s of BFP’s! 🤞🏻❤️

@Decaffe @Curlywurly3
I even used my conception cup last night and still laid there with my legs in the air for 20 mins 😂🙈

@lakejupiter yeh I did and I don't feel bad. I had a miscarriage and all the nurses said were it's common, which may be right but doesnt help you feel ok about it. I feel at the age I am if I have something wrong then I have limited time to get it resolved so if I have to add a few months on so they listen then so be it. Everyone's different, if I was 25 and in the same position I wouldn't of gone to the doctors yet but I'm not
@Natalie2304 yeh I think you're right about the manhood, as I remember when we got pregnant one of the first things he said was oh well atleast I know it works ha ha
That's good to know about the groups and mums around the same age, I think because all my friends had them younger I feel like the only one whereas actually it's probably quite normal.
Oh that would be the perfect present, keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Sooo my ovulation is missing 😂 Ever since I have been tracking, it has been CD9-13. Usually 12 or 13 and only earlier due to Covid jabs.

Well, today is CD13 so I was expecting an OPK peak yesterday, and… nothing!

I am so confused?!

If I don’t get a peak today I’m going to be worried!

@MummyMe87 oh wow! I did not know that! How interesting! That's great as I know a few people who lost one of the tubes due to an ectopic. I thought that meant they only had 6 chances a year!

@lakejupiter they can't exactly prove you haven't been trying (unless you've been on contraception that they've prescribed you!)
As I'm 33 in April if I get to 6 months I'm going to go and say it's been longer 🤫

@Decaffe I wish I had lied now! Referred to fertility back in August, and still waiting for the first appointment. So it's already been more than 5 months. I bet it will be close to two years of trying when they finally call me in! Even to get an ultrasound scan done I've had to wait three months.

[quote MummyMe87]@Purple29 yes you’re right, they aren’t connected, as a midwife I should have known that 😂 only found out upon research after my ectopic. When you ovulate your tubes start suctioning you grab the egg, so yes my left could get right ovary eggs just a bit less likely.[/quote]
Whaaat!! Please can you explain more?!

[quote lakejupiter]@Brunette1989 did you really lie to GP about how long you'd been TTC? Is this common? 😬 [/quote]
I don’t know about Brunette, but this is what my friend advised me to do… she did it… so did I. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Glad I did now given that it really is taking a while as it means I am already on the waiting list for further investigations.

@MummyMe87 oh my gosh! I never knew this was possible! Very interesting!

@Curlywurly3 my DH was exactly the same. He agreed we could have our second about 18 months ago....but not yet. It took me a year for him to commit to a time when we could start TTC and now he wants to DTD every day! 😂🙈 I feel so bad now saying no sorry we need to let those sperms build up 😂

@Brunette1989 at least he didn't flat out refuse and I don't know if it's just the men I know but I think men have a tendency to be uptight about things like this as they feel it questions their manhood. When I asked my DH to start having walnuts every day to improve his sperm (even though there is no reason to assume there is a problem with it) he said there's no reason his swimmers are top notch 🙄 (he used to have walnuts as a snack so it's not even like it's a problem for him!)
I'd probably just have a sit down with him and explain your concerns.
And if it makes you feel any better, I had my DD at 30 and every mum group I was a part of I was by far the youngest there and everyone was only on their first. (I'm also 33 in April and worked out that if this is the month my 12 weeks scan will be around my birthday 🤞🏻)
I hope you manage to sort things out and that this ends up being your month so you dont even need any more tests ❤️

@Brunette1989 did you really lie to GP about how long you'd been TTC? Is this common? 😬

@Purple29 yes you’re right, they aren’t connected, as a midwife I should have known that 😂 only found out upon research after my ectopic. When you ovulate your tubes start suctioning you grab the egg, so yes my left could get right ovary eggs just a bit less likely.

@Natalie2304 he hasn't refused but when I spoke about it when I went for my blood tests and said they would probably need to test him he was very uptight about it. Think he just sees it that because we got pregnant before and miscarried it won't be an issue with him, which is probably right but they won't keep checking me till he's ruled out.
We've been trying for just under a year with a miscarriage in June. I went to the doctors early and fibbed said we had been trying for a year and a half. I know how long it takes for them to start looking, I'm 33 in April and this would be our 1st baby so I don't feel I have the time to wait and presume everything is OK.
@Curlywurly3 yeh I think I'm just going to have to emphasise how many tests I will have to go through so actually his one isn't that bad, it's just embarrassing for him really xxx

@kizzy97 mine has been up and down all week. FW started yesterday. The best line I've had so far came up just then but it still only got me a 0.2 was expecting higher 😂

I've had a dip on my OPKs today and wondering if it's normal? Been 0.18 since I started on Sunday and today it's 0.07?

@Brunette1989 good to hear that your progesterone came back ok, that's a good start to the checks.
Has OH flat out refused to have the tests? Why doesn't he want them?
How long have you been TTC? Xxx

Morning ladies,
Had the call with the doctors this morning. He said my progesterone levels were what they would expect at the time in the cycle I completed the tests so no issues there. It also checked kidney function etc and all fine.
He said this is part of the 1st stage but can't continue to stage 2 without my OH having a sample check. Just feeling shit as I know he really doesnt want to do it so feel like I'm going to have a battle on my hands and its going to delay me moving to stage 2 massively.
He said stage 2 would be swab test for infection and then an ultrasound. Didn't mention what stage 3 entails..
Trying to stay positive but its very overwhelming and scary, also dreading the conversation with OH.
Just never thought it would be this difficult to become a mum 😢 xxx

I read that the tubes aren't actually attached to the ovary and so if left with one that it can move? So I'm hoping that is the case.

I used to think that it was stressful around ovulation as well. Even more so when I was peeing on sticks. That's why the dr told me to stop and just trust my body. With my cycle being regular to follow his days and it was so refreshing not to be tracking like that... I instantly felt more relaxed and while it was still scheduled BD you can spice it up cause your not worried about the right time.

Yes I get stressy around ovulation. We D2D Sunday night CD10, Tuesday morning CD12, think I’m ovulating today, possibly this morning as feeling super achey and twinges galore, hopefully get another BD in tonight. I’m currently stressed that I’ll ovulate from my right ovary which has no tube which will reduce chance of catching significantly 😔

@Curlywurly3 @Natalie2304 I'm exactly the same the TWW you can't change the outcome but ovulation is all so confusing and stressful

@Curlywurly3 @MrsSamRowley I definitely stress more around ovulation. The TWW is what it is. You've done all you can do and you're just waiting. Fertile week DTD is all I can think about and not in the exciting way! 😂🙈

@Curlywurly3 I think I'm the same as you - as torturous as the TWW is - as long as you've done everything you can you can feel positive and hopeful. I'm looking ahead to February now, CD2 for me. We're meant to be staying with my parents next weekend but that'll be bang in the middle of my fertile period so not sure whether to postpone it or just DTD the day before we go and the day we get back and try to relax about it. It's impossible when you really want a baby though as you don't want to miss any opportunities - even if it's only one night!