IVFers thread

I am so sorry worry to hear your news, God I know what you are going through I've had 11 BFN and every time i think it was something I did, but it's not and it is just bad luck. Be kind to your self , I always distance myself from DH I can't cope with people being nice and find it hard to deal with for a while. I would take your time, go back and talk to your consultant at the clinic and discuss your options and then you can decide what to do next if anything. You can always change your mind, I said my last attempt was going to be the last and then i said this one is too, but I don't know how I will feel.

IVF is an emotional rollercoaster and it is ok to wobble off once in a while. Just go out an spoil your self, haircut, whatever makes you feel good you deserve it.

Lots of love to you worry

Sx

WM, am so sorry you didn't get the result you wanted, but please don't think you let anyone down. I know you did everything you could but sometimes it just doesn't work.

Can you go back to your clinic and see what they recommend?

Re your DH - everyone deals with this in their own way, so please don't worry if you're pushing him away. He probably feels guilty anyway at you having to go through this in the first place.

Think you will find lots of people have been through failed attempts - Trinny from Trinny and Susannah had about 11 failed attempts before her DD I think. Far more common to get a BFN than BFP.

Again, so sorry it didn't work out for you

HI everyone, just to say sorry I wimped out before and also to let you know that i have confirmed a BFN this morning. I feel quite numb. I find I am not able to cry about it even, as I think I did all my cryign the other day. I just dont know what to do next. DH tryign ot be so supportive but I keep pushing him away nd being horrible to him. Think I have really upset him now. I jsut feel I have let everyone down and htat it is all my fault. I did everything I could to prepare and give myself the best possible chance so I dont understand. There must be something wrong with me. HAs anyone else been thru a failed attempt? I dont really know what to do next.

Wish I was on day 8, still on day 2 in the 2WW house here. Am still feeling positive and am sleeping so much better now all the scans and injecting are over - day after EC I was awake from 1.10am til 4.50am wondering how things were getting on. So no lie in, but lots more sleep.

DH is going away on business for 2 weeks tomorrow. Not sure what that says about my behaviour during the 2WW? Please could you all consider DH as having left the 2WW house as of tomorrow, and think of me waving him goodbye from the front door.

No news from Coggy then yet? And WM was going to test again today - hope she has good news.

Soosy - day 8.....would be so tempted to buy a test tomorrow ready for Monday am. How do you feel?

SS, hope life in the spa is good for you at the moment...don't forget you shouldn't really get any symptoms until about 6 weeks!

Hope all goes well today coggy.

D8 in the 2ww house. Soosy hopes OAP is having a bit of a lie in and brings her a decaf tea in bed. Resisted temptation to buy a test today, am beginning to find it all a bit tense. I am getting a bit impatient with DS which is not fair on him.

I must try and keep calm, more rescue remedy needed!

Well you are officially still in the 2ww House SS, just in the really nice spa bit, but if you want tea and chat we would love to see you!

I am hoping coggy will be joining us on Monday, Best of luck for tomorrow Coggy, just try and go to sleep it's the best thing to do.

SS I used to get worried about symptoms disappearing, I had about 5 scans before I was 12 weeks as I was convinced I'd had a m/c, Like my first pg. But eventually they told me to calm down and my doc told me that when you pee on the stick you are more likely to have a baby than not. At your six weeks scan that increases to over 90% certain, when they see a heartbeat and development is normal. So keep calm!

OAP I have been symptom spotting like mad, even though I didn't really have any last time. I am having a little bit more CM than usual and don't know if this is a good or bad sign, as I can't remember last time, but somebody has told me it increases when you are pg, perhaps SS can enlighten me Being in the spa part of the house! I think if I make it past Mon without af showing her face I am probably pg, so that makes it a long wkend, DS being away I may lose my nerve!

Sx

Can I come too then!??! (Mind you I've eaten a week's worth of chocolate today so no biscuits for me!)

Bit worried as all symptoms have disappeared today. Dh says not to worry as he reckons that happened sometimes last time and we have ds but I still worry!

Absolutely decaf!

ah but is it decaf tea?!

That's great news OAP!

Yes I have been knackered the last few days but am feeling worryingly livelier today...hope that's not a bad sign....

got to keep this short as ds sitting on my knee being jumpy!

I have no idea when you are supposed to test OAP they just tell you in 2 weeks time, so I assume I should test on the 13th or 14th Feb. Glad to have some company in the house as SS has already jumped the wall into a nicer place and Worry is in the diary room for a while, I hope she is ok and we hear from her soon.

A 5 and 8 cell that's fab, I didn't get to see iggle and upsy, so I hope they are snug and warm and are burrowing in well. Soosy wanders over to the 2ww house kitchen and offers OAP a cup of tea and a chocolate biscuit.

Sx

Hi all, my what a busy little thread!

Soosy - how is day 7 in the 2WW house going for you? Any mad symptom spotting yet? Think I will jump on your bandwagon and say I am on day 1 in the 2WW house - although is day 1 ET day or the day after?

Sticki- yes, thanks we did get to see pics of our 5 and 8 cell embryos yesterday. Didn't get to keep them though which is probably a good thing for me, else I would be feverishly attached to them by now. And I rather hope it is the other way around, in that they are frantically attaching themselves to me.

Coggy - excellent news re follicles, hope they find lots when they get in there. Frankly I don't know how they can decipher the ultrasound pics, so I hope they find lots and lots of mature eggs tomorrow.

ET yesterday was fine - the clinic called in the morning to say that there were 2 good embryos and 2 not so good, so nothing for the freezer again. This is exactly what happened to us last time - 2 good and 3 not so good embryos, so we are hoping for the same outcome. Am feeling rather optimistic today, sure it won't last. Not sure I will be able to wait until my test date of 20 Feb - think I will either start bleeding before then or will have tested anyway.

Hope you all have a good day today

My god what are you lot doing up at 11pm! I went to bed at 10 last night and the night before at 9pm. Coggy you are forgiven because I presume you were doing your injection, but SS are you not exhausted, I remember falling asleep everywhere when I was pg with DS.

Coggy, a jab free day today! enjoy and eat lots of chocolate, however it is spelt!

Sticki, I hope everything well with you.

Day 7 in the 2ww house halfway!
Have HIP man coming round this am so waiting for him. V boring, I will be lurking for a while, at least til the dishwasher finishes!

S x

SS...yes seven would be FANTASTIC.....got a chance of freezing some then.

Ahem....I do know how to spell chocolate BTW.

(As well as the other things I've just realised I typed wrong!! Obviously a bit over excited?!)

I think we all get the wobbles, and probably several times, on and off Soosy.
I was quite negative on Friday and then by Saturday everything was fine and wonderful....I think it's the nature of the beast.
Glad to hear you're back on track now.
X

Coggy - that's fantastic - I bet the two little ones might get bigger by Fri too so you'd have 7- that's be brilliant wouldn't it!

Soosy - those optimism wobbles are so part of the 2ww aren't they!

Hi everyone else - Sticki how are you doing?

coggy i like your way of thinking good look for friday.
soosy keep up the count down, not long now.x

Fab news Coggy, good luck for friday. I am hoping not to be voted out of the 2ww house this time! Although a did have an optimism wobble this afternoon. Back on track now,

Have good evening everyone

Sx

Worry........So sorry to hear that you're feeling so low. I hope that you have better days in this coming week and that you get your elusive BFP in a few days time.
Take care of yourself.
X

nomore....I can go way more excited than that!! Just wait and see!!!!
(Actually for a while I thought that I'd broken MN as it all went a bit funny and couldn't fit my woohoooo in on the screen!!! )

EHM....sod it...I think some sweet things are a suitable pay off for having to go through all this horrid injection malarky don't you?!
Having given up the alcohol we gals need some treats eh? I have had a ridiculous amoiunt of choclote in the past week....not normally that bothered about it but definitely comfort eating!!

Sticki...I hope all goes well with your bloods and other tests. Let's hope you get to your EC a darn site quicker than I!!!!

Soosy...day 6.....nearly halfway through your stay in the 2WW house!!

My scan today was good....HURRAH!! AT LAST!!!!
5 biggies and 2 smaller follicles. My lining was a much healthier 9.9mm so all is set up and ready to go for EC on Friday morning.
I am so pleased!!!!!

worry for you{{hugs}}It maybe too early to test? Try & come back when you can it may help to say how you feel.I am probably typing/saying the wrong things just trying to help as I/we know how awful it feels. Take Care.x.x
SS congrats!
coogyhope ec is still on for end of wk?
soosy i've everything crossed for you.
stickihope clinic appointment goes well.
OAP good lick with the transfer.

Hope I haven't missed out anybody, if I have I am very sorry. Find the thread very hard to keep up with Still having injections no problems except can't stop eating sweet things. Not good for my waistline

Oh worry hope you are ok and come back and see us when you are ready. Try testing in a few days you never know, and the fat lady ain't singing.

Sticki gald things are going well for you and jeans tighter, still waiting to get mine back on!

SS I hope you are taking it easy and not doing anymore tests, you'll need every penny you have!

Day 6 in the 2ww house, no viewings, thank god, so can actually cook some food for us to eat! Going to pick up DS from school in a min so will be back later.

Sx

Worry - please do come back and tell us how you are if you feel like it. It might well be too early to get a reading on the test and it depends on the type of test as some won't show until the equivalent of the day your period would be due/ 14 days after conception.

Hope you are ok.

Oh worry Im really sorry you are so down and the test was blank today. I know you probably dont want to hear but sometimes you can get tests that dont show and then a few days later on they actually do.

Big hug. Take care.

CONGRATULATIONS SS!!!!! Fantastic news. Im very excited for you (like Coggy). Glad the symptoms are strong.....

Only - hope transfer goes smoothly today. Do you get to see a picture of your embryos before they put them in? (our clinic shows you them then gives you a pix of the ultrasound when they are released - we get far too emotionally involved and have always named them!)

Soosy - Day 5 in the 2ww house made me laugh too! Its just like that - ticking off the days of endless waiting. Glad you have got lots of viewings, even though its v hard work. Fingers crossed for lots of good news re offer and bfp in your house next week!

Coggy - hope the follies are growing well? Are you still on for Friday?

Im off to the clinic today for scan and bloods so hopefully ploddiing onwards towards EC etc next week. Jeans feel tight (or tighter!) so hopefully thats good news (or is it just Ive been eating too many pancakes in my hormonal state).

Hi Everyone ---

SS - WHAt fabulous news, am really thrilled for you and hope you go from strrnght th strength.

As for me, I am really not coping very well, I feel extremely down and cant stop crying.

I did a test early this morn and it was blank. I can't really cope and hterefore I think I am goign to drop out for a while.

Of course I will look in now and then to see how you're all doing.

Wish all of you the very best,

WM xxx

Congrats SS Really pleased for you
Coggy - I look forward to seeing you get excited properly