IVFers thread

Hi guys
So lovely to hear about how comfy the 2 ww house is and that the availability of cake and chocolate is good. You all sound like you are doing really well.

Coggy - hope all goes well tomorrow. You can recuperate on the sofa with trashy movies....

SS- Hope the potty training keeps your mind off your worries of a chem pg. When is your 16 days up? ie when can you get a hcg from the clinic?

Soosy - Hope your weekend good and you are not feeling too antsy about this week?

OAP - You are brave having MIL and Father down. Distraction at least? I echo soosy's comments about the cramping - Ive been worried about it for a while after EC before (and also ET too). Think it must be things moving around, or wind from the dreaded cylogest.

Sorry Ive been AWOL but have been feeling really antisocial. I think my mind always becomes single track concentrating on making eggs and I cant really think of words. Saw my lovely cousin yesterday and I couldnt string 2 words together. She prob thought I was most odd (or pg at least as tummy the size of 3 mths pg). Anyway, my GIFT has been brought forward to Tuesday to avoid over stimulating. Good news that the follicles are doing ok but tricky that childcare and DH's work arrangements now have to change at short notice. But best get it all over...... and on to the next set of side effects! So I will fast track to the 2ww on Tuesday all being well (as with GIFT they put everything back at the sames time as the EC).

Good luck this week. Fingers and toes crossed all round.

General paranoia OAP - no firm evidence. I'm sure my symptoms came and went last time so I should have learned by now it all means nothing and to wait for the blood test but well, you know how it is!

Have packed ds and dh off to the MIL for the afternoon, sat reading the paper...lovely!

SS, why would you think this is a chemical pregnancy? Any reason or just general paranoia?

I'd use the clearblue tests that just say pregnant or not pregnant, rather than torturing yourself over shades of blue!

My father is coming down to have food and wine and conversation on tap. MIL wants to see her GD and will help, but we don't really get on.

OAP ooh scones yes please!

So new entrants to the 2ww house are going to be your dad and MIL! Do you get on well with them at least?

The preg tests were calling out to me in Waitrose today too (buy more buy more) but I managed to hold back (the price always helps!) and have only one left so need to be careful with when I use it! I'm still being paranoid about it all. I tested this am and it was no darker than the last one (2 days ago) ? But maybe there are lots of variables like how hydrated you are etc?Am being paranoid it's going to be a chemical pregnancy.

The worry doesn't stop does it! I actually wrote an article about pregnancy after IVF a while ago so should know better but don't!

Off to make a cuppa and grab some choc biscuits.

Anyone in the house today? There is tea (more tea!) and scones with jam today on offer.

Coggy, hope you aren't worried too much today about tomorrow. I always worry about what is happening in the lab, and feel much better once the embryos are back inside me, best place for them.

Soosy - understand what you mean about tests I think. They have a magnetic effect, if they are in the house they call to you, saying use me use me use me. Best to leave them in the shop I think

Less crampy today, odd twinges every so often. Am feeling in a better mood - although that may be down to the sunshine. Both my father and my MIL want to come and stay in the next two weeks, and as I haven't told them (and won't) what is going on I have no excuse not to open my doors and welcome them in. Still, at least it will take my mind of the result I suppose.

SS...it's the double letter and y on the end that does it!!

OAP...thanks for saying that..I wasn't sure how likely/ unlikely the cell division was so that's good to hear.

Soosy...was Casualty good?
I missed it but will prob tune into the BBC iplayer thing tomorrow.
Had a night on my friends kareoke playstation game and didn't think about ttc/ IVF for about two hours!! BRILLIANT!
Now...how many songs will I have to sing to get over the 2WW??!!!!

SS I am trying not to give in to the evil pee sticks, during my 13 previous attempts (over 10 years btw,this is our 10th year at the clinic!) I have tested early, not tested at all (af arrived) and tested on time. I don't know what's worse, it's all pretty c*p really. But I have become v superstitious and now cannot have test in the house, have not even bought one yet and will buy one next week if af has not shown her ugly face. It's not really a question of money, hell 14 attempts means we have spent loads of cash! Just me being odd!

Potty training oh joy, we did that this time last year. whispers we used GF potty training book and I agree with her on one point once in pants don't go back. DS got it in about 2weeks. We have had bad times, starting school etc, but no pooy nappies is a real plus!

OAP, could crampy be sore ovaries and some wind from the cyclogest? I get that crampy feeling for a few days after EC. Thank you for the Cake delicious,hot chocolate anyone, might make a change from Tea!

Soosy, lies on other sofa and waits for Casualty to come tv.

Coggy, great news that you have 2 embryos! Bet you got no sleep last night, and didn't relax at all until that phone call this morning! And I'm sure your clinic have told you this, but once your eggs have fertilised then they virtually always go on and divide nicely.

Have been bored and crampy today. Surely shouldn't be crampy yet, even if AF approaching with hobnailed boots on? DH on plane to India, no help there either.

Off to sit on the sofa, profers around cake and more tea.

SS - haven't got to potty training yet, DD still learning to talk. Said "Tea" today for the first time, and it is only about her 3rd word. Guess what I do a lot of?

Coggy I am mixing you and Soosy up!
My preg head never went away from me after ds so if I get a double dose this time I'm going to end up seriously malfunctioning!!

Meanwhile in the 2ww house, SS is looking forward to scoffing her not sushi dish from the sushi takeaway.

Bet they don't do potty training in the BB house - that's what we've been up to today!

Soosy - when are you going to give in to the evil pee sticks?? And just why are they so blardy expensive - bet they cost about 10p each to make, add on marketing and a few other costs and that still leaves a humungous profit margin.

Ooops!
Just like that one!!

(done not doem!!)

Urm..............14 tries?

SS has either got me mixed up with someone else...

SS has serious pg head already!!

I have doem a seriously bad typo somewhere along the way...

Soosy is plumping cushions and removing sweetie wrappers in readiness for Coggy's arrival on Monday. SS is in the spa area folding towels and having a smoothie. OAP has snuck off for an early night.

Have a good evening everybody!

Hi all

Coggy - fab fab fab that they fertilised ok!
Glad EC wasn't too bad.

We're getting ready to welcome you into the 2ww house!

Coggy - over what time period have the 14 tries been?

No news here. Zonked out today so that's a great sign but a little inconvenient when I'm trying to finish writing the book and get work done! But heck I'm not complaining!

Had a fab facial this morning - bliss and so relaxing!

hopefully you'll be pootling over to the spa area when I arrive soosy!!

LOL at your lack of 'ancient-ness'.

Coggy that is fantastic news! It only takes one, glad you went to sleep too much the best thing to do and that the cyclogest wasn't too bad. We all worry about these things and when it happens it's ok. Yes you could need to go to the loo, I would try and have a poo first, but that gets more difficult the more cyclogest you use!
Day 9 in the 2ww house.

OAP, love a Chocolate croissant, more tea for you. The 2ww House is not too bad at the moment although we are getting to the dodgy bit when af could rear her ugly head at any moment, so feeling a little bit jumpy, lots of visits to the loo and checking the loo paper. Sorry to hear you are a bit restless today, I managed to rest for about two days before DS and DH thought I should get back to my normal job! Perhaps we could sit and watch some trashy TV in the house this afternoon with SS and eat chocolate. Looking forward to seeing Coggy in the House tomorrow, hope it's not a crossover though, when I am on the way out.

SS yes I agree with coggy the clinic could be a bit more excited, I could kisses when I got pg last time, but hell I am their oldest customer, (i mean longest standing not completely ancient.) Come and sit down with some tea.

Sx

WM.....so sorry for you.

I'm here. Not quite in the house yet but looking longingly towards the gate!!!

EC yesterday was a breeze!
I slept through it all.....probably helped by the fact that we were up just after 5.30am to get to the clinic on time and I had spent a restless night dreaming about how on earth that tablet was going up my backside!!!

That also was easy as it turned out....but I really need the loo for about an hour after. Is that normal??!!

Only got two eggs from my six follicles which wasn't brilliant but as DH and I kept saying..we can only put two back in....so as long as they both fertilise......

Got the nerve racking phone call this morning to say that all was well and that they had both fertilised (LOADS of prayers went up last night on our behalf!!) and that we are to go back down for transfer on Monday.
Hopefully they will nicely divide and do their thing.

Phew.

(Sorry, totally self-obsessed post today! )

Hi all

TRQ - congrats on your decision to go ahead in March, keep us posted. Actually, March is really quite close now!

SS - boo to your clinic! They could at least have sounded a little more excited for you. Have you booked a scan with them yet? Not sure if all clinics do that first scan at 6-7 weeks or if it is just mine.

Soosy - how is the 2WW house working out for you today? Cup of tea? Chocolate croissant?

I'm on day 3 now and bored, remember this feeling from last time. I feel totally better now, pain and drug free (other than the lovely cyclogest!) and want to get on with everything that I didn't feel like doing last week. And it is sunny and this makes the house look filthy! Am trying to rest but am finding it very difficult.

Is Coggy coming out to play today? Hope she is OK after EC yesterday

I hope you don't mind but I have been watching this thread for the last few days, as my sister is in the middle of IVF and I wanted to try and understand the emotions she might be experiencing, and learn a bit more about the whole procedure.

She had one course of IVF last autumn, which didn't even get to the ET stage as none of her (5) follicles made it. Apologies if i'm using incorrect terminology. When she got the call to hear that news was the worst day of her life. But they decided to try one last time, and she had been given higher doses of hormones this time. This resulted in 7 follicles of which she got 3 grade A embryos. Two were transfered last Friday and one is being frozen. So she's half way through her 2WW, and doesn't want anyone to call or isn't calling anyone. She's just resting up and trying not to stress (easier said than done). I really hope it works for her this time, although from what she's been told, the chances of success are only about 1 in 3.

Let's hope you all get what you long for in the end, and WM- sorry to hear things didn't work this time. As someone who has experienced an early mc, I went through the blaming stage, but I hope you will realise you did all you could and it was really out of your control.

RQ - so glad you've made a decision. Good luck and keep us posted!

Hi everyone else.

Not much news here - phoned clinic this morning and they basically said 'ooh that's very early, you can come in but they'll just make you repeat the bloods every 2 or 3 days'. I made an appointment for next week as I can't face the journey back and forth although I'd like a bit more info - it wouldn't stop me worrying anyway. Symptoms still a bit lacking but today's test was pretty strong. Am going to leave it a few days now before doing another unless I get in a tizz about it!

I had forgotten how, even once you get a BFP, you still spend the whole time wondering and worrying!

How are you all?

Hooray Red Queen, fabulous news, just get yourself some acupuncture too as I read an article in the Mail today that said that there had been a new study into acupuncture and IVF and the findings were: your chances were increased by 65% if you had acupuncture before or after ET.

I don't know about being an inspiration or a bl*dy lunatic!

Many belated thanks to all of you who replied to me last Friday. Sorry for having committed a ?post and run? ? I am embarrassed to see how much time has since passed.

Anyway, while thinking over your comments, it struck me that I think I can live with DH?s attitude. While he doesn't seem much interested in the process, we fundamentally want the same thing and that's OK

But as WM said, it?s a terribly emotional process, so I?ll probably have changed my mind again by next week.

But I?m going to take the plunge and do it. So roll on March.

WM ? I am so, so sorry to hear your news. It?s not your fault and you have let no-one down ? even the medics say it?s just luck of the draw.

To me you are an inspiration for having had the grit to give it a go in the first place.

Take care

xxx

soosy 11 I had trouble dealing with 4 you are very strong & an inspiration to all IVFers.

WM so sorry soosy has put it so well. Take care of you (and dh when you are ready).x.x