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IVFers thread

839 replies

TheMNPeacekeepingForce · 23/12/2007 18:51

Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

OP posts:
soosy · 21/06/2008 20:54

Hi sooty glad to hear you had a good holiday. OAP hope you are ok and having a fab weekend. Nomore I hope you are lurking!

S x

sootykalucy · 21/06/2008 10:05

Hi nomore, glad you are back - just wanted to say good luck to you OAP - lets hope you can turn this thread around.

sootykalucy · 20/06/2008 21:50

Hi girls, first of all so sorry to hear your news, swerve, soosy and nomore! Golly we really have to turn this thread around don't we? Getting back from holidays and reading this thread in bulk is really heartbreaking, especially if you cheat and read backwards as I did. . . seeing all that hope and knowing the outcome . . . what can I say, except I know how you feel

My camping trip to France was good, but I did fall apart a bit in the first week - the IVF cycle failing sort of hit me . .. but I got over it . . . and being able to go freeforall on stinky cheese and wine was nice . . . some compensation.

I got back to find that my clinic had moved my follow-up appointment forward a week and I had missed it! Can you believe the NHS ? They didn't even call ( I had my mobile). It makes me so angry, what a waste, for me and for the Dr who is having his time wasted! My hairdressers ring me to confirm appointments, you'd think that they'd ring to cancel one ! I will have to wait until Monday to talk to them . . .

Anyway, I hope you are okay nomore, I can understand why you might have retreated a bit - I know I did. And soosy, you trooper, hang in there. We have to be in luck soon - even just statistically speaking!

nomoremagnolia · 20/06/2008 21:46

Hi girls, sorry I've not been around.
OAP fingers crossed for you that all is well, I think we're well overdue for a BFP on here.
Sadly DH's grandma died last weekend, after the disappointment of the ivf failing on thurs he had a phonecall on Fri saing 'you'd better come and see her' and she died on Sat night. So the nomore household has been a rather somber place this past week. Sorry to post bad news but wanted to explain my absence, didn't want you thinking I had abandoned ship after failing ivf.

soosy · 20/06/2008 20:22

OAp hope today is better, Have a lovely weekend I am thinking of you and keeping my fingers crossed.

Sx

Onlyaphase · 19/06/2008 22:01

Thanks Soosy, the voice of sanity tonight! Will sleep on it and see how I feel tomorrow, keeping busy is definitely the key to retaining sanity.

Re changing clinics - you've nothing to lose by having a consultation at the Lister (or indeed several places) and seeing what they suggest. But I have heard very good things about the Lister.

soosy · 19/06/2008 21:28

OAP Sorry to hear you are having a bad day and feeling crampy, I think everyone you know should be banned from annoucing Pregnancies and giving birth during 2ww it just makes it all to difficult. I know it all feels futile at the moment, but it is not over til it is over . I am so pleased that someone the same age as me! trying to get PG again. I know my cousin thinks I am mad, but my friends are all so optimistic. We have two attempts left. Like you, since I was 15, I wanted a cricket team and thought I might get half of one. I think you are probably a nicer mummy but DS gets far more attention and cuddles than his friends!

I think we are going to change to the Lister for our last two attempts as the Chelsea and Westminster is proving so bureaucratic that I cannot bear it any longer as it is starting to affect patient care, not medical but pastoral, IYKWIM.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you OAP.

Onlyaphase · 19/06/2008 19:40

Britgirl, such good news for you, congratulations! Hope the next 8 months go smoothly for you all!

Hope everyone is well - I feel so grumpy today, really premenstrual, crampy and shouty. And I also feel particularly UN-pregnant as well. And, one of my NCT group had their second child today. All in all, not one of my better days. Less than a week to test date, and really don't see the point today at all, I know what the result will be.

Soosy, I know exactly what you mean about the timing being not what you had expected. Once I'd decided I wanted children I wanted lots of children - a UK version of Cheaper by the Dozen - and considering I am now 38 with one child, it isn't going to plan! Still, I am incredibly grateful for DD and she definately isn't getting the shouty mummy, she gets all the niceness I have instead.

soosy · 18/06/2008 21:09

Congrats Britgirl hope the next 36 weeks go well!

Thanks OAP, I think probably we would have to schedule treatment during hols, which shouldn't be too bad. It shouldn't have taken this long to get pg again! I thought I would have my number 2 by now, and not juggling DS school and appointments!

I hope your 2ww is going ok.

Still haven't made my follow up appointment yet, must do it tomorrow.

Sx

swerve · 18/06/2008 16:58

britgirl! how wonderful!!! It does work! It does! It does!! congratulations! keep it safe and look after yourself.

OAP, glad to hear you're looking after 2. I hope this next week isn't too stressful and you keep your mind occupied on other things. I found it really important to think about other things (well, that's the theory at least!). We hope your bubbles are staying safe.

Britgirl58 · 18/06/2008 16:47

Hello Ladies,

I have just had a BFP this morning as a result of ICSI (TTC for 7 years. DH low sperm count and motility).

This has been my second cycle of IVF and me and DH are reeling from the happy shock.

I spend the 2ww desperately analysing every twinge my body made and had no obvious physical signs or symptoms that I was pregnant.

I just wanted to say to all you ladies doing treatment to keep up the optimism as medical science is a wondrous thing.

Keep your fingers crossed for the next 38 weeks for me!

Britgirl58

Onlyaphase · 17/06/2008 20:26

Hi Soosy

The travelling and staying in London actually worked out much better than i thought it would. I had visions of me, DH and DD spending one night on the houseboat and then I would have to phone a friend and beg for a spare room for a couple of weeks! In reality, it was lovely to be on the boat with DH, and DD adapted really well to keeping later hours than normal and not having a garden to play in. My biggest fear was always walking along the pontoons to get to the boat, but DD was harnessed up and I gripped her hands and harness each time and it worked fine, no untimely swimming!

Each of my clinic appointments was in the morning, so it would be about an hour and 15 minute drive each way. DD and DH came with me each time - there isn't any childcare at the clinic really and I didn't want to impose on the lovely nurses there, so DH had to come along. Plus DD is only 19 months so is very active and doesn't understand or follow instructions at all, so isn't at the best stage for leaving with a stranger for 15 minutes if it can be helped. For EC, DH went and did his bit first and then he took DD to the zoo for a couple of hours before collecting me.

I'd be happy to go back to the clinic again if need be, rather than find a new one. It is so much nicer to go back to a small clinic where you know people already.

For you though, do you have any other childcare or could you extend DS's hours at nursery at all? It is only for a couple of weeks after all.

Good luck finding a rental too - I had this last April and it was a nightmare, but we did have 2 dogs and cats and a small baby so weren't ideal tenants in retrospect. Once we found a house it was all pretty smooth. It is odd renting after so many years in your own house.

soosy · 17/06/2008 20:09

Hi OAP glad to hear all went well and you have two beanies on board. Have no move date trying to find a rental which is quite difficult. Have found one on internet tonight, but it looks nice and I am sure will go before we can look at it. Hoping to leave the smoke beginning August.

How did you find your treatment with all the travelling, as although we are not moving half as far as you I am not sure what to do for our remaining two vials of sperm, (last two attempts). DS will be in Nursery, but only mornings and I don't have enough time to get there and back in a morning, I suppose he would have to come with me, so I would arrange treatment during hols. Its all getting complicated and I am getting older, not a good mix.

Onlyaphase · 16/06/2008 22:31

Hi all

Well, I had two embryos replaced last Wednesday, so the mad driving up and down the country from London to Essex to North Yorkshire has temporarily stopped. I did think that we were solely responsible for petrol shortages at one point last week, shortly before we went to Scotland for the weekend. Mad though it sounds, I find I do less when I am at someone else's house and I am trying to keep as inactive as possible this week. I find it very difficult at home to not do the weeding/hoeing/lawn mowing that is so desperately needed, plus we only moved 6 weeks ago and the new kitchen is finally in place, so I have lots of unpacking and moving boxes to avoid as well. Easier if I'm not here really

I did find it less hard doing this cycle than before I think - I managed to get 10 eggs this time, more than ever before (yes, good news!) then only half fertilised (not so good) and then none left to freeze either. But I am determined not to second guess every symptom next week, and not to test before 25 June - last cycle I had virtually the same symptoms as on my successful cycle - faint nausea, dizziness, needing a wee in the night - which really messed with my mind when the cycle wasn't successful, so this time I am really going to try to forget about it and not second guess everything. I'm sure this will be easier said than done next week!

Hope everyone else is well. Soosy, do you have a move date yet?

soosy · 13/06/2008 21:15

Oh Nomore I am so sorry to hear your news I was so hoping it would be you.

Swerve, I would have told her she was damn lucky and then walked off!

OAP, how's it hanging out there in the 2ww, I assume you are there now.

I am just trying to get my head around our next move, before ringing the clinic with news of BFN, as they will rush me to a follow up appointment, and I want to think about my next move before rushing stuff, may want to go to a different clinic. There is a private one near to where we are moving, have no idea what it's like, but LOL it is run by the consultant I don't like at my present clinic! So not sure I want to be there.

Perhaps we should just start a new thread to get away from all this bad news!

Onlyaphase · 12/06/2008 20:33

Oh what dreadful news for you both, Soosy and NoMore. That is just awful for both of you, I'm so sorry.

coggy · 12/06/2008 19:23

Oh nomore....

swerve · 12/06/2008 12:47

nomore, i'm so sorry! i'm so disappointed for you.

mowmi, good luck with the house move.

mowmi · 12/06/2008 09:42

oh ladies, I'm so sorry...I really hoped for some good news.
It's so sad and unfair....
Swerve I echo the well done, how can some people be so damn insensitive?!
I'm moving house this weekend so I'll catch up again next week.
Try and stay strong x

nomoremagnolia · 12/06/2008 08:48

Afraid it's bad news ladies - looks like this thread is cursed. AF arrived this morning along with a BFN (I wanted to be 100% sure) Don't know what we're going to do next - I need to ring the clinic and arrange a follow-up meeting I guess.

muminafrica · 11/06/2008 14:13

Hello Ladies, thankyou for encouraging me to join you. I've been trying to read through the whole thread but my backside's numb so have opted for the first and last month instead.

Soosy, you're an inspiration! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

coggy · 11/06/2008 13:41

Swerve....I also congratulate you on walking away and not decking her!!!

She should know to be a little more empathetic.....most people I ignore their comments as they generally know no different...but for someone who's been thorugh it and knows that you are....that's just thoughtless!

coggy · 11/06/2008 13:39

Soosy...(((hugs)))

My period was delayed with the progesterone nomore. I assumed that was normal??
EVERYTHING crossed for you.
X

nomoremagnolia · 11/06/2008 10:50

oh soosy so sorry I thought we might just graduate together.
Think I will stick to testing Sat - keep thinking tomorrow is 14DPO so should be able to test then, this is the longest 2ww ever. My DSis was trying to get me to test at 10DPO with a first response test. I don't think I'd better ring her before Fri, she might persuade me to give in
Is it normal for your period to arrive as expected if you're not pg or does the progesterone delay things? If I get to 14/15DPO without period arriving do I let myself hope?

EHM · 11/06/2008 10:19

swerve some people just don't appreciate how lucky they are.good for you for walking away.