IVFers thread

Thanks Everybody. malaket good luck with your test tomorrow. I am not testing anymore now, we have our blood test on Monday am. Clinic advice blood test 2 weeks after transfer, if you don't want the blood test. Do urine test 2 days later after blood test is due. I am thinking there is no point in beating myself up with BFN, if the clinic are telling me not to do a urine test until this time. So as I've said before its not over until the big AF sings.

RedQuen I'm sure it's normal to be feeling a bit anxious and I'm sure that's what it is you're feeling, you don't really want to 'throw in the towel' I guess you're just scared of things being taken out of your control? I have felt the same before now - having got a job interview I'd convinced myself I wouldn't get the job and thought that I'd be better off pulling out than being rejected. It's just nerves, I'm sure of it. (BTW I got the job in question)
Best of luck - we're here to help you through it

malaket Somehow I had missed the fact you were also on the 2ww. Everything crossed for you too

EHM - Not sure of the time scale but it has to be quite a short period something like a couple of hours only.

Keeping everything crossed for you, I think I am going to do a test tomorrow, feeling scared to do one to be honest as I dont know what its going to read.

Having lots of activity going on, so heres to positive thinking.

I am on day 11 as well.

Hello to everyone, old and new, with a special wave over the border to JaneHH, Malaket, EHM ? not long to go now. Best, best, best of luck.

Well, I finally saw the consultant a week last Wednesday, and it?s now all systems go for starting down-regulation on 1 April (hopefully not a bad omen). The consultant said he estimates my chances as good, but I somehow suspect he says that to all the girls! Fortunately, the costs are not looking bad, with estimated total outlay at around ca. GBP 750.

I am actually feeling rather down about the whole thing at the moment. Is this normal? I thought I would feel nervous and excited, but I actually feel like just throwing in the towel. Someone give me a slap and tell me to pull myself together!

EHM everything crossed for you

Right, somebody has to have some good news soon on this thread. EHM, please let it be you

I've been looking at clinics in the north as I want to have another cycle in May/June, and I've found 3 that are OK. But the best one is booked until Sept, which is irritating, and the other two have success rates of 15 and 20% for 38-39 age group. My current clinic has rates of around 30%. DH has suggested that I sign up for the good clinic in the north in preparation for an Oct cycle, but come back to our existing clinic for a cycle in May/June. Am very tempted by this idea - saves all the hassle of getting more tests etc done by a new clinic...but it would mean spending about 2 weeks in the south again, after we have moved 250 miles north. Luckily we have a base in London for DH anyway - a houseboat - so it is possible. Why is everything so difficult!

Do we think SS is away? Hope she is slurping cocktails looking at white sands and blue sea and sky somewhere......

Sounds quite easy really Malaket, and as the clinic we are thinking about is about two miles down the road, we should be able to do it in the back of a cab!

NMM Sorry to hear you are unwell, we all had the D&V bug in Sept, it is truly vile, so sending hugs.

EHM, 11 days in keeping everything crossed for a different result...

S x

Nomore- feel better soon, and keeping everything crossed...

NMM sorry about D&V, although NHS does sound very efficient.good luck next month.
malaket wow transfering your frosties that sounds inpressive.is there a time scale in which it has to be done by?

I am day 11 no af no other symptoms either, did test yesterday BFN. Dont feel anything, i think we cause I haven't bled as yet so its not over until AF sings.

makalet, what an extraordinary thought, driving around with your frosties in the car! do you put them in a carseat? gently round those corners. you wouldn't want to spill..

soosy

They kept the frosties in Liquid Nitrogen in a frozen transporter which my husband collectd and took staright over to the new clinic for them to keep safe for us.

This would have cost us about £350 pounds, but instead we collected and delivered at no cost at all.

Think we had to put a deposit down for the transporter of about £50 and then had to return it back to he JR when finished with.

So its quite easy to move the litle frosties around.....

Hi all, just checking in
Was supposed to have my baseline scan and trial ET today but had to cancel as I've got a nasty D&V bug. The good thing that came out of it was that they said I could do it next month as it wouldn't affect the treatment which doesn't start til day 21 which I assume means we're set to go for the actual treatment on my next cycle Can't believe it has happened so quick (we're NHS funded for our first try) so despite the NHS-bashing re unfair rules/criteria, I can honestly say that we've been really impressed with the speed - I just wish they'd give us more than 1 go.

Hi again everyone

JaneHH here from way back on page 15(?) of this thread... have now read it all and caught up. Very sad to read the whole thread through knowing the outcomes already for a few people . I guess we all have to steel ourselves for the fact that it may not work for us either . But optimism is the way forward, of course... otherwise we wouldn't be on this thread now would we? Here's hoping for lots of BFP's all round this summer.

Just wanted to pop in and say hello. We've been referred for IVF + ICSI (for PGD if that means anything to anyone?) but haven't had our call-up letter yet so it's not just a 2ww for us but probably more like a 2mw before even anything like sniffing / injecting / pill-popping has to happen!

I got some people's names muddled up in my previous post, sorry It's RedQueen who's the German correspondent, not EHM! Sorry. RQ we will be reporting live from the continent together (I'm next door in Holland).

PS Onlyaphase had to smile at your mention of "freecycle" just before a discussion of NHS charges for IVF - if only our cycles WERE all free eh? Good luck with the clear-out!

Thanks Malaket, how did you do the transfer, as obviously you don't want them to defrost and what were they going to charge you.

Hi Soosy

We have been with the JR in Oxford for nearly 5 years and we decided we wanted a change.
There wasn't anything wrong with the JR we just fancied a change and a different view from a completely different consultant.

We had 3 frosties left at the JR and transferred them ourselves as they were going to charge us to do this if we hadn't, yes more bloody money. We arranged collection and then took them straight over to the new hospital.

The JR were fine with transferring the frosties over and the Chiltern in Bucks stored them for us there at the beginng of this year until we were ready to start our next frozen cycle.

Good luck.

No EHM not unhappy at all, it's just my consultant says that there are other treatments that may help, and our hospital doesn't offer these treatments as they are as yet 'unproven'. So it was our consultant who suggested a second opinion and I just wondered if we could take our frosties with us and start treatment with frozen cycle so that I wouldn't have to do another lot of ivf, as it would be my 15th cycle and the one before last and I finding it increasingly more difficult.

I wonder if I could have transfer etc at current hospital and other treatment at another clinic......

dont get me started on NHS & funding for everything other than IVF.

oopssoosy sorry we store our frosties at one clinic, they also did egg collection. We have our consultation at another as they have an agreement Not sure about moving frosties between clinics. Are you really unhappy with your current clinic?

Sorry I wasn't very clear about the transferring frosties, I meant from one clinic to another for different treatment, I just wondered if it was possible.

Bambilocket It is a hideous amount of money and although I would spend it again to have DS it does get me cross when some spotty teenager gets pg and gets loads of help from the government, but as a responsible married couple we cannot get any help to have a child. More NHS bashing!

Hope everyone on the 2WW had a restful day and was not blown away. Has anyone heard from SS?

S x

Hi everyone

Malaket, I had cramping and twinging when I was pg with gp

Soosy - 75K that is a lot but worth it of course! I've just put aside 10K for 3 rounds this year and have already spent 9.5K on two fresh rounds & one FT

don't get me started on the NHS - my other half had a child with a woman when he was very young and she has taken the child back to the Ukraine - he has no idea where they are and has never had any contact at all BUT guess what, the fact that the child exists meant that we couldn't get NHS treatment - AAAAHHH - still makes me angry years later...we waited something like 3 years on a NHS waiting list in London moved to East Sussex and no longer fulfilled critera AAAAHHHHH - like I said before, I have PCOS and endometriosis, these are illnesses the side effect of which for me is infertility, and in my book its one of the most devastating side effects any illness can affect adn it should be treated by teh nhs on the nhs,... can't even type straight it p*ses ne ofoff so mcuh!"

Anyway, everything is p ing me off due to effects of buserilin and haven't even been injecting for a week yet! God help me by April!

SWERVE! so sorry it didn't work this time - it's so so disappointing you think that the world should come to a halt and it doesn't. Good luck with deciding what to do next.

Got to go, fingers crossed for those still on 2ww.
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hi guys

Im on day 9 of 2ww and its killing me, really tempted to do a test but know its probably to early, what do you all think ?

This is the worst part, I can deal with the treatment but its this 2ww that does me.

Just fancied a moan, working at present and cant concentrate on anything!!!!

Still have lots of cramping and twinging going on, I am hoping and praying its a positive sign.

we had frosties transfered on 3rd & dd was a frostie.the frosties are all from the same batch. we have 2 left in storage.

soosy just read your post £75K! wow

sorry not caught up with thread. just wanted to say day 9 of 2ww. will keep you all posted. Hope you are all well, looking after yourselvess. hello to anybody new since my last post.