First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

I feel like I'm a very late joiner but thinking about hopping back on a TTC thread again 😀

Trying for my first for 2 years now, on waitlist to see a specialist for 1 year due to PCOS. Had a little break from tracking as I wasn't ovulating and it was honestly making me a little depressed/slightly obsessive. But I've just read a book that's given me a boost so I'm going to track again, maybe even kick my body to ovulate!

My cycles are usually between 44-100 days but have been 44 for the last 3 now. I've had some fresh spotting for a couple of days so if my period comes soon it may be a 35 day cycle which is quite exciting for me 😅

@TinyDancer91 trying to read back through all the posts and spotted that you're looking at speaking to a GP, just wanted to say that whilst I'm on a long wait list my husband was able to get a semen analysis scheduled really really quickly through his GP. Always good to cross him off the list of variables if you haven't already 😊

@CE1993 also cycle 3! fingers crossed for you 🤞 men don't get it do they 🤣 x

@thecoconutcat I’m on cycle 3, hoping to be 3rd time lucky this month. What about you?

Ah ok thanks, I might order some if I can convince my partner - his initial opinion on ttc was “it’ll surely happen straight away without contraception” so I think he’s slowly coming round to the fact that it’s not that straight forward 😂 xx

Thanks @CE1993 - no idea what's going on for me!! fingers crossed for us all TTC 🙏 yes we both take Pregnacare vitamins www.boots.com/vitabiotics-pregnacare-him-and-her-conception-60-tablets-10099416

What cycle are you on? xxx

@thecoconutcat isn’t it! Keep us updated on your FRER, my fingers are crossed🤞 Do you take any pregnancy vitamins? Not sure whether to give them a go or not xx

@CE1993 if this month is unsuccessful that's what I'm going to do too - so easy to get obsessed xx

@Babydust99 yes x

Hope everyone’s ok 😊

I’m CD 10 today so early days for me. Does everyone use ovulation tests every month? I used them last month but got a bit obsessed with them so trying to stay away this month and just dtd every other day, anyone else the same? X

@thecoconutcat did you use opks to predict ovulation?

3 days late, nothing. In my entire life I've never had a cycle that wasn't 27-28 days. Haven't got access to a FRER test yet. Yesterday did a premom pregnancy test which showed nothing. My body has all the signs of an upcoming period but nothing else. What is going on!?

@thecoconutcat let us know how it goes 🤞

@Babydust99 thank you I'll have a try...

@thecoconutcat I don't think clearblue are very sensitive, you'd be best trying to get some frer if you can

Hi @Babydust99 I'm using clear blue weeks indicator tests. I'm apparently 15dpo, cd28 and I'm always regular

@thecoconutcat definitely try with fmu tomorrow if you can. Which tests are you using? How many dpo are you?

Cycle 3, period is late but BFN. Although I did test this evening which I know isn't recommended as morning urine is better. Any idea what might be going on ?! @TinyDancer91 glad you've got a bit of a plan moving forward ❤

How's everyone doing? I'm just waiting for af

Hi @TinyDancer91

I'm cycle 3 day 9. Still getting used to the process but feeling a bit down the last week. My cousin announced their pregnancy and my mum immediately rang me to ask how I felt about it. I said happy but she kept on asking - I found it very weird and stressful. I haven't told her we are trying as she gets very stressed about change and can be a bit intrusive sometimes

Hi @TinyDancer91

It's good that you have the appointment booked in and you're feeling clearer about the next steps. Hope everything goes well at the doctors and you get some positive actions from the appoontment.

I'm CD7, cycle 6. Not feeling very in the mood to DTD but will probably start every other day either Thursday or Friday. Really hoping cycle 6 is our lucky cycle.
It has been a bit brutal to be TTC iin our friend / family group with lots of pregnancy announcements in the past few weeks. Felt very jealous and upset that these people have what I want so desperately.

Feeling a bit more positive the past few days. I am now hopeful that I will be pregnant by XMas / NY and hopefully not to early to share with close family and friends. I know it's stupid to put an arbitrary time limit on it, setting myself up for more upset, but never mind

@TinyDancer91, so sorry to hear that you're struggling so much - I get what you mean about feeling empty - I'm trying to stay positive and am keeping going but at the same time I think if I got pregnant I'd be shocked! It's strange and hard. I just wanted to say that we've had a great and really supported experience with the GP. I probably got lucky in having such a proactive GP take my phone appt because he referred me to the fertility clinic at the hospital right away (after a year of trying), but I can't see why after a year you wouldn't also be referred based on your age. I'm 33. We have had all our tests done really promptly, by caring staff who have explained what tests are going to come when and what they tell us etc - it's been so lovely to feel like there's someone who wants to help. Hang in there, you maybe just need some help too Xx

Hi @MorganLeBast, there might be some useful information on HSE's website here? www.hse.gov.uk/mothers/

Hey everyone!

I mentioned on an earlier post coming across a couple on instagram who had been TTC for 2 years and are now pregnant with identical twins. I’ve just found their YouTube and some of their videos are really informative and reassuring so I thought I’d share ☺️

m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qyr1rclg_Go

Hope you’re all having a great weekend 💖

Hi guys, any room for another TTCer?
So after a couple of months of taking time off from ttc...(trust me it is was needed)...we are back trying. Over two years now.

I don't usually share but...
The people I would talk to in real life, one announced her pregnancy during our family holiday, another just got pregnant straightaway, my favourite person is gearing up to ttc in may next year (she already has two girls, but something feels off when I speak to her) and the last one just gave birth and is hoping to conceive the next one as quick as the first.

And I'm just down in the dumps, feeling lonely and sorry for myself.

(I already have one child, I am grateful, I am...honest- but let me weep, tears can give clarity right?!)

This was the first cycle back, the ovulation tests I used wouldn't give a thick test line, just a thin one, but luckily I think we did catch the peak. Either way LH is going downwards.

The part which worries me is my cervical mucus, my cervix is still high and soft, but I have blood mixed into my mucus.
Blood always worries me. I also have back pain. Back pain also worries me.

Crazy questions go through my head, did it not implant correctly, is there something wrong with my lining, is their something wrong with my cervix?

I wish I had some positives to give right now, rather than just feeling worried.

Something has changed within me when we took this break- before when we trying I did want baby number two...
But now...
I really really want number two, I heard older mums say you will know when you are ready for number two, and that's so true for me.

I'm not afraid to be a mummy anymore, I'm afraid I'll never get to experience life in my belly again.

...let's see what happens for this cycle.