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First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

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TinyDancer91 · 01/01/2022 19:55

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC Smile

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here Smilex

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TinyDancer91 · 14/01/2022 21:47

Guys, I got a BFP, but not the kind we want... I got it on a Covid test 😩😭

I have too much on this next few weeks with work to be out with Covid!!

NOT the BFP I wanted to see...

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Mariabombia · 14/01/2022 19:50

@CrazyCatLady95 aw mine too, she's Siamese so very chatty!

Ooo well that's brilliant, keep us posted 😊& thank you! Xx

CrazyCatLady95 · 14/01/2022 19:04

@Mariabombia same my girl follows me and shouts at me all day 😂😍
Yes I'm very shocked it happened so quickly tbh! Still very cautious but I actually don't have any tips! I think we must have got very lucky with the days we dtd as the timing was awful, my OH went onto nights just as I ovulated! We dtd in the morning and I went back to sleep for a bit straight away, thought more chances of helping the swimmers up there! Good luck for this cycle x

Mariabombia · 14/01/2022 18:53

@CrazyCatLady95 I have one and she's my fur-baby haha , literally follows me everywhere like a shadow !!

That's brilliant that it's happened so quickly I'm going in to my 4th cycle now :/ Any tips haha?

All the best for a strong line tomorrow but it looks promising so far💕

CrazyCatLady95 · 14/01/2022 15:15

[quote Mariabombia]@CrazyCatLady95 I love your name!! How many do you have haha? Congratulations by the way, you must be over the moon! What cycle are you on? I hope I join you with a BFP this month!!

@Sunrise321 I'm sure you sent a message but I can't see it now! Hope you're well?

@Bluets I'm C9 and still testing negative on the old OPKs, FW due to be next week so still feeling chilled like you at the mo 🤞🏻fingers crossed we can stay chill

@Florrie95 so sorry, glad you're okay though ❤️

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@Mariabombia haha thank you! Only two cats but I feel like they're my children anyway they're a handful 😂 I'm only on cycle 2 now, 11/12 dpo today. I am just hoping when I test tomorrow that the line is still there! Still not 100% convinced due to such a faint line. Will find out tomorrow morning 😬

Mariabombia · 14/01/2022 14:58

That should say CD9!

Wish you could go in edit your posts sometimes 🤨

Mariabombia · 14/01/2022 14:56

@CrazyCatLady95 I love your name!! How many do you have haha? Congratulations by the way, you must be over the moon! What cycle are you on? I hope I join you with a BFP this month!!

@Sunrise321 I'm sure you sent a message but I can't see it now! Hope you're well?

@Bluets I'm C9 and still testing negative on the old OPKs, FW due to be next week so still feeling chilled like you at the mo 🤞🏻fingers crossed we can stay chill

@Florrie95 so sorry, glad you're okay though ❤️

ERachD · 14/01/2022 13:27

@Florrie95 I'm so sorry. But great to hear you're doing okay. Love your positivity!

Florrie95 · 14/01/2022 13:23

Hi all, I think I had a chemical pregnancy this month. I hadnt tested in a couple of days, today is 13dpo AF was due yesterday and these are the tests I just took. The lines are much lighter than the last time I took a test so im assuming chemical. I feel weirdly okay, I hadn't even told DH yet as it was so early. Disappointed but taking comfort that whatever we did this month worked, at least initially. Now waiting for AF to start again 🤞 I'll be back! 😂

First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...
Bluets · 14/01/2022 08:10

Congratulations to you @CrazyCatLady95 that's wonderful news! As others have said I hope the reaction was a fleeting moment and your OH is settling into it and getting excited.

It's really tricky to navigate our own feelings and emotions alongside those of whoever is on the journey with us.

I'm on CD4 so feeling as relaxed as it gets right now but that'll all change in a week or so I'm sure. The very concept of time gets changed by trying to conceive! Sending all of you in the two week wait lots of positivity and chill vibes through the ether!

FlyOnTheWall89 · 14/01/2022 06:32

@CrazyCatLady95 oh sorry for that reaction! Has it happened quite quickly for you? I think it's probably just a realisation - once it settles in I'm sure he will give you more of the reaction you hoped for 💕. It is a very different experience for men and women 😂, we just get way more emotionally involved... hence Mumsnet and the speed of these threads 😂. X

lilrosemarie · 14/01/2022 05:29

@CrazyCatLady95

I'm 10/11 dpo today and had a faint positive on frer this morning! Won't be completely convinced until the line is darker though! So will test again in a few days
Congrats!! This is such a good line for 10dpo. 👏🏻

I’m on CD30 today. Usually 28-29 cycles. Took a test yesterday - bfn. I don’t know if I’m still in tbh or I’m just waiting for AF to roll around. 😪

CrazyCatLady95 · 13/01/2022 23:04

Thanks @lakejupiter I hope so too!

lakejupiter · 13/01/2022 22:20

Oh no @CrazyCatLady95 - that's not a super reassuring reaction! I hope he gets more excited. I've got no idea about romantic relationships with men but sometimes my (gay) coparent can seem less excited about something or less enthusiastic but he's just showing it in a different way/more cautious. I hope the BFP sticks and that you both start to feel happier ❤️

CrazyCatLady95 · 13/01/2022 20:50

Mostly bloating, funny pulling/cramping sensations, mild nausea. I'm feeling a little deflated now tbh, OH came home from work this evening and I showed him the test with the faint line and he said "uh oh..." not the reaction I was hoping for. I think he's still scared abs in denial that it would actually happen.

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TinyDancer91 · 13/01/2022 20:17

@CrazyCatLady95 I'm about 9dpo. I knows it's too early for anything to show yet. Convinced this will not be my time yet anyway, think I just need the confirmation from AF!

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rcal1988 · 13/01/2022 18:35

Huge congratulations @CrazyCatLady95 that’s amazing news! Did you have any symptoms? I’m 10DPO and trying to wait until 14DPO before testing but think it might be a struggle. Nothing feels different though so keep thinking this is not my month. Must try and be more positive!

CrazyCatLady95 · 13/01/2022 15:15

Thank you @lakejupiter @TinyDancer91. What dpo are you @TinyDancer91? 💖

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TinyDancer91 · 13/01/2022 15:13

@CrazyCatLady95 yay, fingers crossed for a darker line and BFP in the next few days!!

I'm trying my hardest to stop myself from testing yet, trying to hold out until at least Saturday hopefully I can wait until after that. AF due Tuesday.

Have we had any more BFPs?

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lakejupiter · 13/01/2022 14:27

Yayyyyy for your bfp @CrazyCatLady95 ❤️

I'm 3dpo and feeling a bit lost tbh. Because of the way I'm TTC (with a gay coparent via home insemination) I put a lot of effort into researching and planning our first inseminations and now it's done I don't know what to do with myself! I also got a bit obsessed with tracking my ovulation over the last few months and I've carried on doing OPKs for some reason despite having already ovulated and done all our inseminations for the month 😂

CrazyCatLady95 · 13/01/2022 14:11

I'm 10/11 dpo today and had a faint positive on frer this morning! Won't be completely convinced until the line is darker though! So will test again in a few days

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First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...
Sunrise321 · 13/01/2022 13:48

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Mariabombia · 13/01/2022 13:08

How's everyone doing so far this week? Where is everyone in their cycle? 💕

Bluets · 12/01/2022 18:17

@TinyDancer91 thanks for the tip about the app and free tests, my order of these came today strangely enough!

I'm going a bit old school this cycle and using a notebook to record the results of the OPKs and make general notes. I'm also continuing to use the Clue app

Pickles91 · 12/01/2022 18:17

@TinyDancer91 I have the app but not the free tests. Is that the paid membership??