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First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

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TinyDancer91 · 01/01/2022 19:55

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC Smile

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here Smilex

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S0lipsism · 18/01/2022 17:05

Congrats on all the positives so far & big hugs to the continuing tryers.

Just wondering how long did everyone take folic acid for before TTC? The full 3 months?
I know the advice is 2 months minimum, but even that seems like an age...

rcal1988 · 18/01/2022 16:21

Sorry to hear AF showed up @Zubi sending lots of positive vibes for the next cycle 😘

Zubi · 18/01/2022 16:05

AF returned today! I feel like the pain is worse because I'm trying haha

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TinyDancer91 · 17/01/2022 21:37

Congratulations @rcal1988!!

On the Covid front, I test negative today!! Fingers crossed for another negative tomorrow so I can end my isolation 😄

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PAJ21 · 17/01/2022 21:27

Hi all,
We are currently TTC too. DH and I are both 28 and I have only told my BF as she has recently given birth. We used an EDT this cycle and the following day AF arrived. DH was absolutely devastated. Hope you all got some good news Smile xx

rcal1988 · 17/01/2022 21:15

Thank you so much @Mariabombia and @Nyxxieny 🙂 had a bit of a panic tonight when I had a small amount of brown discharge this evening but I’m trying not to worry too much. Maybe just implantation bleeding coming out. Took another test to calm the nerves 🙈 wonder how many more I’ll do…

Nyxxie · 17/01/2022 21:09

@rcal1988 yay, huge congratulations!!!

Mariabombia · 17/01/2022 20:08

@rcal1988 ahhh!!! Massive congratulations 🎉 that would explain the cramps wouldn't it. You must be over the moon xxx

RenoSweeney · 17/01/2022 18:47

Hi everyone! We’re at this stage too and I’ve just read your thread and wondered if I could join? I’m so nervous!!

littlecontis · 17/01/2022 17:34

That is such a BFP! Congrats @rcal1988 !!

Zubi · 17/01/2022 17:32

@rcal1988 this is so exciting!!! Congrats!!! You must be over the moon!! ♥️

CrazyCatLady95 · 17/01/2022 17:24

@rcal1988 I phoned my GP today and got booked in for 8 weeks with midwife. Currently 4+1 today! Congratulations!!

WildePanda · 17/01/2022 17:21

@rcal1988 wonderful those calls are the best part of the job 😁

rcal1988 · 17/01/2022 17:18

@WildePanda according to my app I’m now 4+3 so I should probably phone tomorrow! Thank you for the advice 🙂

WildePanda · 17/01/2022 17:16

@rcal1988 amazing!! That's a lovely line, I work at a doctors and we normally say to call when you think you are about 4 weeks so set that in your calendar 📅 😀

rcal1988 · 17/01/2022 17:14

@lakejupiter thank you! I just can’t believe it. I don’t want to get too happy as I know it’s still so early but omg aaaahhh! 😂
@WildePanda I’m 14DPO today. I think I’ll take another one in a day or 2 then I guess phone the doctor?! Don’t really know what you’re supposed to do 🤣

WildePanda · 17/01/2022 17:12

@rcal1988 amazing! What dpo are you on? Xx

lakejupiter · 17/01/2022 17:11

Omg huge congratulations @rcal1988 !!!!!!!!

rcal1988 · 17/01/2022 17:04

So this happened today…I am completely shocked as I was convinced nothing was going on! Only symptom I’ve had was mild cramps and that’s it! No sore boobs like I would normally get before AF. I am literally gobsmacked but so happy. Will test again soon to really believe it. Wishing you all baby dust

First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...
littlecontis · 17/01/2022 11:50

[quote Mariabombia]@Zubi I know what you mean, last month I thought we'd DTD at the right times, used OPKs etc and then BFN, so disappointing....

@lilrosemarie that sounds really promising!!! Have you tested again?

@littlecontis I'm in my fertile week & still testing negative on OPKs too , meant to ovulate on Friday! I'm sure I was getting flashing smileys this time last month though.
Which ones are you using? I'm doing two this month 🤦‍♀️ clear blue advanced and the pre mom one. [/quote]
@Mariabombia I just bought some cheapish one from eBay... £4.60 for 30 OPKs and 10 pregnancy tests.

Mariabombia · 17/01/2022 11:46

@TinyDancer91 hope you're feeling okay! Fingers crossed for next month 💕 xxx

Mariabombia · 17/01/2022 11:44

@Zubi I know what you mean, last month I thought we'd DTD at the right times, used OPKs etc and then BFN, so disappointing....

@lilrosemarie that sounds really promising!!! Have you tested again?

@littlecontis I'm in my fertile week & still testing negative on OPKs too , meant to ovulate on Friday! I'm sure I was getting flashing smileys this time last month though.
Which ones are you using? I'm doing two this month 🤦‍♀️ clear blue advanced and the pre mom one.

littlecontis · 17/01/2022 08:09

I'm in my fertile window and I've been testing negative using OPKs. We still DTD last night anyway and hope to see a positive OPK these couple of days! Will DTD every other day...need to think of more ways to seduce OH lol 😂

lilrosemarie · 17/01/2022 05:43

Still no period on CD33. The last time I tested was I think 3-4 days ago, but negative. Usually my cycles are between 28-29. Longest was 32. 😬 Do you think if I was pregnant I would have tested + when I did a test a few days ago? I see so many positives on 10dpo or a little later👀

Zubi · 17/01/2022 01:49

@Mariabombia we are still early on to be fair, just blows my mind how sometimes it can be an accident and other people will try so hard, what are the odds. The whole process blows my mind really I've learnt a lot! Haha