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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

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TinyDancer91 · 01/01/2022 19:55

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC Smile

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here Smilex

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rcal1988 · 20/01/2022 19:23

Yay delighted for you @MrsG2021! 😁 very surreal feeling isn’t it. Congratulations!

MrsG2021 · 20/01/2022 19:14

Turns out that my ‘late’ period is more baby than booster! The second line appeared pretty much instantly this morning! I’m delighted but it feels so surreal!

littlecontis · 20/01/2022 17:17

@Mariabombia my AF is due on 4 Feb, DTD two days in a row and don't think my OH would be keen for another night lol! Although I don't have high hopes I do really hope we'd get a BFP soon. My cycle is really regular so I guess I'll find out on 4 Feb. When will you test?

Nyxxie · 20/01/2022 12:26

Sorry if TMI but I'm a little excited as I have EWCM today so hoping my body is starting to ovulate again after coming off the pill! 🤞🤞

GAAJ04 · 20/01/2022 10:34

@MrsG2021

Hi everyone.

Sorry for being a bit quiet on here recently, work has been very busy! Huge congratulations to all those who have had BFPs. How exciting!

According to Clue’s estimates my period is three days late but I’m pretty sure I ovulated later than usual due to my booster so I reckon that by Friday, I would officially be ‘late’. Do you reckon that I should take a test tomorrow morning when I’m 13DPO or wait a bit longer? I have some FRERs waiting in the cupboard that I’m desperate to use ha! It’s only the first proper cycle of trying for us so I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much as the late period probably just down to my booster but I can’t help myself!

Hey, I'm currently 4 days late, I've taken to test - one before I was due and one on the day I was due. Going to test tomorrow I think as so far I'm negative! All very strange as I'm normally very regular with my periods
rcal1988 · 19/01/2022 21:21

@MrsG202113dpo is a great time to wait until and you’ve done well to hold off until now. Let us know how you get on and fingers crossed for you!

Cookiedough123 · 19/01/2022 20:45

@MrsG2021 yes test then come back and tell us how you've got on 🙂

MrsG2021 · 19/01/2022 19:05

Hi everyone.

Sorry for being a bit quiet on here recently, work has been very busy! Huge congratulations to all those who have had BFPs. How exciting!

According to Clue’s estimates my period is three days late but I’m pretty sure I ovulated later than usual due to my booster so I reckon that by Friday, I would officially be ‘late’. Do you reckon that I should take a test tomorrow morning when I’m 13DPO or wait a bit longer? I have some FRERs waiting in the cupboard that I’m desperate to use ha! It’s only the first proper cycle of trying for us so I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much as the late period probably just down to my booster but I can’t help myself!

Mariabombia · 19/01/2022 17:54

@littlecontis yay cycle buddies! When is AF due for you?

Good plan on the lingerie front!! Haha. This TTC journey is making me feel not very sexy tbh, I'm on cycle 4 but feel like it's cycle 800. I wish I could just chill out about it all 🤦‍♀️

Also you never know, your first cycle could be the winning cycle lol xx

JoeMalon3y · 19/01/2022 16:29

Hi everyone!

Hoping I can join this thread after reading all the posts... congratulations to lol of you that have your BFP already and baby dust to everyone who is still trying!

Trying for baby #1 over here age 32 & 33 this is my first proper cycle of tracking (we've been taking the relaxed approach since October), supposed to ovulate today so my 2WW is imminent... hoping for a positive result this month I've also got some conceive+ lubricant along with taking my folic acid, Vit D and DHAs...fingers crossed for us all ✨😘

rcal1988 · 19/01/2022 16:24

Thank you so much @Bluets! Looking forward to hearing how you ladies get on over the next few weeks Smile

littlecontis · 19/01/2022 16:12

@Mariabombia I am in my fertile week! DTD on Sunday and yesterday and will again tonight 😂 my first TTC cycle so don't have high hopes. Plan to get more lingerie tho...!

Bluets · 19/01/2022 13:01

Congratulations @rcal1988 how exciting!!

Bailey's egg has me honestly LOL'ing.

Welcome @Ejk1990 and @PAJ21 and any others I missed while being chill in the early part of my cycle! Grin

I used my first OPK today (CD9). Suffice to say I will be less chill very soon! My Clue app has my predicted ovulation day as 26th Jan and my Garmin Connect has my fertile week as 22nd - 28th Jan so I'll be really interested to see how accurate that is against the OPKs. I watched a youtube video detailing how someone used OPKs and created a notebook/diary to track it. Inspired by that, I made my own version and printed it off and I'm enjoying the feeling of being more active in my recording/understanding of my cycle.

Ejk1990 · 19/01/2022 11:14

Hi all! First time posting 🙂

Me and my husband have decided to start trying for baby. I had my implant removed on 14/12 and after 10 years without a period I got my first one today (haven't missed this feeling!).

We are 31 and 32 and have been together for 12 years, married for 6. So I think its time.

Looking forward to posting my journey, really a tad overwhelmed!

Mariabombia · 19/01/2022 10:47

Static smiley on CB advanced today !

DTD on Sunday but didn't yesterday :/....do you think we're still covered if we DTD today & tomorrow?

Anyone else in their fertile week??

Xx

S0lipsism · 18/01/2022 18:18

[quote Zubi]@S0lipsism when you're pregnant please nickname your baby 'Bailey' 😂😂[/quote]
Done! A bailey bump instead of a baby bump..

Zubi · 18/01/2022 18:15

@S0lipsism when you're pregnant please nickname your baby 'Bailey' 😂😂

S0lipsism · 18/01/2022 17:58

[quote Zubi]@S0lipsism hahaha the old baileys egg!! When I had my coil removed, the nurse practitioner told me just one month of taking them would be fine. I think the general advice is about 3 months but I wouldn't worry if you wanted to try now I'm sure your baileys eggs are in tip top condition![/quote]
Ooh exciting I might just go for it in Feb and blame you if I end up with a baby that wants booze in it's milk 🥰

lakejupiter · 18/01/2022 17:54

Can't stop laughing at Baileys egg 😂

Zubi · 18/01/2022 17:44

@Horriblewoman I wouldn't worry about it! Maybe try some ovulation sticks to help get you in the rhythm of knowing when you ovulate? I found them really helpful!

Zubi · 18/01/2022 17:40

@S0lipsism hahaha the old baileys egg!! When I had my coil removed, the nurse practitioner told me just one month of taking them would be fine. I think the general advice is about 3 months but I wouldn't worry if you wanted to try now I'm sure your baileys eggs are in tip top condition!

S0lipsism · 18/01/2022 17:16

@Horriblewoman

I consider myself a relatively clever woman but this is like another language!

We've tentatively started, but no measurement of ovulation days beyond my app and just seeing what happens. Feel a bit stupid now!

I'm also only 'apping' to start with at least. And maybe keep an eye on your CM 🤷‍♀️
S0lipsism · 18/01/2022 17:15

@lakejupiter

Hi *@S0lipsism* - I started taking it in September before beginning TTC in Jan but that's partly as I'm older so there's more risk of neural tube stuff. Tbh I think it's just a guideline - nobody who gets pregnant accidentally takes it beforehand.
Thanks for that. That's true although I'd hate to risk it unnecessarily... the booster has delayed my schedule so I was wondering whether to go for it in Feb instead of March 🧐 I read that eggs take 3 months to develop and I don't want an old Baileys egg from Christmas but my science could be flawed 😂
Horriblewoman · 18/01/2022 17:13

I consider myself a relatively clever woman but this is like another language!

We've tentatively started, but no measurement of ovulation days beyond my app and just seeing what happens. Feel a bit stupid now!

lakejupiter · 18/01/2022 17:11

Hi @S0lipsism - I started taking it in September before beginning TTC in Jan but that's partly as I'm older so there's more risk of neural tube stuff. Tbh I think it's just a guideline - nobody who gets pregnant accidentally takes it beforehand.