First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

@ohlife08 I'm 32 aswell so I feel like we should get bonus points for all the times we actively prevented it 😂 I used the ovulation sticks and they showed a peak LH at the expected time the month after my first period back so that might be an idea for you, put my mind at easy that the cogs are still turning x

@WildePanda I had the mirena too, found it amazing whilst I needed it (we've been together for 12 years but only recently married/bought a house so we finally feel in a good position - now just hoping I've not left it too late!) Sorry to hear AF showed , best of luck for the next go xx Just hoping now that they may be more regular after such a long 'reset', although who knows, the body is a funny old thing!

@ohlife08 I had my mirena coil out in December after 10 years (3 coils one after the other no break) was yours mirena or copper? We were on cycle 2 until AF showed her ugly head today. On to the next one eh! My cycle before the coil was really short but now seems to be a little bit longer so I think its normal for the delay xx

First CB is the latest test I took (FMU) - on Sunday.
The other two were before and not fmu.

I’m well out of my two week wait … according to my Flo app I’m 6 days late. 🙄😬 And I had what I think are two evaps on Clear Blue test. For six days late these two should have appeared right away not 10 and more minutes after. 🙈🥺 So I’m definitely not trusting them.

Also took a FRER and it was so faint I could barely see anything … that was on 3 days late.

I’m just so annoyed AF is so late and I don’t have a definite answer. 🥺

Thanks @taytay2020 I went and got some well woman pre conception tablets today (3 for 2 so got a packet for dp) and I took my first one! Figured that I/we should be as healthy as possible (especially with our ages in mind) if it’s to happen.

Planning on getting my implant whipped out pretty sharpish but we don’t really dtd that often (one thing that I’m hoping might come with implant removal will be a sex drive as though I love dtd with dp, I generally have no desire to, and I really really want to- he’s great at it!) it could take months/years though if we’re lucky enough so I guess we could just see what happens for a few months.

One thing though, the tablets say ‘up to 3 months pre conception’, presumably a lot of people take longer than that to conceive, should you stop taking them if you hit the 3 months or something?

Hi all, hope it's ok to join you! I'm 32 (DH is 36), just starting the journey of TTC #1. I've never had a regular cycle, then between that and being on microgynon for 5 years (back to back so no break week due to severe pain if I did have AF) followed by the coil, I've not had AF in around 8/9 years. I had the coil out last month, had severe anxiety that I'd never get AF or ovulate but AF kindly came on Saturday - I've never been happy for that due to the excruciating pain but I was over the moon haha! So I'm hoping maybe for once I can get a vaguely regular cycle, we'll see... The Dr's have said that as I've been on birth control for so long even though they were irregular before, they won't investigate for a year - so wish I'd had this taken out longer ago!! Can anybody recommend a good tracker that's easy to use?
Huge congrats to all BFP's on here and best of luck to everyone else

@excited101 I'm a planner too, and for the first few months of ttc I was constantly thinking ahead to 'if it happens this month, how pg would I be on X date, what would I have to cancel in 8-10 months time, maybe I shouldn't book Y into my diary when I might not be able to do it' etc. It was so tiring! Fast forward a year and I know that if I have to cancel a load of stuff due to getting pg at a certain time it will NOT be my fault! 😀
I don't think there's ever a perfect time, or if there is, you can't guarantee it will happen at that moment anyway.
This isn't really advice, as it's a decision only you and your partner can make, but I hope you know you're not alone!

I hope it’s ok for me to (very tentatively) join here, I posted on another thread but it was right near the end of a really big and busy (and full) thread and it got lost in amongst car seat and nappy posts!!

I’m starting to seriously think about ttc but there’s so much to think about and I don’t know who to speak to. Dp is brilliant, and he had 2 teens already, were in the process of buying a house together but it’s a rather complicated situation (don’t want to out self) that won’t be fully sorted out until 2 years after the completion! But we can’t wait that long really as he is mid 50s and I am mid 30s.

I’m utterly terrified of something going wrong, us not being able to conceive, or the child having disabilities due to our ages and it’s taking all of the excitement out of things. That and loss of wages during maternity and how that could affect our remortgage in 2+ years down the line.

All I ever wanted was to a wife and a mum, and I want desperately to feel excited and happy but I’m so scared of things going wrong 😔 I’m a bit more of a planner but he is much more of a go with the flow type. We have discussed me coming off contraception and the more I’m reading about how long it can take, the more I feel like I should do is ASAP even though I’d rather be in more of a settled position, maybe that time will never come! Is there really ever a right time?!

That aside, I want to give it the best chance, but it sounds like a minefield if supplements etc. What really is the best thing I can do at this stage of rather obsessive pre planning?

[quote taytay2020]@GAAJ04 congratulations! That's so exciting! What cycle was this for you? Have you told your partner yet?

I've been so bad at keeping up with mumsnet, but I'm still reading where I can. Congrats to all the bfps so far on this thread! [/quote]
I can't remember, cycle 8 maybe, I stopped counting lol
Yea he was with me when I took the test! So much emotion right now x

@GAAJ04 congratulations! That's so exciting! What cycle was this for you? Have you told your partner yet?

I've been so bad at keeping up with mumsnet, but I'm still reading where I can. Congrats to all the bfps so far on this thread!

Ooh hi girls, please may I join too? First timer, also 30yo.

Just about to crack on with 3rd cycle of TTC. We’ve been tracking ovulation, taking supplements, and timing DTD. I was so ignorant to ‘the journey’, and stupidly thought it would happen straight away. Silly me! I’ve got a thermometer and pre-seed now too, and have completely cut out alcohol.

Maybe I should NC to DogsAndNoGin! One week til ovulation!

Good luck everyone

I told a test this morning 3 to be exact!!! I'm positive!!!! Says in 1-2 weeks so trying to remain calm!

@TinyDancer91 there's nothing more frustrating! My AF due today but not here yet, took a test this morn but BFN, fingers crossed next month for us!!

@TinyDancer91 I'm sorry, af is such a cow 😞

I have raging PMS and mild cramps today, af due on Saturday, so have a feeling she might be surprising me early

So lovely to see so many BFPs here! No news for us, AF arrived a day early this month so no need to test. On the positive it looks like my cycles are pretty regular after coming off the pill in late November. Fingers crossed that this is the month! Sending luck to everyone!

Hi all! I would love to join this thread too. I'm 34 and my OH is 38. I've been off contraceptive for 2yrs now (but using pull out method for first year ish). Then for a few months a relaxed view of getting pregnant (not doing OPK or timing sex). But after no results decided we needed to take things seriously so it's been 2 months of OPK, which have been very weird as I got covid early Dec and then booster mid Jan, so my cycles have been crazy!
I should also add that I've got endometriosis. I know it's still possible to get pregnant but chances are lower. Luckily, I've got a date for my laparoscopy to remove the Endo 1st of March so hoping that will help.
Same as many of you, my OH finds it very hard to believe that babies don't happen when having unprotected sex once
I got my laparoscopy surgery date a few days after my ovulation and we had already DTD but I'm still hoping I get a BFP and anxious but at the same time thinking it would be better to wait until after the surgery.
Never thought I would be so anxious about this whole process and love being able to share this here (as with many of you, we aren't telling anyone we are trying).

Hi ladies, I hope it's okay for me to jump back on this thread. I got a BFP in Jan but sadly it wasn't meant to be 💛 I think I may have just ovulated again so getting back on the TTC train. Hope you're all doing well x

Absolutely none at all. I was having trouble sleeping for over a week (wakinh from 4am onwards and I usually sleep like a log) but I couldn't guarantuee that was attributed to pregnancy given it was happening for quiet a while. Today I have some very mild cramping which I'm hoping is totally normal but as its my first pregnancy I have no idea!