First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

Brain dump time... I came off the pill in late March and had a BFP followed by a miscarriage at 6 weeks in April. I saw no reason not to try again straight away so started using OPKs which showed a surge on Sunday morning. We DTD on Sunday afternoon and Monday night but now I'm panicking that we missed it and (irrationally) that I'll never be pregnant. I know it's only early days but if anyone has any tips for coping with the stress and heartache of it all, I'd love to hear from you!

Thank you ☺️

Nothing major just some fatigue, slightly swollen boobs and some bloating. Can't stop peeing on sticks just to make sure it's still there 🙈

Finally got my period after 3 months of no ovulation. Never been so happy for the pain in my life!

Hoping to ovulate this month and get the ball rolling again!

@Nyxxie thats so exciting!! Any symptoms?

I got a BFP this week! 😲

@TinyDancer91 I'm the exact same 😭 started heavily today, I think it must have been the heat and the travel for me too. At least we're in the same boat!

Oh bless you - you’ve had a busy month! May not be overthinking it, fingers crossed you get your BFP!! Maybe test in a few days time and use FMU!

I am the worst for symptom spotting, I use Flo to work out my dates but next month may start using OPKs if no luck because I am second guessing ovulation so much!! I wanted to be ‘relaxed’ about it, but I am not a relaxed person lol!

@Ellswells3 no more tests as I'm at work today and woke up late haha. I have a feeling I ovulated later this month. I wasn't testing but normally I get ovulation pain, I had what I think was this later than when Flo app predicted my ovulation (the prediction is normally right).

Today even less of the bleed, if this is just my body playing tricks on me I will be sad!!

We had my birthday, family parties and a holiday this month, with all the excitement I forgot to test ovulation and now my periods being very different to usual I'm probably just overthinking!

Hey @Zubi no words of advice because this is all new to me, but have you taken any more tests? I think if you’re 14dpo you’d expect them to start being positive. Good luck!

@TinyDancer91 i was 14 DPO when the brown ?bleed started happening. I’m not sure if this means it’s just AF. Normally AF arrives day 28 in my cycle, very routine so 5 days early is confusing for me.

that’s so exciting that it’s late! Any symptoms? When do you fly back to test!!

Hey everyone,

Got a bit of confusion here today.

Yesterday AF arrived 5 days early, somewhere between light brown and darkish brown colour, not enough to say I've properly started my period, maybe like what you would see in the last couple of days.

I really don't want to get my hopes up that it would be an implantation bleed. My cycles are very regular, im never ever early, maybe once in a blue moon a day early. We came back from a hot holiday yesterday I'm wondering if temperature could've affected it? I have breast tenderness and super mild cramping, it all just sounds like AF right?

I took a test today but BFN. Also thinking if it was implantation then I wouldn't test positive yet?

Someone just let me know what they think because I'm driving myself crazy telling myself I'm not pregnant!! Haha

[quote Hebe9219]@Nyxxie I feel you so much ! Lots of babies in my family and even when I wasn‘t ready I still felt a little odd/upset/awkward whenever I spent long stretches of time with them and their parents. (Probably didn’t help that everyone was always pestering us to have our own, acting as if we are not a ‚real‘ married couple!)[/quote]I know what you mean, especially as my OH and I aren't married so definitely feel the not "real" couple vibes sometimes. We have however been together almost 10 years and have a house and a dog so that's real enough for us!

Hi @TinyDancer91 , nice to hear from you. Definitely sounds like you've got a lot going on! Hope your mum is ok, and that everything else has been a nice distraction from TTC!

A holiday to Cyprus sounds amazing, hope you have a great time ☺️ You hear so many stories of people conceiving on holiday when they are relaxed and not thinking about it, so fingers crossed the effect extends to pre-holiday for you!

Hey guys,

Is it ok to join?

I'm in a bit of a weird place. I'm 35 my OH is 41.

I am extremely broody and desperate to start trying but he wants to wait a couple of months (while the garden and driveway is being done)

Sorry if tmi but on Sunday we were DTD and he started climaxing inside me so I pulled away. I'm in my fertile window and was shocked. He said he did it because I've been so down recently.
Anyway fast forward and the next day we DTD and he pulls out. And later says he still wants to wait until June.

I think he really wants it, but is nervous about it.

I am all kinds of confused. Such a rollercoaster. I just want to be TTC.

Anyway, because he started to climax, I am actually wondering if I might be in the TWW. Who knows.

Thanks for reading. Needed the brain dump!

@Nyxxie I feel you so much ! Lots of babies in my family and even when I wasn‘t ready I still felt a little odd/upset/awkward whenever I spent long stretches of time with them and their parents. (Probably didn’t help that everyone was always pestering us to have our own, acting as if we are not a ‚real‘ married couple!)

@TinyDancer91 such a good idea to create this thread, can I join too? 29 and ttc for #1.

We were strongly in the ‚let‘s just chill and DTD frequently’ camp but starting to realise that it will likely require some more effort than that 😂
Gone from not sure if want baby yet to really wanting one…

Hi! My tag name says it all! Hope it's ok to join this chat. AF got me yesterday and feeling disappointed x