First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

Well dr Google tells me that oestrogen rises again mid way through LP so that’s told me haha. After already having 3 dc I’m still learning.

Hello all, hope I can join in on this thread- seems a lovely little place to be!

Im 28, and on cycle two. This will be both our first baby! Me and my boyfriend decided three months ago we were ready to TTC and the first month we absolutely messed timing up (AF arrived three days after), i downloaded ‘Flo’ and went off the ovulation date recommendations on there, i was certain June would be the month!
Unfortunately AF arrived on 30th June and i was absolutely devastated!

According to Flo my cycles are between 25-27 days long, this month my cycle is expected to be 24 days for some strange reason! AF was super short and I only bled for three days, which I usually bleed for 5!

I have ordered easy@home ovulation tests and also have the clearblue tests sitting tight in the bathroom ready to be used. This will be the first month using ovulation tests.

I am super new to the whole process and we see both hoping this will be our month, the waiting really frustrates me so a nice happy little place to chat is just what I need! X

@TinyDancer91 yea it’s rubbish, but we all carry a bit of crap with us don’t we. I wouldn’t change any of my not so little darlings but I can’t help but think it’ll be nice to have one more.
especially since life is so much more settled now.
ill be testing on Friday, although it’s hard to resist the urge to POAS haha

@TinyDancer91 well ds1 was the result of being abused, so I hid my pregnancy and kept it a secret until almost 8months.
Met my dp (now dh) when ds was 6 months old and eventually thought sod it, I’ve already got one, may as well give him his siblings.
so the others arrived, and I always said I’m done having kids so I can enjoy everything I missed out, but the reality is, the 3 I have got, was not really by choice, the universe just made them happen.
bet you wish you hadn’t asked now 😂 funny because I’ve spent the last 10 or so years advocating to the kids not to talk to strangers on the internet, yet here I am, throwing it all out there 😂
saying that in real life no one but my dh and my mum know the truth so it’s been nice to get it off my chest.
DC don’t know we’re ttc no 4, and I reckon it’ll be staying way. I can’t even imagine the conversation with 3 cocky pubescent teenagers 😂

I would definitely ditch the opks if you can, just have fun BD for a short while and see what happens xxx

Hi everyone, really hope you don’t mind me gatecrashing your thread.
im currently in my 2ww 7dpo, first cycle so have been doing a lot of trawling these threads, although this will be me ttc no 4 so I really do feel as though I’m gatecrashing. My dc are 17,14, and 12 though so it’s been a while since ttc for me.

anyway, not being able to sleep I’ve just spent a fair bit of my night reading this, and really I just came here because I want to give @TinyDancer91 and @Zubi massive virtual hugs, along with anyone else ttc.
reading this all in one go, and seeing your optimism in month 1 is really pulling at my heartstrings knowing that you’re now mentally exhausted, it must be really difficult, especially knowing you’re so young and still in your very fertile years, I’m also 31 btw.

Have you thought of trying the SMEP? Along with using some preseed to help along those swimmers. You probably know all this anyway so forgive me if you think I’m being rude, but emotions really can manifest in us physically, I would hate to think all the disappointment is messing with your hormones, as you could have a LH surge, only for your hormones to prevent the release of an egg, and then your body is trying again later, ultimately, delaying o which is resulting in AF arriving later.
our bodies are quite strange in that o can be attempted and delayed more than once in a cycle. I do get it’s hard to not be so emotionally invested though, especially when you so desperately want it.
also, have you checked in with your gp to make sure you definitely are ovulating? A simple blood test can tell you, and perhaps gp could possibly prescribe some clomid to try and help.
you probably know all this through relentless googling I expect, and please tell me to do one if you think I’m being rude.
I really just wanted to give you a bit of reassurance and a massive hug.

sending lots of baby dust to you all xxx

I'm currently 5 dpo cycle #5. Trying not to get my hopes up too much this cycle, told myself I was going to chill out about it all and just see what happens.. easier said than done!!

Hope this is the one for you! ☺️ x

Also if I do manage to get pregnant l, I will refuse to take contraception ever again 😂

Hi all, hope it’s ok for me to join.
im on cycle #4 TTC my first and I’m also getting disheartened about it not happening! I think especially because last cycle we dtd every day apart from 2 days and it was tough 😂.
Can see there’s a few of us on here who feel like this which is comforting even though I know for some it can take up to a year and it’s completely normal.
im going on holiday next week on my fertile period so hoping that will help!

@TinyDancer91 how are you doing?

We are hanging on until next month to try as our wedding is in 6 weeks and I don't want it to worry us or if I am unwell at all x

Lots of people say they aren’t trying as to manage expectations, stop people asking them questions, pretend that they are chill.

I would think that this is more likely after two ‘unplanned’ miscarriages. They may be terrified of it happening again and want everyone to see it as an accident, que será será, as to not put more pressure on the situation.

@TinyDancer91 not unreasonable at all! As I’ve said on here, both of my sister in laws have fallen pregnant in the last six months without trying, they both profusely talked about how they don’t want a baby yet before they did get pregnant and even one of them now she’s pregnant still talks about how she doesn’t want it! I try and keep a straight face make no comments but it breaks my heart honestly. To top it off one of them is staying with us right now whilst her husband is away. I’ve cried both times I found out they were pregnant, I’m over the moon for them and can’t wait to meet the little ones but I’m sad for myself!

@TinyDancer91 I honestly. Amy think about it or I'll have a meltdown! But I'm honestly glad we are in the exact same situation, dates and everything, it's a reassurance that someone is going through it too! This month will be our month 🤞🏼

I think I must have had a chemical pregnancy, this morning I went to the toilet and spotting has begun so I’m calling it that AF is in full swing now. Words can’t even express how gutted me and my husband are, we really thought this was it!

@TinyDancer91 i think I’ve been in this situation before! Unfortunately for me I just got my period a couple of days late. But I feel like it’s been 6 months now and this is really playing with my head! I was super emotional this month too, I cried when my husband left for work yesterday haha! Fingers crossed we see those BFPs soon xx