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First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...

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TinyDancer91 · 01/01/2022 19:55

Hi everyone!

This thread may or may not contain questions, I've mainly started it to be my brain dump safe space but in an excited way, not a bad way...

Me (30) and my SO (34) have decided to take the leap and start TTC! We have both wanted children for a while but just knew the timing wasn't right for either of us until now. For me, any time I see a baby or even baby clothes recently my heart aches for it to be my turn. I've never really had that strong feeling before.

The reason behind this 'safe space' is that we have agreed not to tell anyone we are TTC. We just want to avoid any pressure or disappointment if things don't go to plan, etc.

For context, I am the youngest of 5, the only girl the only one of my siblings without children.
SO is the oldest of 2, his brother has a child who lives with BM away from here so isn't really seen much by grandparents.

Both families are great and would only want the best for us but I personally don't want to feel any sort or pressure at all (intended or not) from either side.

So, we start our journey, we are on cycle 1 SWI, not expecting anything to happen this cycle and trying not to turn in to a crazy lady about TTC Smile

If anyone else needs a brain dump safe space, feel free to join me here Smilex

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imy · 13/07/2022 17:01

HeartNutella · 13/07/2022 13:31

Hey guys!

Hope you don't mind me joining. DH and I have decided that we want try for our first baby. We tried for the first time last month, but obviously wasn't meant to be. However I feel perhaps that time didn't count as much as we just went based off the period app I use to note my cycles. LOL

I decided to use OPKs this time so that we know what we are doing and are better informed. I allready feel like my actual ovulation date will be earlier than what my period app tells me. I used the clearblue digital ovulaltion test and after a few days of blank circles, I got a flashing smiley face!!!!!! So time to start the baby dance in prep for the peak smile symbol. I'm hoping it happens this month,, I feel like I'm going to be a crazy person if it doesn't happen considering last month I start sympton spotting and legitmately believed I was pregnant lol. Then AF came a day earlier lol.

It's CD11 today and got the flashing smiley today so hopefully it works this month. Oh and I started using the FLO app this month.

I've read so many reviews about using OPKs and that it works for most people.

Hello! I am in the same boat as you - trying for the first time this month. Have also been using OPKs and got my peak yesterday so hoping I am ovulating today, although haven't had the EWCM that everyone talks about so feeling a bit worried! I've been on the pill for 14 years and only came off last month so don't feel like everything is quite back to normal yet. How are you finding trying? Have you told any friends? I feel so weird making such a big life change/decision and not telling anyone, although one of my best friends does know.

HeartNutella · 13/07/2022 13:31

Hey guys!

Hope you don't mind me joining. DH and I have decided that we want try for our first baby. We tried for the first time last month, but obviously wasn't meant to be. However I feel perhaps that time didn't count as much as we just went based off the period app I use to note my cycles. LOL

I decided to use OPKs this time so that we know what we are doing and are better informed. I allready feel like my actual ovulation date will be earlier than what my period app tells me. I used the clearblue digital ovulaltion test and after a few days of blank circles, I got a flashing smiley face!!!!!! So time to start the baby dance in prep for the peak smile symbol. I'm hoping it happens this month,, I feel like I'm going to be a crazy person if it doesn't happen considering last month I start sympton spotting and legitmately believed I was pregnant lol. Then AF came a day earlier lol.

It's CD11 today and got the flashing smiley today so hopefully it works this month. Oh and I started using the FLO app this month.

I've read so many reviews about using OPKs and that it works for most people.

Smilesallround1 · 12/07/2022 18:08

I feel your pain. Been a silent watcher for a while now and genuinely thought this month was my lucky month. But AF showed up yesterday after a week of nausea, sore boobs and the most unbelievable headaches. Gutted doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel as we did everything right this month. Now I have to pull up my lateral big girl pants on and get ready for another month of trying. 😪

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TinyDancer91 · 11/07/2022 09:14

I almost certain it's an evap... tested this morning with a digital and got a BFN 😔

Think I'm out again this month.... just waiting for AF to show up now to confirm 😭

Heartbroken & losing hope for me but wishing for BFPs for you all 💕

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Rosie2022 · 11/07/2022 08:55

Good luck with your TWW! Hopefully with all your work shifts the first week goes fast! I find that’s the week which drags the most usually!

Rosie2022 · 11/07/2022 08:54

Thank you! I did a test the next day and got a BFP! Drove to Boots to get a digital and same on that too. I must be really early as my cycle is usually 35 days and I am only on CD 28 but I think I must have ovulated a week early or I have just never realised how early I ovulate as until this month I have never managed to get a positive OPK - I guess I was testing to late?! That would mean that I have an unusually long luteal phase I think?!

I can definitely see a faint line on your latest clear blue test! Do you have any pink dye tests? I have found those to be the most reliable as the blue dye has played tricks on me before. Fingers crossed for you!! Keep us updated!

LauraA31 · 11/07/2022 05:47

Morning all!

I am now officially in my TWW, 1DPO as of today!
The next 2 weeks is going to go by so slow.

My cycle this month has worked perfectly with my shift pattern at work, i was home all weekend during my fertile window and peak was Saturday.
I am now working for 7 days and when im next off im going to be 9DPO-11DPO… hoping this keeps me sane and off the tests!

Good luck to you all x

Zubi · 11/07/2022 05:04

@TinyDancer91 how long are you leaving the tests for before checking? Usually they say if the line doesn’t appear in the time it says on the leaflet for the test then it’s an evap line. I also find with blue tests you get evap lines more than pink, maybe try a pink one! Ahhh fingers crossed for you it’s just an early line 😭😭

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TinyDancer91 · 10/07/2022 22:23

Here's the second one... altered the exposure slightly to show a bit more how it look IRL.

So what are we thinking? Evap? V V V Faint line? My eyes playing tricks? Have I finally cracked and gone crazy? 😂

Honest opinions welcome, trying to be realistic and not build my hopes up...

First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...
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TinyDancer91 · 10/07/2022 22:13

Welcome @Rosie2022!

Sorry it's taken me a little while to reply!

I use easy@home OPKs, not sure if the momed ones are the same but mine always have a line that gets really dark 24 hours before ovulation - you track them in an app and it calculates your LH level to find your peak.

It does look to me like you have a faint line on the boots test though! Any updates since?

I did another clear blue yesterday and got the same again so it's either 2 evaps in a row, my eyes playing tricks on me or (hopefully!) a VERY faint line. AF is due for me in the next few days, my cycles range from 25-29 days, but usually average out at 28, which will be Tuesday. I guess time will tell whether AF shows up or we get a BFP 🤞🏻🙏🏻

Baby dust to all!!

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Rosie2022 · 09/07/2022 12:21

Sorry should have added that my positive OPK after I started testing on CD 11 was on CD 14! So I think that would make me 10/11 DPO?

Rosie2022 · 09/07/2022 12:19

I can see a faint line too!! Fingers crossed it progresses for you!!

Rosie2022 · 09/07/2022 12:18

Hi all I really hope you don’t mind me jumping in, I am 27 and first time TTC. We have been trying for about 6 months, but I would say only properly trying in the last 3. I think I may have had a BFP this morning, but I want to be sure before I tell my other half as we have had false starts before!

I have not been on the pill in 10 years, have regular periods but long cycles between 32 and 37 days. On average it’s about 35. I track my cycles on an app. From the app and online research I understand that on average most women have a 14 day luteal phase, right? So we have always been trying around CD 21 but weirdly I have never managed to get a positive OPK. I don’t track BBT.

This month I decided to start testing for ovulation early as I have a gazillion sticks and was starting to worry I just don’t ovulate. I started on CD 11 and watched the line get darker until I am pretty sure I had my first ever positive OPK. So we tried then but I was confused, did I ovulate early and I would have had a shorter cycle this month? Or do I just have a long luteal phase and that’s why I’ve never captured a positive OPK?

Anyway fast forward to today, CD 26. I have been feeling really hungry the last few days, waves of mild nausea and EWCM/slimy (sorry!). This morning I figured I would dip and OPK and an IC. Results below. What do we think? The pink one is the OPK.

Thanks to anyone who has got this far and any advice is hugely hugely appreciated!

First timers, TTC. Safe space for brain dumps...
Nyxxie · 09/07/2022 10:25

@TinyDancer91 looks like a faint positive to me, the line looks the right width too 🤞

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TinyDancer91 · 09/07/2022 00:11

Had a second look at it and now not sure if it's a VERY faint line.... honest opinions?! (This was taken this morning)

The pic isn't the best, it's more visible IRL... 🤞🏻

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TinyDancer91 · 08/07/2022 08:33

I caved and tested this morning.... it was a BFN 😢 only 10 dpo so I know I'm not 100% out yet but not feeling very hopeful

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TinyDancer91 · 07/07/2022 23:16

Welcome @thecoconutcat!

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thecoconutcat · 07/07/2022 23:08

Hi all, hope hope don't mind another newbie! I'm 28 and my husband and I have agreed to 'stop trying not to' have a baby! I had my copper coil out today and am excited and apprehensive to see what the near future will hold. Its really nice to have a supportive environment to chat through things with! 😊

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TinyDancer91 · 07/07/2022 09:15

@Aardbeien & @LauraA31 glad I'm not alone 😂

Managed to resist the urge so far. Feeling very bloated & crampy again today (autocorrect change that to cranky, not sure if my phone is trying to tell me something 😂😂). Had a weird feeling in my stomach all week as well, like a sicky feeling, worse after I eat.

Part of me is hoping it's a sign but part of me is telling me it's not happening this month. Damn you brain!! Preparing myself for the bfn already...

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Aardbeien · 06/07/2022 20:31

TinyDancer91 · 05/07/2022 13:15

Today's thought of the day - "must not test!" 😂

Only 7dpo so no chance of a bfp yet. Help a girl out, keep me sane until at lest Friday!! 🙏🏻

I have only a rough idea when I actually ovulated so I don't know how many dpo I am, but I'm at the point of wanting to test every morning until af either does or doesn't arrive 😂 must not waste tests! Team waiting it out here.

LauraA31 · 05/07/2022 13:22

TinyDancer91 · 05/07/2022 13:15

Today's thought of the day - "must not test!" 😂

Only 7dpo so no chance of a bfp yet. Help a girl out, keep me sane until at lest Friday!! 🙏🏻

I’m only on cycle day 6 and my ovulation tests are starting to get darker- im already thinking if it’s too early to test and ovulation hasn’t even happened haha! 😂

Im going to be the most impatient person during the TWW!
Keeping everything crossed for you x

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TinyDancer91 · 05/07/2022 13:15

Today's thought of the day - "must not test!" 😂

Only 7dpo so no chance of a bfp yet. Help a girl out, keep me sane until at lest Friday!! 🙏🏻

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TinyDancer91 · 04/07/2022 22:08

Welcome @imy!

Hope your body doesn't take too long to get back to normal cycles.

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imy · 04/07/2022 16:54

Hi everyone,

I'm just starting on my TCC journey and so I hope you don't mind me joining! I've read quite a bit of this thread and it's really interesting to see how long it took people to get their cycles back after coming off the pill. I was on the combined pill for 14 years, and I came off 11 June. I still haven't ovulated, or shown really any signs of there being anything different. I know it hasn't been long but I have started to get a bit worried/impatient. It's reassuring to see that it took a few of you on here about 2 months, so hopefully I might ovulate later this month or early next month. Fingers crossed!

LauraA31 · 04/07/2022 15:16

Thank you so much!

I have premom too! I have just checked the app and it told me to start ovulation testing from today and that my expected fertile window will be in three days. I didn’t check that app this morning but will do an ovulation test when i return home!

I know it won’t show much but can’t argue with the app haha! x