Waiting to TTC,any one else in similar sitch??

Hi ladies, gosh, been a bit eventful on here today! BB - another name change? Is it OK if I still call you BB?
Super nervous about tomorrow but it's at 8.30 am so at least will be out the way quickly if it doesn't go well.
I'll let you all know how it went - thanks for all the good luck messages Playing, Natalie and BB.

Night all.

sorry was a bit of a rant!! They just got me a bit angry! I thought threads were supposed to be supportive. I apologise for the rant.

...and of course dont forget there will always be people who are happy to have 3 kids in a 2 bed house or survive on benefit, so will go ahead ttc regardless. I am not one of those people (that doesnt mean I think they are wrong), they just have different priorities. I think if you bring a life into the world it deserves everything you can give it. That doesn't mean loads of money, money is not everything, but to me it does mean a basic standard of living. Not going short on anything they need, not having to miss out on the experience of going on holiday abroad (even if it every other year in a caravan site) or not being able to have horse riding lesson, not being able to learn a musical instrument, not having extra tuition in a subject they are struggling with, all because money is too tight. Being more financially stable also means to me, having the time to spend with your children because you are not both working full time (I know that one is contentious) and people are free to disagree. Money can't buy you happiness but it can free up time to spend with your children and provide the experiences that enrich their lives and turn them into well rounded adults, its all about how you choose to spend it. If people still can't see why we might choose to wait in order to give our kids a better life then that is their problem, but here, I think we all understand, just as much as we understand how hard waiting is!

Aww thanks playing, stupidly posted an AIBU thread in anger and that descended into madness so thought new name new start, think i'l just stick here in our friendly group he he

poor you being so busy, its no fun is it? i have manic days at work but have been lazy today! he he

hope tomo's better for everyone and cosmo again good luck!!

Natalie hope your feeling better!

forces, mcaparkle,acceber and carmen electra, are you all around?

anyway off home in a mo so speak to you all tomo hopefully xx

Hi all,

sorry mad day at work today, have not even stopped long enough to eat all my lunch let alone look at Mumsnet but thought I would have a peak before I went home.

BB/BMLB - That is exciting news on the ttc front. Sorry the other thread wasn't that friendly, I suppose that some of them go through such hardships ttc that they just can't have any sympathy for people like us who are choosing to wait. I can understand that, it must be hard for them to realise that for us the desire to have kids is just as strong as theirs is and despite having valid reasons to have to wait it doens't make it any easier. It may not be quite as frustrating as trying every month and failing but its not far short, especially for someone like you who have had a m/c.

hi all its BB but have names changed, am having a baddddd day so thought this would lift my spirits!

how are the rest of you?? Cosmo you around today? anyone heard from puss lately? x

hi natalie and everyone!

Ha ha spells?? i thought it was just good old fashioned sex!! ha ha oh well thatslightened my mood, i think i will have the coil out sooner rather than later then... Saw my god daughter monday night she just made me more broody!! 3months and sleeps 11hrs dream baby lol

Good luck for tomo cosmo, ill be thinking of you! Anyone else got any news?

Feel better soon natalie xx

Hi everyone

Cosmo, good luck for tomorrow, I will be crossing my fingers as well.

BB, sorry about the driving test, I failed mine as well, never driven since! I really should start again though. Also, I wouldn't be too worried about that other thread, I had a look and they are talking about buying spells from eBay to help them concieve Don't know about you but that would put me off enough on it's own with out the rudeness! I don't know anything about the coil, so can't help you with that, though I think I remember reading on MN that the coil can stop your AF's for up to a year after it's been removed, don't know if that help's or not?

I have a cold I am so grumpy when I am ill, DH is going to have a good week! Good job I don't get ill very often!

Just posted on another TTC thread and the cheeky person who started it, was like actually this thread is for people who are TTC NOW, how rude!!!! i am a bit offended x

Its me again, bright and early, am on a pc now so can read what everyone wrote!

I have a quick question for those of you who have/have had the coil, I've not had AF this month yet, was due 10th, have read that this can be due to coil, any info welcome.

hope everyone's ok xx

just given up on the laptop for now!it should be fixed friday,damn thing!excitin news is that we arent goin on hol now!!i should be sad but im not because it means ttc can happen sooner wahey!!were planning to get straight as poss financially then go for it!will be able to post lots tomo because boss away,this week keep gettin better! Cosmo im sure your interview will be great its nice to be in a win win!welcome to you new guys its so nice hearing others news x x

Evening,

Playing - my thoughts exactly! I have nothing to lose by going to the interview, in fact it is a win win situation, which can't be bad! Only thing is I am getting quite nervous about the interview, so willing Thurs to roll around so it will be over and done with!

BB - Sorry about the driving test also, but I'm sure you'll crack it next time. Like I said, it took me five goes!
Interesting and exciting news.....don't keep us in suspense! What is it?

Morning all,

Cosmos - I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you on Thurs. If it is meant to be it will happen, if not then at least it brings ttc a bit closer!

BB - Sorry to hear about the driving test, I am sure you will get there in the end. You could always try changing test centres if you think that may help, Portsmouth can't be an easy place to do your test, have you though about Chichester? Mind you if it was one simple thing you failed on then its probably just bad luck and I am sure you will manage it next time. I also meant to email you over the weekend but forgot sorry!

Natalie - a hard decision to make (waiting always is) but May will fly round before you know it.

Carmen - I know exactly what you mean, personally I would rather be a young Mum, but there are def advantages to being a bit older and as I said by Mumsnet standards you a still young!

Right, think that answers everyone, sorry if I missed anyone.

Hi alll apologies for lack of posts laptops still no fixed!! hopefully will be tonight! hope your all ok, failed test again but only just at last minute on reversing into bay at test centre, gutted oh well have rebooked, got some really interesting news and am dead excited but cant say till at home, so will post asap, sorry to be all me me me hope your all ok, congrats cosmo!! and talk properly soon, any emails to address i listed more than welcome xx

No maybe im not that old but i would like to think that maybe i wont be having tiny kids when im in my 50's! I do worry that maybe i wont be able to get pregnant this time though, bit silly i suppose. Mind you i thought that both times before!

Hope you are OK BB - maybe off celebrating the driving test result??!

Hi everyone,

Welcome to all the newbies to this thread. We are hanging around, trying not to get to broody!
Hope the ttc lark goes according to all your plans.

Playing - thanks for your words. You are so right - if I can get this job and it turns out to be one I really enjoy doing, that will be great and I will be much less stressed!
I have the interview on Thursday, so keep your fingers crossed for me!

I am going to take the next pack of pills, but have discussed coming off with DH and going back to condoms. He seems OK with it, which is good. I am just really curious to get off it and sort my cycles out before we go down the ttc route - whenever that will be.

And....if I do get the job then at least I have good company whilst I wait!

Hello everyone

Well we have decided to definatly wait till after DS1's birthday (which is in March) before we make an absolute final decision, but if we decide to go ahead and try for no.3 we won't be trying before May. I would rather have the baby after DS1'S birthday next year just due to the sheer number of birthdays and getting over xmas we have, but fingers crossed by the time May comes round I will be back on the wagon!

Hope you are all well xx

Hi Carmen,

Well I think you might be doing the sensible thing. However, by Mumsnet standards you're not old, there are plenty of over 40's on here!

BroodyBaby - Not heard from you today, how was the driving test?

HELLO Waitinggame!

Im organised cos i really want to have another but thinking about my age. Im 37 and if all goes to plan then id be 39 by time next one and i really want do it before im 40!!

Also, i left a big gap betweem the first two and if i leave another gap i might change my mind!Plus havent got age on my side to wait so long this time!

Doesnt feel like long to wait really now were in the New year! Gio back to work March so time will fly then im sure. Ideally, id like to get pregnant DEC ish!!

Hi Acceber and Carmen, welcome to our little thread.

Acceber - April is so soon, you must be getting really excited (and impatient). I will def be waiting longer than that, but I will have my fingers crossed for you!

Carmen - you are organised planning dc3 already! Still its nice to have a plan and if the biological clock is ticking it probably is best to do it sooner rather than later. Still having the patience to wait till the end of the year will be hard. I am trying to leave it as late as I can this year, I think. The later my dc1 is born in 09 (hopefully, but who knows how long it could take) the better we will be financially, which is why for now at least I am "playing the waiting game"!

Im gonna try foR number 3 at the end of the year. Ds 2 is only 4 mths but i cant wait ages for the next one cos of my age. LOL.

Know ive only just had one but ive got to plan ahead! Want to wait till he is at least one and im hoping to plan it so that the next baby will be born the same time next year as he was(Sept) so i can be pregnant in the summer and have Christmas off work again. Ha!I have a job where you have to work Xmas and i hate that, so if im planning a baby i may as well plan it good!

Also, ive sort of tried to work it so i can have the smallest gap possible without me not being able to cope! And this way, ds will be nearly 2. Saying this of course who knows how long it will take etc?

Hello!

Yes - me and my DH are planning to start trying in April (with pill free month in March) - have finally got he to commit to a time! Why April? The earliest we can have a baby is from next Jan (getting our house renovated). Am really excited!

Good luck everyone!

Morning all,

Back to work on this dull rainy Monday morning

Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Great News about the potential job offer Cosmos. Even if it delays your plans by a few months, in the long run that's nothing (doesn't make it easier waiting though!!) and it will be worth it. If you are doing a job you enjoy, you will be less stressed ttc and through pregnancy, plus if its a pay rise you will get more money for the first 6 weeks of maternity leave as well. Also, if getting pregnant doesn't happen instantly and takes a while you will regret not changing jobs if you are bored in the job you currently have.

Oh and contraception wise I use condoms. Not very exciting I admit but I dont actually find them that bad. My DH is ok with them as well, I think he likes to visibly see the contraception (when I was on the pill if my period was ever late he would always make me take a pg test) and he is so used to them now that it barely disturbs the flow. I do also like the fact that for me there is less mess, sorry if thats too much information!

LOL I love that 'the pre-pill me' LOL It is like my 'pre-kids me' I was skinny and had good boobs, and no stretch marks...... I wonder how much surgery I'd have to go through now to get back to 'pre-kids me'! Don't think I'd want to know actually, could probably buy my own private island in the Caribean with how much it would cost