Fertility Appointments and Beyond.... the journey continues

@Angelik1988 btw my pathway was 18 weeks as well but it took me maybe 5 weeks to get approval and got my first appointment the week after.

@Angelik1988 ah gotcha. My first appointment basically went through how IVF works and what kind of protocol they're planning on using on me. It included an ultrasound for good measure and then was followed by a nurses appointment (although many places would have you come back another time for this) to weigh me/measure my height and go through all the practical details of when to start meds, how to get them from the pharmacy etc. I had my appointment in Oct and they said to call back in Jan on CD1, but that's because there was a slight COVID delay to start and I was specifically going for short protocol.

@thislittlebird I'd honestly just ignore her message but then again I'm petty like that

@PurpleUnicorn01 Christ - I'm still angry from the fact they messed up your drugs last time!

Round 3! Feel like i could work in the hospital now lol

@thislittlebird what an annoying situation.

Im down regulating from Feb 5th is anyone on that cycle?

@Angelik1988 yeah I’d tend to agree with JeanieJ and say that’s the wait for the treatment to start

@JeanieJ it’s such weird behaviour and I can’t make sense of it. Now this person seems to have an OOO on and I’m like was that it? She left? That was fast. So I hadn’t replied by the Monday and Friday was her last day? Ok.......🙃

I was expecting her to say sorry she hadn’t told me and she just glossed over that part entirely lmao

Hi @Angelik1988 I think I'm in the same boat. Did IVF funding appt last week & she said 18-20 weeks.
There's a Croydon thread : Croydon fertility treatment centre www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility/3759206-Croydon-fertility-treatment-centre

@thislittlebird sorry about your situation with your friend 😞. She sounds inconsiderate.
I had a similar situation with my sister last June who made sure I was the last to know because she felt too awkward to tell me. I'm still mad about it because I think she is a giant coward. Part of me wants to spite her and just never want to mention my pregnancy if it ever happens 😈 ... but probably when it happens I'll just be too thrilled & tell everyone! 😂

Xx

Thank you for the message . About IVF procedure . I have been told that Croydon nhs will contact me at some point in the next 18 weeks . But they have not told me what to expect .

@Angelik1988 hi, just as Juno said there’s lots of things so we might need more details on what you’re starting?

I would have gone if you’d fucking told me, b you didn’t and then I had the shock of hearing on the grapevine!

@Juno231 it’s really weird and I don’t understand the logic. Like who the hell would “forget” that???? It’s stupid.

So I read the message from the friend. She isn’t apologising for not telling me, she asking if I’m coming to the maternity leave call???? Erm...I don’t even know what to say. You haven’t told me and now you’re asking if I’m coming? I don’t even know when it is and I don’t know how to explain that I don’t want to go to that, thanks :/

@Angelik1988 what procedure?

@thislittlebird I forgot to say but I had something similar happen with my colleague/friend. She told me back in oct 2020 that they'd been struggling to conceive (after only 4 cycles lol) and I was being helpful and sympathetic and she knew all about my TTC issues. We carried on talking about this stuff until Jan 2021. Come April/May i find out through the grapevine that she's expecting a girl so was definitely pregnant when she was pretending to still be ttc. Apparently she then "forgot" to tell me she was pregnant. I haven't been able to move past that tbh and ignore her mostly nowadays, it felt very hurtful to find out from someone else and that she'd been actively hiding it from me.

I have been to the list since December as well ! And waiting .. does anyone know how long can take to start the procedure ?

My friend who didn’t tell me she was pregnant sent me a message on Friday. I haven’t read it yet, planning to on Monday. I can see from the preview text she realises I’ve found out she’s very pregnant but on Friday I didn’t feel like dealing with it. I will have to tomorrow morning when I log on :/

@dogmam good thing is I always have a good relationship with my line manager and he is man! We were having a catch up after I return to work from my surgery. I know he was waiting for me to bring it up but I just couldn't, I quickly spin it to work. But after that I told him over instant chat and he was very empathetic. My work also offer IVF leave so I have to tell work sooner or later. Glad it is out of the way so it won't be so awkward when I am going to miss half a day here and there for appointments etc.

@PurpleUnicorn01 ah right, hopfully you feel a little more prepared going into it next time. I know what you mean though, I kind of feel fine since my MC, almost too fine, like I'm waiting for it to creep back in. But for now, the first time in a long time I'm just enjoying having a break. My follow up isn't until the end of Feb, so still a while to wait but I'm ok with that. Yes I think the progesterone is finely timed. If your embryos were frozen on day 5, you start with the progesterone 5 days before the actual FET and the transfer is on the 6th day of taking progesterone.

@thislittlebird yeah I would contact them for sure, it might be fine, they're the experts I guess but no harm in double checking even if just for peace of mind. No I had no OHSS, I had 19 eggs retrieved and double that number of follicles so was expecting to have it but was fine, uncomfortable for a good few days after retrival, but fine overall.

@dogmam it was disappointing but it was a relief as I hadn't realised how anxious i was after the mmc going through it again.

How are you?

In regards to estrogen I have no idea. I think the spanner in the works was having progesterone 2 early hence they scrapped the entire cycle.

@Kay00 I'm still waiting to find out what we're doing with whole bag of wonky courgettes he wanted to buy! I can't even have the booze because I'm waiting to do this prolactin test and I forgot to pick the form up today

I emailed them tonight and also started a thread on this topic in infertility. I'll see what they say, and I felt bad emailing like I'm asking a stupid question but it's better safe than sorry I guess.

@dogmam that's the thing, it feels like this doctor went 'tick tick tick, 38, lots of drugs, standard trigger blah blah' and didn't think for a second about what would be best so I now have an HCG trigger :/ I have emailed to ask them to check with a consultant. Did you have any OHSS?

Great that your work gives IVF leave. I'm going to take sick leave, my boss has said that's fine, but I'm not sure when to take it for the best.

I've told everyone including the window cleaners because I'm crazy @dogmam so don't worry about the few colleagues, maybe you can tell your mum, she will be pleased to know?

@thislittlebird my trigger was Buserelin 1mg. For me, the actual drug wasn't decided or prescribed until the day before I was due it as it was dependent on my last follicle count scan.
I've just read your post about the adventures of your hoover lol and enjoyed your description.

@pinkginpls how did telling your work/HR go? My work gives 5 days leave for an ivf cycle so I told my manager, reluctantly. I then got promoted during my last FET and when I had the MC I ended up telling my new manager for some time off work, she also told her manager. So now I have 3 people who know which I really don't feel comfortable with, especially when I'm struggling with not telling my mam, yet 3 other women know. I do feel guilty that I'm now allowing my mam the opportunity to support me because I'm sure she will be gutted that i haven't told her but I just can't pluck up the courage to actually tell her. Have you told any friends or family?

@PurpleUnicorn01 aw I'm gutted your FET was cancelled. How disappointing for you! My first FET my lining was over 7mm at my first scan but my second FET it was too thin so had my estrogen upped and was re-scanned a week later. Wonder if they will start you on extra estrogen straight away or just see how you get on first?

Haha @thislittlebird I love that your fridge is dedicated to booze, drugs and 🥒 😆 my fridge isn't mini, it just isn't very big, and we cook a lot from scratch so it fills up quickly.

I assume we'll be on a similar drug profile due to the high AMH. I hope your doctor hasn't made an error? Definitely call up to check tomorrow 🧐

@beckyCarlos yeahhhh, i guess it's so when it goes off to landfill or wherever it goes it's not going to fall open.

So today I realised they've given me an antagonist trigger (Ovitrelle) when all the way through my dealings with private doctors I was told I'd need an agonist trigger for IVF. I cannot stress how annoyed I am, not to mention nervous, about this junior doctor. Everyone else on the Guys thread seems to have had the consultant and I got some junior doc. I'm worried about OHSS as it is, but I'm definitely asking about a freeze all now I realise I have an HCG trigger. I might ask the nurse why I wasn't given an agonist too. It's incredibly frustrating how little attention this doctor paid to my medical profile.

@dogmam can I ask what trigger you had? I know you have high AMH.

@thislittlebird you can lock the lid shut?! I best not investigate that 🤣
Ill send a pic when I can get into the web version of the site!

@beckyCarlos our fridge is a strange selection of an excessive number of courgettes (I didn’t buy them), leftover Baileys and tonic water 😂

I actually thought that when I saw them, that I’d seen ladies on here with a lot more of a haul than I had. What’s yours again?

My husband immediately picked up the sharps box and started messing with it. The lid then locked shut and he spent 20 minutes fighting it with a knife to get it back open 🥴. I walked away and left him to it lol

Oh and @kay00 my husband decided to DIY fit our kitchen before christmas... it was...an experience 🤣 its lovely now its (almost) done but my days, when it was being done I seriously questioned our sanity! It'll be worth it in the end 🥰

@thislittlebird this looks like my kind of fridge! I definitely enjoyed the drug delivery, made it all seem real and like something to focus on.

But jeez, I have so many more drugs than you all 🤣 (I say this lightheartedly, I know its swings and roundabouts, and ultimately we'd all like a spontaneous conception)