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I'm not pregnant anymore

59 replies

hester · 15/11/2004 07:30

Well, I had five fantastic, ecstatic, scared, excited days of being pregnant. Then Saturday night I did another pg test (just to show off, and because one was sitting there on the bathroom shelf) and it was negative. Sunday morning I had did two more - both negative.

I went to the hospital, where they did a blood test and a scan. The blood test was positive, but they think it is picking up descending levels of HCG and that I will soon start bleeding. I have to go back Tuesday for restesting - not because they have any real hope that I can keep this pregnancy, but to check that I'm not retaining tissue.

As you can imagine, I am feeling completely devastated.

I am sure this post doesn't really belong under 'Conception', but I wanted my ttc compadres to know.

OP posts:
Slink · 15/11/2004 12:27

Just read your thread, really sorry lots of hugs
xxxxxslink

kizzie · 15/11/2004 12:23

Hester - Im so so sorry. Only just seen this thread.
Kizziex

moschops · 15/11/2004 12:05

this did make me shed a few tears when i read it earlier on

thinking of you Hester, and sending a big hug your way.

we're here whenever you should need us.......

Twiga · 15/11/2004 11:56

Hester, so sorry , lots of love x

Tickle · 15/11/2004 11:52

So sorry Hester. {{hug}}

runtus · 15/11/2004 11:35

Only just logged on, Hester I am so sorry babe. Cannot begin to imagine what you feel but wish you all the best for the future.

As you say deciding what to do next will be almost impossible but I want you to know we are all here for you, even if it is just to listen xx

Marina · 15/11/2004 11:33

No, no, no. So very sorry to hear this Hester. Oh, this has made me so sad for you. XXX

Tania2 · 15/11/2004 11:30

I wasnt sure if it meant that you were miscarring? Silly me. Sorry. Hope you feel better soon. (((((BIG HUGS)))))

lovinit · 15/11/2004 10:40

Hi Hester , I just wanted to send a hug over to you and let you know that my thoughts are with you.

wilbur · 15/11/2004 10:40

Oh hester, I am so so sorry, what a sad thing. I hope you are getting some tlc at home - take it easy and take care. xx

Original poster
hester · 15/11/2004 10:20

Thank you all so much. I am so grateful that I have you lovely MNetters to turn to, since in RL almost no-one knew I was pg at all.

Jeddah, thank you darling. I know you are right, and that overall it is a positive sign that I am fertile. In some ways it makes the decision about whether to keep trying harder - as you know, I had decided to go for another three months then decide to finish. Now that I know I CAN get pg, it will make the decision about when to stop harder. But I'll worry about that later.

Tania lovey - why confused?

I do feel a little stronger today. Yesterday was truly terrible (not helped by stupid A&E doc's verdict on repeated negative tests: 'Um, it could be a blip?' Me: 'Is that possible?' Her: 'I don't know'. And she had got me gowned up and in bed to deliver that little gem of medical expertise! Thank god i was then seen by acute gynae unit, who couldn't have been nicer). Today I feel less pregnant, and tbh it will be less of a head to start bleeding now and be able to wish my baby godspeed.

Thank you all again for being there for me throughout all of this - it's been a lifeline. xxx

OP posts:
MummyToSteven · 15/11/2004 10:09

hester, so sorry to hear this.

JuniperDewdrop · 15/11/2004 10:08

Many ((((hugs)))) to you Hester. You're amongst friends who know how it feels.

MrsWednesday · 15/11/2004 10:06

Hester, I'm so sorry. This is devastating news. I'm thinking of you.x

nailpolish · 15/11/2004 10:05

hester take care

jeddah · 15/11/2004 10:03

hester..............

I am very shocked and extremely upset to hear your news! I can only imagine a small fraction of what you are going through! If I multiply this by 1000 I am sure I wouldn't even come near to it!

I know you don't want to hear this.....but until I did my midwifery degree, I never realised how common m/c is ...1:4 women miscarry and my dear friend it is always for a reason....things weren't right hest!........
I know its hard to look at the positive but at least you know you can get pregnant

My thoughs are with you...and you know we are all here for you!

PicadillyCircus · 15/11/2004 10:02

Really sorry for you Hester

fairyfly · 15/11/2004 09:59

Sorry Hester its not fair for you i know, look after yourself

Twiglett · 15/11/2004 09:56

so sorry Hester

mrsflowerpot · 15/11/2004 09:52

Oh no, Hester, I am so sorry to hear this.

Sallie · 15/11/2004 09:27

Hester - my thoughts are with you. Look after yourself and allow yourself some time to get over this.

velcrobott · 15/11/2004 09:26

Oh no Hester... I am sooooo sorry to read this.
Hugs to you.... take care honey.

motherinferior · 15/11/2004 09:25

Hester, darling, I am so very sorry for you
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hulababy · 15/11/2004 09:06

(((hugs))) Oh Hester, I am so so sorry.

mariella · 15/11/2004 09:03

oh no, hester, I was so hoping this wasn't you when I clicked on the thread. I'm so so so sorry, I really am. xxxx