TTC December thread

@Theresamagicalplace thank you! Part of me was thinking that it won't be too different as the examinations you have with having a baby! But obviously you hear the horror stories and then slowly make yourself worry 😅

Ooo seems like you might have a shorter cycle this month? Either way hopefully this is your month!🤞

Got my first flashing smiley face on a clear blue ovulation test today....on cycle day 7 seems very early to me but I guess today's the start of the fertile window.

@kizzy97 I was terrified the first time I went for a smear after hearing stories of people needing gas and air and all sorts. Honestly it was so easy, when they ask you to drop your knees breathe out and relax every muscle and just focus on your breathing. If you've had a baby and the internal examinations that come with that then you'll manage this no problem! Good luck!

@mightbeyesmightbeno me too! Are you using any sort of app or tracker?

I've been using Flo and it's usually pretty good at predicting when AF is due so just using OPKs to be sure. If the app is right then I should ovulate around 8th Dec

@mightbeyesmightbeno Sorry I should have specified I meant my smear 😅 In terms of conception and being pregnant I just get anxious that something will go wrong, when I was pregnant with DS I was horribly worried but I'm thinking that might have partially been because he's my first and I didn't fully know what to expect? But I know it's a common worry with many women as well.

What cd are you on now? xxx

Day 5 of AF for me (which is usually my last day) yet I’ve had awful cramps and sorry for TMI but is very heavy! This happened to be last month, a really light period for 4ish days and then suddenly got heavy day 5 and didn’t go away until day 7. Not sure what’s going on!

@mightbeyesmightbeno thank you for that reassurance! I'm meant to ovulate on Friday and then my smear is on Saturday so was worried I might be out! Just nervous now because I've heard lots of horror stories about having done, pretty sure I'll be fine though! xxx

@Moonshine160 Umm I think I am hydrated enough, I'm not a huge water drinker but I do drink a lot of water via tea, which apparently counts. And soft drinks :) Maybe I should try having more actual water .

Tbh I find it so hard to judge the CM side of things, especially when DTD really regularly as (sorry for grimness!) obviously it's not usually only my CM down there!

The only thing I have noticed with any certainty is that around CD19&20 I have quite a lot of watery CM/discharge, to the point where it can feel like when your period comes on, you know? This has been about 36hrs after positive OPks, so I'm wondering if that is my ovulation, but I wouldn't say it's egg white-like at all :-.

Hi @LittleMysSister
I’m also trying evening primrose oil this month :) that’s reassuring to hear about the EWCM not necessarily needed to be noticeable. Do you stay hydrated enough? I don’t think I drink enough water which probably doesn’t help.
Thinking about it, some months I notice a fair amount of EWCM but the last two months we’ve been TTC I’ve hardly noticed any at all!

[quote mightbeyesmightbeno]@oldermam sorry to hear this :( I guess the change in hormones after the mirena is pretty big so hopefully now this period will be the start of back to normal cycle for you. But I'm sorry to hear you've got symptoms headaches and cramps etc. The ulcers, hands etc sound like you're really run down bless you. It's hard that OH is so excited when you feel so down but hopefully his optimism and excitement will keep you going though this rough time.

And I guess if he's away in a few days and it hasn't happened by then, it might give your body a bit of a chance to sort itself out and recover and get to good health.

So sorry to hear about the 7mcs, that must be really tough for you.

Do you have a time frame in mind for when you'll try until? I think mentally you have to be in the right place and ready and I suspect these hormones won't helping. I think just go with the flow - literally - at the mo and reflect and think once your period is over xx[/quote]
Thank you.

No time frame in mind. I turn 40 in January and he is 40 in June. We've kinda said if we catch and it ends up in mc we won't try again but just keep trying I guess until we do. We've started vitamins. Both a healthy weight don't smoke and only drink socially. I think not knowing when he's going to be called back to work is playing on my mind too, he will be away for Christmas and my birthday. Normally he's gone back by now but had to delay it cos his dad is poorly.

He's would really like his own so I'm also worried he will resent me if it doesn't happen. He's promised me he won't, he's been amazing tbh! Taken my three on as his own too they all get on so well.

@Theresamagicalplace YES, I am also conscious of avoiding Dec/Jan birthdays as my SCs both have birthdays in those months, plus Christmas obviously. It is already so hard to afford, so we could really do without another birthday there if possible.

I waited until May to come off my pill for this reason, but don't know what I'll do when it comes to March/April (which I think is when conception would result in Dec/Jan) as we'd have been trying 9+ months then so probably wouldn't be wise to waste 2 months of trying. Hopefully I'll get a BFP before then so it won't be an issue crosses fingers .

Hey, I will join here too if that's OK :)

I am just coming off the back of an early MC (chemical I guess) at the start of this month, so just waiting for my period to arrive. Hoping it will be over the next couple of weeks so I can crack on with December. Wasn't sure I'd be up for cracking on again so soon as I struggled to adjust when I got my BFP, but feeling positive now :)

I did use PreSeed around fertile week the month we conceived, which was our 5th cycle since me stopping the pill. So I do think it helped. I'm a little bit wary of using it again just because in the back of my mind I'm worried about it helping out the weaker sperm and ending in another chemical, but I know loads of people have had successful pregnancies using it so I'm trying to push that out of my mind as I really do think it made a difference for us.

I am the same as @Moonshine160 in that I never notice any EWCM so I do think it could help me out. I also have some Evening Primrose Oil to try next cycle too to see if it changes anything. I've read it officially doesn't matter if you don't notice EWCM in your underwear or when wiping as it's likely still present inside but it can't hurt to give a helping hand.

I've had the mirena crash. It was taken out ten days ago, I bled the day after for three days. Assumed this was my period. Woke up every day to cramping and headaches. Feeling generally run down tbh (but work is also horribly understaffed atm (nicu nurse) and we had a sad death at the end of my shift yesterday morning and today, full blown period! Mouth ulcers, headache, cracked hands. I just feel poop and have wondered why I'm doing this all over again at my age 🥲 OH is so excited but I genuinely don't think it's going to happen for us, without the age thing I've had 7mcs over the years, though I have 3 boys too I went through a lot to get them. Add into the fact he's away for two months at a time and due to go away any day now. Just having a low day I think.

Can I join?

2nd month of TTC for #1 baby.

Been using OPKs but they don't seem to be getting much darker and ovulation is meant to be tomorrow 😩 dtd every other day, and yesterday used pre seed and menstrual cup after (only kept in for a couple of hours, but hopefully helped)

I have a very high BMI so am worried this will impact our journey, but cycles are 28-30 days, I'm pretty confident I ovulate every month with no issues and taking all the right supplements 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Only found out today didn't think I'd be having one yet as I'm not quite 25 yet...

I'm going for my first smear test on Saturday! Will this affect me ttc this cycle?

@mightbeyesmightbeno we’re cycle buddies and going for the same method this month then good luck to us

You're not alone! I'm a bridesmaid for my best friend in October next year so if we don't fall pregnant this month then we're going to have to skip January otherwise I'd be due on her wedding day!