Anyone else ttc #2? Thread 2

Another test today and it's a BFN 😔 I'm thinking I'm out this month. It's 11dpo today so I guess it may still happen but just not feeling positive about it anymore!

Hi hope it's OK to join, hi ladies I'm 35 birthday was Jan I'm also a bigger lady size 22/24 I've already lost nearly 2 stone so far so between my age and being bigger built I've convinced myself I will struggle ttc anyone else a larger lady tia my DS is 12 and I got my mirena coil removed monday xx

@lovesT - Yep so annoying the symptoms are the same. I am having mild crampy feelings today which could be implantation or could be pms! So hard to know.

Yes 10 days is on the shorter side but like you say may have just been due to stress. Hopefully you have a longer cycle this month! It's so random isnt' it... even when everything lines up it sometimes doesn't happen. xx

@Skylark1990 also, fingers crossed for you! But we're all here if it's not positive this month. I feel the same, I feel a bit stupid for not thinking it might take some time to get pregnant again! Kind of regret not starting sooner but can't change that so trying to stay positive that it will happen and hopefully soon. The wait is so hard!! It doesn't help that pms symptoms and early pregnancy symptoms can be so similar. With my daughter I felt like I was coming on! So confusing x

@Tjsmjs totally understand. I hung out with my sister in law yesterday (pregnant) and it was actually really nice but I still find my heart dropping when I think of her being pregnant and I'm not 😥 especially as we started trying before them. But he's, definitely have a break but as Skylark says feel free to vent and don't apologise for being negative, that's what these threads are for some times!

@Skylark1990 I hope they all help!! The first time Pregnacare Conception seemed to work (or just coincidence) as we conceived the following month after taking it but I'm on my 4th pack now. I only started tracking last month and it was 10 days 😕 it was a super stressful month so I don't know if that's normal or a one off but from what I hear that is on the shorter side which is why I looked into these vitamins to see if they help. A few months ago I started getting sore boobs after ovulation (which didn't happen last night which is why I wonder if stress had a big part to play) so I think that might be a sign of progesterone as that happened after ov when I conceived my daughter too?

I haven't heard of those other vitamins! Might have a look. I think if it doesn't happen this cycle I'd be tempted by progesterone cream but I'm not sure! I'm pretty sure the gp wouldn't be up for testing my hormones at this stage so it all feels like guess work.

Hey all

@lovesT Thank you. I’m trying to be kind to myself- that it is ok to be sad and jealous. I know what you mean by the gap. I think this month is hitting me harder as the gap is just getting bigger. I wanted a 2-3 year gap and now we are looking at a 4 year gap now. Also knowing I won’t have a baby this year. Unfortunately most of by friends with children are either pregnant, recently had a baby or going through their own crap. My childless friends aren’t TTC and don’t really understand.
Sorry I’m being negative.

Thank you for being so kind.

I really do hope you get your BFP soon. I’ll come back in a few weeks and hopefully you both will have your bfps. X

@Chanel05 all the best for you this month! I wonder if I feel a different kind of desperation as I don't want a big age gap and it just keeps getting bigger so I feel a different kind of sad 😕 but still trying to look at the positives of a bigger age gap than expected.

@Tjsmjs I'm so sorry 😟 loads of hugs. That's is so so hard and I don't blame you at all for feeling miserable. That's why these places are great to post especially when you don't have anyone in real life to talk to. Is there a friend you could tell you're TTC so you have someone to talk to if you need to? I also find I need a break sometimes from anything to do with TTC so maybe that would be good but here if you need to vent or chat. X

Hi @Chanel05 and @lovesT. To be honest I’m finding this month really tough. I got my peak today and DH isn’t due home until late Friday so out this cycle before it even started. Plus there is a lot of uncertainty with DHs posting the next couple of months (he is military) so not sure he is going to be around enough to try, plus anxiety there.
Lots of TTC and pregnancy stuff keeps coming up on my social media feeds as well (stupid algorithms) which is making feel crap. And pretty lonely due to DH being away and no friends knowing we are trying. So overall not really in a good place right now. Sorry to be a miserable poster. I think I’m going to take a break from both social media and here for the next couple of weeks but baby dust for you both.

Hello everyone 😊 how are you all doing? I've had a break from conception things as sometimes it all gets a bit overwhelming!

But today I've gone conception mad 😅 I just want to get pregnant 😭 I've bought yet another pack of Pregnacare Conception, got a vitamin B complex, raspberry leaf tea, vitamin C and also taking magnesium. These are all things I have read about that seem to have worked for other women.

Before I was only taking Pregnacare Conception and last month omega 3 and just generally eating much better.

The only thing I've seen other women have success with is vitex and progesterone cream. I'm really tempted by progesterone cream as I have suspicions that mine might be low due to breastfeeding but 1, it's expensive and 2 it feels weird to add hormones even if natural?? The other things I'm taking are supposed to help with progesterone production anyway.

Seriously TTC feels like it can drive us to madness 😅 I feel sad as I feel like I'm avoiding seeing my sister in law as she's pregnant but I don't want to do that 😥.

Anyone else feel like they're a bit TTC obsessed ? 😬 I'm feeling more positive and trying to keep that way.

Loads of baby dust to us all as this is not an easy journey and often very lonely xx

@Tjsmjs so sorry that you were so sad 😟 I find myself not seeing my sister in law as much as she's pregnant and the more pregnant she gets the harder it is for me even though I am excited for her.

I've looked into the c Q10 but it's so hard to know which ones to take and which to avoid! Vitex makes me a bit nervous because you apparently need to wean off it when pregnant and be quite careful with that, but it seems to work for lots of women.

@megevans it's TTC and pregnancy WHILE breastfeeding support group x

@lovesT
What is the Facebook group you follow that is for those TTC while breastfeeding?

@lovesT yes it is that heart sinking moment. After being so positive before all I did was cry last night. DH left for his trip and I felt very alone. Also found out another relative is pregnant so think it was a combo of stuff. Trying to get back into the positive mindset. I’ve made a list of house tasks I want to get done before he is back to distract me.
I know what you mean about the cost of vitamins. I’ve done a bit of shopping around so the vitamin e is about £2 month and coenzyme q10 is £5 but the pregnacare is expensive and vitex is as well. From my reading that any changes we make take 3 months to have an affect so I am trying to see it as a 6 month commitment if I am going to do it.
I’ll try and find the link for the research trial which found vitex lengthening cycle for you.

Baby dust for us both and hopefully by at least being able to post here neither of us feel alone in this journey.

Thanks @Tjsmjs I know it's so hard isn't it, so much hope which can just be gone in a second. I've read/ heard mixed opinions on whether 10 days is too short and some things say that a shorter luteal phase isn't always a problem so I don't know ... I thought after a year of periods it would all have settled down by now?! I'd be tempted by some of these vitamins etc (already taking Pregnacare and omega 3 and eating more healthily) but it's all so expensive and I feel like I've already thrown a lot of money at vitamins which haven't helped this time round 😩 I'll look into it more but I have seen a lot about vitex but more for bringing periods back. I'm happy that my cycle was 28 days again this month as that is my normal and no idea why last month was 26.

Allllll the baby dust to us this month ✨✨ even with partners being away. That's exactly the same for me, he goes away for 2 nights and will be back in my predicted ov day! Few days to get through being on my period 🙄🙄 then back to it! Having a hard time with my daughter as she's had a cold for a few days and only wants me (and milk)..

Hi @BeeYellowMumma. Welcome to the friend.

@lovesT I’m sorry. I was so hopeful for you this month. I had all my fingers crossed. Sounds like we are in a similar boat with partners being away during the fertile period. DH is due back the day of predicted ovulation for me to. I have a short luteal phase- is is usually 10-11 days. This month it was 12 days. I started taking co-enzyme q10 in and vitamin e in January as I’ve read that they can help. It takes a few months to help but you could consider that. I’m looking at vitex berry next if these don’t help but feels a bit different to take a herb than vitamins.

My daughter is 3

@BeeYellowMumma welcome 😊 it's great to have a support group. Not all pregnancies and births are the same so I hope you have a better time this time round x

Thanks @GreenFlipFlop it took about 5 months I think so maybe that's why it feels hard too as we're going past how long it took to conceive our daughter. With my husband going away for a couple of months around ovulation time this month we'll just have to do what we can either side of him being away or hope that this month I ovulate earlier 🤷. Thank you, I am feeling a bit hopeless at the moment but it just takes time.

My sister in law had her scan recently so all very exciting but as each month goes on it gets harder x

@lovesT oh I'm so sorry 😢 I was really hopeful this would be your month. How long did it take with DD1 for you? It took 4 months for DS1 for me and 8 with current pregnancy. 6 months is a hard stage though, I remember feeling really sad at 6 months because I was convinced it wasn't going to happen, but it did! I'm sure it will happen for you, it's just taking a bit longer than expected ❤️

Welcome @beeyellowmumma 😊 how old is your DC? X

Hi everyone, I'm new here and to mumsnet👋

We have taken the plunge to try for number 2, I'm petrified though as had significant trauma with my first.

I'm not due AF until Saturday, but since last night I've been feeling cramps and tugging in my abdo, intermittently a bit nauseous, but more peculiarly I noticed a very small amount of what looked like milk to me from my nipple, which has left me sick with dread and excitement that maybe this could be it? Who knows

Just here for some morale support if anything

@GreenFlipFlop, no definitely period 😥😞😞. So onto the 6th cycle. I've just looked at dates and very frustratingly my husband will be away for a couple of nights in the lead up to my predicted ovulation 😞 but he should be back for predicted ovulation day 🤞. As I tracked ovulation this month I know my luteal phase was about 10 days which is apparently short so that worries me. Tempted to talk to a gp but not sure they would be interested. I was feeling okay earlier but feel a bit sad again xx

@lovesT oh no! Could maybe be implantation bleeding?

Just had blood when I wiped 😥😥😥 devastated

@whatsthecraic91 interesting! thanks!

Ahh I don't know I'm still expecting to come on but that would be amazing if it's all signs. We'll see. I'm not hot no but I have had heart palpitations which I had when I was pregnant with my daughter although I don't remember how early and it could also be due to a stressful week. This symptom spotting and waiting is enough to drive you mad isn't it 😄