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Ttc after miscarriage 🤞🌈✨

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Skl2021 · 08/11/2021 11:11

Just a thread for any ladies ttc after a miscarriage! Nice to get some support from people going through the same thing. So I had a MMC at ten weeks nearly three weeks ago now. I'm still getting faint positive on tests. My ovulation tests are still all over the place possibly due to the HCG still being in my system. So not totally accurate right now. So I'm currently stuck in limbo land either waiting for ovulation or my period 🤔 any ladies want to join the journey?!?!

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PamelaDoov · 09/01/2022 13:42

@taykitty20 I know exactly what you mean. We got a bit like that when TTC with our first. It puts a lot of pressure on both parties when you know you HAVE to perform in order to get what you want, it’s not just for fun anymore. I am worried that DH might be affected if we start TTC when we are both still thinking about our loss. Obviously it’s not his fault but it will mean potentially missing out on conceiving if we can’t DTD at the right time.

20viona · 09/01/2022 12:36

How are we all? I'm 6/7 DPO and got such a weird tender tummy and lots of gas 🤦🏼‍♀️ urgh! I haven't had a period since I miscarried and I know we had sex around the correct time of ovulation so fingers crossed!

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Skl2021 · 09/01/2022 12:18

@taykitty20 I feel ya 🙌 I'm at the same place right now! Sick of forcing DTD I don't have high drive either but I desperately want to get pregnant again so I'm doing it. 🤦 I'm so fed up with it all! X

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taykitty20 · 09/01/2022 11:42

So, obviously BFP was awesome for so many reasons. But on that list...DTD was getting to be awful. Like, he couldn’t, I would get angry, it would often feel forced and sad. Neither of us has a sky high drive anyway. dH would be happy with another child but his heart doesn’t need it like mine. Getting back to that forced DTD...not exciting. Anyone else? 😳

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Skl2021 · 09/01/2022 11:29

@PamelaDoov haha that's weird how the brain works 🙊 at least u won't forget 😂 x

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PamelaDoov · 09/01/2022 11:22

@Skl2021 definitely won’t do anything until it’s stopped. Weirdly enough I had a dream about it last night, was about to DTD with DH and then remembered I didn’t want to risk infection 😂

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Skl2021 · 09/01/2022 11:03

@PamelaDoov I think that's fairly common for it to stop and start 😩 just be careful DTD to early as there's risk of infection xx

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PamelaDoov · 09/01/2022 10:53

Urgh I really thought I’d finished bleeding, had barely anything yesterday. But it’s come back with a vengeance overnight. I know it’s only been a week but I want it to be over so I can move on :(

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Skl2021 · 09/01/2022 10:24

@calimc83 is this second period since miscarriage? Did your first come on time? Sorry I can't keep up 🤦 I'm not sure it's just with the cm going again I'm thinking has it been 🙈 I'm sick of DTD but I think I'm going to have to keep trying 😩 x

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calimc83 · 09/01/2022 10:17

@Skl2021 😆🙈 I know! Such a long wait..think it might of changed 😐 hmm maybe u did ovulate then? Can u do it every other day maybe for next few days? See if tests change at all in meantime? X

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Skl2021 · 09/01/2022 10:08

@calimc83 I thought you were due on alot earlier 🤦 yes definitely don't ruin your night! I don't know what I'm doing my tests are back to the same. My ewcm has gone. The darkest test was a few days ago now so I don't know if I ovulated then. So confused do I carry on DTD 🙄🤣 Im so done with this month!! X

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calimc83 · 09/01/2022 08:45

@Skl2021 hoping to hold out till next Sunday if I can ( due Friday ish I think but not entirely sure ) we're going away Saturday ( child free! For a night) don't want a negative result to put me on a downer... I think AF will show her ugly face...x

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Skl2021 · 08/01/2022 22:29

@calimc83 when u thinking of testing? X

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calimc83 · 08/01/2022 21:21

@PamelaDoov @Ganesh2022 Thanks 😊 need to stop symptom spotting xx

PamelaDoov · 08/01/2022 20:26

@Ganesh2022 same thing happened to me with DS. Did a test just to get the negative out the way, and it was positive. Zero pregnancy symptoms.

Hopingforarainbow27 · 08/01/2022 20:21

Thanks @Ganesh2022 💕

Ganesh2022 · 08/01/2022 20:18

*same :)

Ganesh2022 · 08/01/2022 20:18

Sadly I posted about this in total happiness on day of BFP but something I noticed was that I thought I would "just know" when it was positive, and I really and totally didn't. I tested literally just to get the negative over with and was shocked. All symptoms were exactly the safe as AF. If that gives hope to anyone who's certain it just isn't the month.

calimc83 · 08/01/2022 19:36

@Skl2021 sounds like you're not too far off..hope it happens soon for you x
I know, it's not something I've ever noticed till TTC. I felt nauseous just before I got my BFP in Aug but before that I'd never noticed it. According to Dr Google some sites say it's typical of PMS and some say it's not so who knows 🤷‍♀️ x

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Skl2021 · 08/01/2022 18:52

@calimc83 I have noticed alot more cm started yesterday so I'm hoping something is happening or soon! Don't know how much more I can take I want it done already! Yes I didn't know nausea want a symptom of af! Aww I hope it is good news for you we do need some 😩✨ x

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calimc83 · 08/01/2022 18:51

@Hopingforarainbow27 Nothing TMI when TTC! 😆 x

Hopingforarainbow27 · 08/01/2022 18:49

I had moist cm today after going to the toilet (I was a bit constipated) sorry tmi! But fry the rest of day so I'm confused now?

calimc83 · 08/01/2022 18:44

@Hopingforarainbow27 it's crap isn't it...think we're all feeling it today. Have u still got the CM? X

calimc83 · 08/01/2022 18:43

@Skl2021 mine were a bit like that..up and down then finally positive. Are u checking EWCM at all?
I'm ok...feeling nauseous but felt the same just before AF showed up last month 😩..didn't realise nausea was a symptom of PMS...but apparently it is! No urge to test yet as don't think it's good news this cycle xx

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Skl2021 · 08/01/2022 18:35

@calimc83 I'm cd 16 today so still early I know. Just the constant testing and they go up and down or don't move it's just getting to me. I need to get this month done as I don't feel hopeful and maybe step back next month and not do anything just DTD when I want to. My emotions are all over. How are you doing? X
@Hopingforarainbow27 snap must be something in the air! Hope you get a positive outcome! 🤞 I just can't seem to snap out of it! X

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