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Ttc after miscarriage 🤞🌈✨

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Skl2021 · 08/11/2021 11:11

Just a thread for any ladies ttc after a miscarriage! Nice to get some support from people going through the same thing. So I had a MMC at ten weeks nearly three weeks ago now. I'm still getting faint positive on tests. My ovulation tests are still all over the place possibly due to the HCG still being in my system. So not totally accurate right now. So I'm currently stuck in limbo land either waiting for ovulation or my period 🤔 any ladies want to join the journey?!?!

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PamelaDoov · 11/01/2022 10:17

I haven’t had any bleeding since yesterday so that’s good. I did a PT test earlier and it was a v v faint positive, so faint you can’t see it unless held right in the light. So it’s heading in the right direction. I’m gonna test every day so I can see when it goes fully negative, and also keep an eye out for ovulation signs over the next couple of weeks.

I had a dream the other night that I was pregnant again and found out it was a girl. It’s sad that the reality is much different but I’m holding on to so much hope that things will work out for us soon.

Ganesh2022 · 11/01/2022 09:29

They wouldn't do anything b/c they're legally not allowed to call it a missed miscarriage without two scans 10 days apart, and mine have been 4 days apart. Even though I'm bleeding (slightly), there's no growth, the sac was irregular, and they admitted there is no good ending to this. Legally their hands are tied. It was actually a pretty horrible situation, I tried to explain that I struggle badly with anxiety and that I couldn't go home and not know when it'll all start, that it didn't feel safe for my kids; then of course they heard the buzzwords of "safe" and "kids" and I had to back down.

Ganesh2022 · 11/01/2022 09:26

@EmLouisexx gentle congrats, fingers crossed for you.

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Skl2021 · 11/01/2022 08:52

@EmLouisexx how lovely a positive story after such a horrible time ✨ hope it's a sticky one 🤞 congratulations 🌈💞 x

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Skl2021 · 11/01/2022 08:50

@calimc83 sorry af got you 😩 your not alone I also thought the exact same as you! I have two lovely children why am I wanting more? Maybe I should stick with my life how it is but then I thought that the niggling in my head will never go away. The what ifs or regrets of not trying again. I stupidly thought I would fall pregnant straight away so when I didn't it hit me hard. Maybe have a chat with oh if you don't want to continue or sort a plan or timescale but don't give up if it's what you want. Were all here to support each other 💞 we will get these rainbows 🌈✨ xx

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EmLouisexx · 11/01/2022 08:33

Don't give up ladies❤️ Me and my partner have been trying since July 2020! I had a MMC and a MC last year. I was starting to give up completely and cried last week thinking I missed ovulation.

Today I got a BFP🤞🏻 Hoping this one stays but I so terrified.

taykitty20 · 11/01/2022 08:32

@calimc83 I’m so sorry :/ you’re not selfish. Have you guys had a conversation about how far you’re willing to go? For some reason having a plan and knowing when I might get help—or call it a day—has helped a lot, though I know each AF will crush me.

calimc83 · 11/01/2022 07:47

Well AF is here...gutted. Feel like giving up. I know I'm only on the first cycle back TTC but not sure I can put myself through this much more. I have 2 children and I'm incredibly lucky to have them. Am I being selfish wanting a 3rd..😞 xx

calimc83 · 10/01/2022 22:31

@Ganesh2022 I'm so sorry. Why can't they do anything?? I felt exactly the same as you. Once I knew it was a MMC I just wanted the process to start so I could move on, if that makes sense? Thinking of you xx

Hopingforarainbow27 · 10/01/2022 22:30

@Ganesh2022 I completely understand. You just want to move on but you can't. More limbo 😔 I hope you can soon and you get your rainbow soon 🌈

Ganesh2022 · 10/01/2022 22:25

@Hopingforarainbow27 Thanks, I hope I don't sound cold but I just want it done. It's clear that it isn't going to work out. I understand their hands are tied, but I wish I could've been handed back a tiny bit of control over the situation.

Ganesh2022 · 10/01/2022 22:23

I so want this board to be a place of lots of good news. Flowers

Hopingforarainbow27 · 10/01/2022 22:10

@Ganesh2022 I'm so sorry. 🤍

Hopingforarainbow27 · 10/01/2022 22:09

@Ganesh2022 thanks. It only happened once there and made me say " ouch" so it could be nothing!!

Ganesh2022 · 10/01/2022 21:59

@calimc83 That's excruciating re the swimming :( If I am lucky enough to get pregnant again, I will always remember that someone standing in front of me may be having a hard time with this stuff. It was very hard, if understandable, to see happy couples with their scan pictures today. I get it, I've been on the other side, and I can only hope I was mindful that others were getting bad news.

@Hopingforarainbow27 I get those twinges every month, but the shooting boob ones I've associated with pregnancy. Obviously it can always go either way, but for me that has been a good sign so fingers crossed.

Ganesh2022 · 10/01/2022 21:55

MMC confirmed today but they would not do anything about it, even though there has been no growth since last time and they pretty much said there is no way it could end well. Legally their hands are tied for ten days. Really upsetting as I just want control of the process. Terrified of when bleeding will start, whether it will start, all of it.

Hopingforarainbow27 · 10/01/2022 17:07

Also had a shooting pain on my right boob there but was gone in couple of seconds

Hopingforarainbow27 · 10/01/2022 17:06

I'm 11dpo (I think) going from the day after positive opk test. Have had the odd twinge for the last 3 days. Anyone know what this could be? Not planning on testing until Wednesday if af doesn't arrive.
When I say twinge is like a prickly/throb feeling. Todays was really really low down to the right. If someone can help me I would appreciate it?

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Skl2021 · 10/01/2022 14:24

@calimc83 if I have then I have never missed a peak before 🤣🤦

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Skl2021 · 10/01/2022 14:15

@chasingtherainbow1 @PamelaDoov I have tried all different brands and times 🤣 never had a month like this before. I always get a gradual darkness then peak then back to low. Never had a month all the same so not quite sure what's going on. Just going to write this month off x

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calimc83 · 10/01/2022 14:14

@Skl2021 not necessarily! You may have already ovulated..xx

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Skl2021 · 10/01/2022 14:13

@calimc83 oh no 😩 I hope it's not 🤞 yes I might have to step away I'm going insane. I tried to DTD last night and couldn't think the stress is getting to me 😭 so gues this month is over for me xx

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PamelaDoov · 10/01/2022 14:13

@Skl2021 if it’s any consolation, I fucking hate OPKs. They never work for me and cause nothing but stress. I’ve been pregnant 3 times so I obviously ovulate! But I’ve never had a proper positive OPK, even from testing constantly.

chasingtherainbow1 · 10/01/2022 14:08

@Skl2021 those test look really frustrating. I use the Tesco ones. You get 7 for about £12 which is more expensive but I've found them really reliable! The test line goes way darker than control when I'm ovulating!

calimc83 · 10/01/2022 14:08

Think AF is just about here 😩😩 10DPO and starting to get a bit of spotting...ffs x