Faith, trust & baby dust! ✨💕✨ TTC 12 months + 🤞🏼 On this rollercoaster together with a little love, support and giggles to get us by! 💕

@AZ1992X ahh sorry to hear the lines are toying with you ♥️ How many DPO are you now? I found it so hard not to fixate on them but it totally consumed me for a couple of days. Keeping my fingers crossed for some obvious darkening in the morning 🤞🏻

@HopefulGlow it’s aaaall day, I have to get DH to bring me toast in bed before I even sit up in the morning to ease it off before I get up, god love him 😂 it’s just constant queasiness, which eases off with small amounts of bland food but only for about 20 mins then I feel sick again. It’s bleak! I’m so so grateful (I know i keep saying that but I feel like I need it to be known when I’m moaning) but I wasn’t expecting all day nausea 😂 No actual vomiting, nipples still on fire 👍🏻

I’m so so sorry to hear about your wee rabbit! That must’ve been such a shock and is so sad 💔 the wee pet. Plus painful ovulation and custody chat - this is not a relaxing Friday for you. Sending you lots of love!!

House viewings is exciting, I don’t think I knew you were moving.. or I’ve missed it, sorry! Hopefully that’ll be a fun distraction from the rubbishy, not so fun things xxx

Morning ladies!

Hope you’re all well and looking forward to the weekend?

Not much to update here, tests aren’t progressing as much as I had hoped (I think they all look about the same) , trying to stay positive as it’s still very early and I’m hoping they’ll pick up in the next few days x.

Hi ladies... I've been a bit quiet so just catching up. Hope you're all okay?

@Amy259 Nothing really, my bbt dropped slightly so I was sure I was out but it went right back up today - going to stop testing bbt I think now or I’ll drive myself crazy. Did have slight sore boobs but very slightly and I’ve had it before and had negatives so didn’t think it would of been that.

That does sound like a good idea as getting to 12 weeks feels like a lifetime away, so I’ll take it a day then week at a time. I bet you cannot wait till your scan, not too long left to go. I hope you’re getting plenty of rest if you’re feeling a little icky ❤️ Xx.

@Amy259 thanks for the kind words. Hope I hear back from the fertility clinic. It's been three months now, so hopefully not too long to wait (I'm in England, so probably takes a little longer).

I'm currently on CD19 so on the TWW, which always seem to take forever!

So happy for you and hope the scan goes well next week. Keep us updated :)

@Tinkerbell098 welcome, and sorry you’ve found yourself here ♥️

I think most of us are similar, no one in real life we know of who has been through it. These gals really helped me through some of the toughest times, and continue to be super supportive.

That’s good that your GP did your bloods - I take it they confirmed ovulation okay? I was the told the same when I was referred, 6-12 months, but ended up getting my first call within 3 months so 🤞🏻 it’s similar for you. That was in Scotland.

I tried all the same things as you, and some whacky other ones haha, including the fertilily which I did actually quite like because I felt like I was doing something and. it certainly couldn’t be doing any harm 🤷🏼‍♀️

Don’t be sorry for negativity - we all get like that sometimes and it’s good to get it out in a place where people understand. Where are you on your cycle this month?

@AZ1992X I bet you were, did you have any inclination other than af not arriving? There are some lovely statistics on the Tommy’s website about mc/bfp after mc, although I’m sure only time will really put you at ease.

The milestones really keep me sane, and make praying we get to the 12 week mark so much less overwhelming too. I had digital week progressions and everything on list so I could see lots of ticks haha. I’m 7 weeks today and feel absolutely rotten 🤢 scan next Thursday to keep me ticking over xx

Hi all, I'm new to mumsnet. I joined as I don't really have anyone to talk to regarding this roller coaster ride. It's good to be able to share similar experiences and support each other over here.

We have been trying for our first baby for about 14 months/cycles. My cycles are very regular, so really didn't think I had an issue until it kept failing every month. I have had a day 21 blood test done which was normal apart from prolactin levels, which my GP hasn't really clarified. She has referred me to the fertility clinic, but that was back in August and I still haven't heard from them. Apparently it'll take another 6 months (according to the girl at the clinic I spoke to over the phone)!

We have been trying different things over the year (pre-seed, OPKs, supplements and more recently "fertilily cup" - anyone heard of this or tried it?), with no luck.

Really getting to a point where I'm slowly losing hope as I am now over 36. Everyone around me is getting pregnant/having first, second and third babies, in-laws asking me when we will "give them good news". Sorry for the negativity, just losing my mind at the minute and just needed to vent.

Good luck to everyone and hope we all get that BFP this month! Lots of love

@Amy259 thank you, defo a bag of emotions right now. Both happy and very anxious. I was nearly in tears when I saw the line.

That sounds a great idea having small milestones - I’ll defo do that. I started spotting exactly three weeks after my bfp although it took about a week and a half to confirm due to having to wait a week in between the scans.

@HopefulGlow thank you ❤️, I’ll try too! I’m off for a week after Friday and I think that’ll do me the world of good.

Xx

@HopefulGlow I think when you’re near ov you should maybe see a wee bit of it? No idea though. I was worried and started taking evening primrose oil from cd1 to ov and it made a huge difference.

@AZ1992X ahh look at those lines! Congratulations! I can’t imagine all the emotions you must be feeling just now ♥️ Hoping the next few weeks fly in for you. I hope you don’t mind me asking, but what stage/weeks were you in April/May?
I know it’s so not the same, but I was off the scale anxious and wrote a list on my phone of milestones like missed period, 4 weeks, 5 weeks etc and ticking them off really makes me feel better xx

@HopefulGlow thank you! ❤️

I’m able to get an early reassurance scan on the NHS for free which is nice of them. I’m just going to wait a few more days to make sure it’s progressing before I ring and book. Hoping the next few weeks fly by! 🤞

Thank you ladies, it really means a lot having your support ❤️

I’m trying to stay as positive as I can but I’ll always have that doubt in my mind after the MC. I told OH and he was the same saying he don’t want to get too happy until he knows everything’s ok and sees a little heartbeat.

@HopefulGlow I hope you’re ok, it sounds like you’ve had a stressful week. Hoping the weekend comes quick for you. Do you have anything nice planned to look forward too?

I’ll add those ones to my list - might have a chill day Saturday then shopping on Sunday ☺️

Added a photo - you may not be able to see the line on the cheap one - it’s so faint. Little worrying but it’s so early so I’ll keep positive it’ll get darker! X.

@HopefulGlow I used preseed ☺️ including the month we conceived.

A little goes a long way! And you’re supposed to put it right up inside about 15 mins before dtd, which isn’t the most romantic of build ups… and if you have plenty of ewcm anyway, you really won’t need much! It just made me feel like I was doing something extra to help his swimmers along 😂

@HopefulGlow every other day sounds like a good idea for a motility issue I’m sure! I don’t think it matters too much when it falls… I do remember I read a big study where they had couples have sex just once in their fw and found that of those only having sex on ovulation day, none resulted in a successful pregnancy. I first read it in a book then found it online. They hypothesised that it was because if the sperm wasn’t waiting on the egg, the egg gets “old” before sperm reaches it and it’s less likely to successfully fertilise. Since I read that, I’ve definitely been more concerned about before than ov day itself, but I guess it’s quite hard to know exactly what day/time you ov after peak 🤷🏼‍♀️

What about every other day, then an extra on peak day if it doesn’t fall on a DTD day?

@AZ1992X I have absolutely everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 Please keep us updated! ♥️

Oh how exciting @AZ1992X! Keeping my fingers crossed for you ❤️🤞

And I agree with you @LA9610 when I know someone has been struggling too I don't feel the same level of difficult emotions, in fact it gives me hope that I'll be in the same boat someday 🤞

@HopefulGlow I wish I had as much energy as you 😂 we have been doing every other day ever since we had our chemical where we happened to have done it every other day lol so figured it was a good policy to keep! We try and keep it up throughout the month but realistically tend to drop off after about day 16... I find I lose interest in sex after I've ovulated - not just in the sense of knowing the fertile window is over but I just have less of a drive! Whereas in the fertile window I could go every day 😂😂😂😂

Also you have made me realise we need a wok! We don't have stir fries often and when we do I just use a frying pan... which is probably why we don't have them often! Let me know what it's like if you try it 😊 we are going to have it tomorrow I think, tonight is salmon night! (Trying to up our omega 3s!)

My period is due on Saturday and my boobs are a bit sore today. Trying not to obsess as they often are around this time 🙄 when will I learn?!

Not drinking*

I def don't need an excuse to drink 🙈

Ahhh that's exciting @AZ1992X, got my fingers crossed that the line keeps getting darker. Amazing news!

Don't worry, I think when it's someone you know who has been struggling to you don't feel the same emotions as when you just randomly get hit with a 'we're pregnant' and it coming as a shock. That's how it is for me anyway, I've never felt anything other than happiness for someone getting a BFP when TTC for this long!

I had a very busy weekend, at the in-laws for a couple of nights, then in Edinburgh for a night away which was nice. I think im in the 2 week wait now - cycle day 17. I know this is the last time before Christmas so I'm just thinking if I am then great, and if I'm not, at least i don't need to make up a million excuses as to why I'm I'm drinking through December 😂😂

@HopefulGlow, I struggle with lunch foods too, I've been having tomato and feta omelettes recently as warm and tasty but not like a massive meal.

Hope everyone is having a nice week!

Morning ladies!

Hope everyone’s week is going ok.

AF was due by today and no sign this morning so decided to test. I got the vvv faintest line on the cheap strips so did an early detection one which had a slightly better line but still quite faint. It’s still so early so don’t want go get my hopes up in case it’s a chemical or doesn’t progress.

P.s I’m so sorry if anyone didn’t want to see this as it’s triggered any emotions - I really don’t mean too. ❤️❤️

Sorry @HopefulGlow apparently the stats are very similar for the day before or day itself.

@HopefulGlow yes that’s true, hopefully they’ll be loads of Christmassy stuff out. ☺️

It was thank you - I’m feeling a little guilty for all these meals out the last few days 🙈, I’ll be back to normal tomorrow!

Ah I’ve not heard of that one - another to add to the list. 🎄

We normally do every other day from around CD10/12 then when I get high opks do it daily until after I’ve ovulated. On my peak or ovulation day I have sometimes done twice as I figured why not as we get a rest after that so nothing to lose by doing it more.