Faith, trust & baby dust! ✨💕✨ TTC 12 months + 🤞🏼 On this rollercoaster together with a little love, support and giggles to get us by! 💕

@xoJellyBean I'm so sorry to hear! Hope you are holding up ok. I suppose it's good they caught it now and hope they can safely treat it and you can TTC soon. Lots of hugs to you xx

@HopefulGlow Your absolutely right, it will make it that more special knowing what we’ve been through to get there and you’re right I don’t think we’ll ever forget our journey. ❤️

I’m doing ok thank you, I’ve got a long weekend off work starting today and plan on putting the tree up and going Christmas shopping.

Glad you’re getting in the Christmas spirit too 🎄⛄️

Xx.

@xoJellyBean I’m so sorry to hear that and you’ve been asked to stop TTC.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed you get some answers and discussions around next steps after your tests next week.

❤️

Hi @HopefulGlow,

Glad you had a lovely weekend with family but so sorry AF showed up.

Im glad your OH has been very supportive of you and positive - he sounds great.

I know how hard it can be to try and remain positive when it’s all that you want and think about and with each cycle it just gets harder. If you feel talking to someone would be good for your health then absolutely reach out. There’s nothing bad that can come from asking for help ❤️, Also know we’re always here too.

I agree and think that mindset does play a part - when I felt/feel like that I kept thinking of this group and how many people went on to get got their bfp even after trying for so long so try and cling onto that.

Sorry that the GP got it wrong about the SA, very annoying especially when you thought it would be coming imminently.

P.s please don’t apologise for the rant - always happy to listen. ❤️

Hello ladies. Wee update from me, my scans have shown up at tumour on my womb unfortunately. More tests to follow next week but I've been advised to stop TTC as it's too risky 💔💔

Morning ladies,

Hope everyone’s doing ok and had a nice weekend?

I went out with family for a few drinks and an Indian. Haven’t had a drink in months and I think it was much needed!

@HopefulGlow How are you doing?

Also great news on the SA, it’s great you haven’t had to wait long for that.

Yes, I managed to get an appointment but it’s not till mid December. That seems forever away now but sure it will come around pretty quick.

@Amy259 I’m glad the tablets have helped a little. ❤️

I think I’m leaning towards trying this cycle, OH is keen too, trying to not put much pressure on it - the less stress the better.

@User1400 I’m sorry AF arrived for you, I feel it’s even harder the cycles where there was nothing more you could do. Hope you’re taking some time for yourself ❤️

@LA9610 It’s nice to hear from you but sorry to hear work is pretty stressful. I hope you’re taking some time still at weekends to relax/unwind?

Hey everyone, hope you are all doing well!

Haven't checked this thread recently as to be honest I've just been so busy. Work is mental at the moment and im stressed as hell but I won't be trying again for another 3 weeks anyway so not worried about it. Also I've recently discovered from the BFN podcast that unless stress is making you have sex less then there's little to no evidence that it actually affects fertility - hearing that instantly made me feel a bit more relaxed because I have a pretty stressful job/life in general.

@HopefulGlow great news about the SA! Where are you based again that seems so quick. OH has been waiting since August now to try and get his.

@User1400, I kind of feel the same and I don't think I will post anything online. I've actually not posted anything online in over a year anyway, I try to stay away from socials as much as possible as it really doesn't do much good for my mental health. I think your friend could have given you a warning if she knows what you are going through and I think your feelings are valid.

@AZ1992X ahh that’s rubbish that you need to wait until 16th Dec, but hopefully he’s just as helpful this time.

That’s such a tough call, I think I’d feel super similar - I’d worry about regretting not trying but then a month without a tww would maybe be a welcome break? Hopefully you’ll feel yourself leaning towards one side the closer to ovulation you get?

The tablets have definitely taken the edge off, thank you!

@HopefulGlow brilliant news about the SA, and excellent timing that the no sex falls when it doesn’t count anyway 😂 good luck to your OH with the whole experience haha!

I’m glad you have a busy weekend to keep you distracted, but I’m staying hopeful that af stays well away for you 🤞🏻♥️

@User1400 I agree about liking the ones that put a wee nod to struggles, I’m just not sure what to say that’s short and sweet and not too much? With your friend, I think most people would definitely feel hurt that she didn’t pre-warn. She must’ve just not been thinking, I’m sure she didn’t mean to add to your pain but it’s rubbishy ♥️
Aw I’m so sorry, cuddles with OH and a good cry sounds like a great plan. Maybe you’ll feel a bit more Christmassy in the morning and have a tree day! That’s next weekend for us I think, my DH is determined we wait until December haha xxx

@xoJellyBean thank you ❤️ I feel the same about about birth announcements.. once I've gotten over the 'sting' of the initial announcement I tend to put it out of my mind that there will be an actual baby coming. I often think 'as long as im pregnant by the time their baby is here!'.. which just adds to the disappointment. It's a horrible feeling as it's such a joyous occasion, but we can't help our emotions ❤️.

@amy259 I can see your point too, about wanting to put it all behind you and not letting the struggle taint your future.. I feel like that too, that I just hope I can get pregnant and put all of this behind me but honestly I feel like this journey is part of me now.. I think if I were to announce online I would acknowledge that it's not been an easy ride, I think that has been something that's helped me , when I've seen announcements that have a nod to couples who are struggling. So yeah I think the acknowledgment from my friend would have gone a long way but your right that I can't expect others to manage my emotions, I think I'm just upset that she's pregnant and I'm not, which isn't fair to put on her really.

Thanks @HopefulGlow, don't worry at all about upsetting me, I am asking for your opinions and so I am welcome of them 🥰. As I said above to @Amy259, if I'm being honest with myself, I'm just upset that she's pregnant and I'm not, which isn't fair of me to put my expectations on her.

How is everyone's weekend going? I was planning on putting up my Christmas tree up today but AF arrived so I've just been feeling sorry for myself really 😭. Had a cry and a cuddle with OH, we DTD 7 days in a row this month (which is unheard of for us!) so it just feels even more disappointing.. and we're out for a Christmas BFP 😣. Xxx

@HopefulGlow hopefully af stays away for you!! Have everything crossed 🤞🏻✨

@Amy259 I got through but it’s not till 16 December, I asked for the same GP that I spoke too as he knows the story and was helpful last time.

Not yet it’ll probably be next week I would be due ovulation so I’ll keep an eye on symptoms. Not sure if I’ll bother doing opks yet - still haven’t decided if to try. Part of me wants a break but I keep thinking I’ll regret having a cycle off so I’m torn.

Aww sorry you’re still feeling awful, hopefully the tablets will help you a little 🤞🤞 x

@AZ1992X yeah it’s great news, the whole waiting until 3 thing is a bit barbaric! Hopefully you will be offered a really early scan then onto the progesterone 🤞🏻 Did you manage to get through to the doctor this morning?

Are you far enough on in this cycle to know if you’re ovulation has been affected this month?

Sadly not, feeling absolutely rotten. Have the cold just now too which isn’t helping! My midwife told me to phone the doctor so picking up an anti-sickness prescription this afternoon 🤞🏻 My wonderful DH tells me I look like shit! 😂

@xoJellyBean they wanted to check for diabetes, cholesterol, prolactin (as the previous Day21 test showed elevated levels), SHBG and testosterone.

Evening ladies!

I’m not doing too bad thank you, it’s been a busy week at work and I’ve definitely welcomed the distraction. I’m off out Saturday for a drink/meal for birthday celebrations which I’m looking forward too.

@Amy259 I know I cannot believe it’s only a month away! 🎄⛄️ I’m so excited, been ramping up my Christmas shopping too whilst all the sales are on.

I didn’t know about that and have just been looking at all the articles etc.. that’s great isn’t it!
Hopefully next time I’ll be offered it - I did see on one article that they have to confirm the pregnancy by scan but you’d have it up to 16 weeks.

How are you doing? , are you feeling any better at all?

@xoJellyBean Thank you ❤️, I’m glad to hear your scan went well and it won’t be long till you get your results.

@HopefulGlow Thank you ❤️, you’ve all been so supportive - it means a lot.

How are you doing??

I finally decided to call the doctors this evening to only get the we are closed message when they should still be open. Sums my luck up! Will try again tomorrow but it’s normally a few week wait for none urgent appointments.

We’re both doing ok thank you, he’s been supportive as always. When it happened I thought I was ok and then ended up going upstairs and just crying my eyes out and he just hugged my tight and I immediately felt better.

Sometimes a good cry is just what you need, it can be very overwhelming ❤️
& I would defo have felt frustrated if I dreamt that too!

Xx

Hi ladies, I hope you’re all keeping well and getting excited for Christmas - howwww is it one month today?!

@HopefulGlow ahh amazing about the house, fingers crossed it’s all smooth sailing from here!

Sorry to hear you’ve been feeling rotten, are you feeling any better now?

@AZ1992X how are you doing? ♥️ Have you seen the NICE guidelines have been updated regarding progesterone? Now any woman who has had one miscarriage (versus 3 before!) should be considered for/given progesterone suppositories in her next pregnancy. It was in the news this week as a huge breakthrough for women’s health, you’ve prob already seen it but just in case you hadn’t.

@xoJellyBean glad the scan went well! 🤞🏻 all is well and you can crack on with clomid soon!! I’ll keep an eye out for your updates.

@Tinkerbell098 that blood taking experience does not sound fun! I’m not really a queasy person but I think someone poking around too much would be a bit much for me!! Hopefully she got enough 🙈

@User1400 ahh I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that today 💔

So I feel pretty torn about announcements really, In general, I think of it as I can’t expect others to manage my emotions - like if there was something/someone on insta or fb that made me feel down about myself (in any way, not just ttc) I feel that’s for me to manage and unfollow or whatever, not them to change/manage themselves based on just me - does that make sense?? And I think it’s a lot to ask that people don’t share their joy if they want to?

BUT I think in this case, if I knew my best friend was struggling with TTC, I would’ve 100% messaged you to pre-warn so you could use the “snooze for 30 days” feature on fb so you didn’t need to see it. She didn’t give you the chance to protect your heart from it, and I would feel hurt by that too ♥️

I’m not sure what we’ll do yet - when ttc I would’ve probably said we wouldn’t post it, but I do flip between now. Ttc took away all the joy of trying, so I’d quite like to feel just normal now and do all the normal pregnant couple things like posting a cute announcement photo, and not have our journey so far taint any more of it, but I don’t know. If we do put it online, I would maybe put something at the end acknowledging it all, but I just don’t know. It’s a really tricky one!

@HopefulGlow I think once you hit 6 months of trying and getting negative tests it just get worse 🙈 plus we are technically saving money 🤣 I'm hoping to get a copy of my scans, I find it soo interesting and I'm seriously considering a change in career to radiography 🙃 how's your day going? Any symptom spotting?👀

@Tinkerbell098 thank you 🥰 do you know which blood tests they are doing? Mine were the SHGB, testosterone and also androgens! Hopefully they've got enough blood 🤞🏻

@User1400 sorry to hear about how you're feeling. It's completely valid! I have a new baby nephew and I still cried bucket loads when he was born even after knowing this day was coming the last few months.
I totally agree with you about announcements on social media, it can be so distressing for people. I've cried at all recent announcements... TTC can be such a lonely journey. Hope you're ok🤍

Hi girls, how have you all been? Sorry I've been quiet, been trying to take some time off mentally but the TWW is getting to me🤣. I haven't managed to catch up on all the messages but hopefully you girls can keep me right.

I mentioned on the last thread that my best friend is pregnant, well today she announced it on Facebook and I'm feeling quite hurt.. am I being too sensitive? I am heartbroken seeing the scan pics and the comments of congratulations pouring in. I feel so silly to be trying control her happiness, or to be telling her how she should be navigating her pregnancy. Perhaps @amy259 has a different perspective, given you have been on both sides of the coin? Personally, (if I'm lucky enough to get there!) I won't announce on social media, purely because I know how distressing I have found announcements, and I don't want to think I would contribute to anyone feeling that way.

I'm trying to keep my mind off of TTC and subsequently I am pulling away from pregnant friends (which I have a lot of!) in turn, making my world very small. I've been finding things a bit easier by doing this until something crops up, usually online, and I feel the emotions flooding back alongside an overwhelming feeling that I'm burying my head in the sand. I know my pregnant friends aren't doing anything 'to' me. I'm just finding it all so hard to be around 😭. Xx

@xoJellyBean glad the scan went well and you'll hear back next week. That's so quick! I think going private was a great decision. I was in for a blood test yesterday as they wanted to test for PCOS but the nurse was unable to get much blood out of me!! She said I had tiny veins and cold hands so kept prodding in few different places and still couldn't get enough. Nightmare! She said they'll try to test with the amount they got, if not, will have to come back in a couple of weeks. Oh well!

@Tinkerbell098 thank you 🥰 I feel much better for going private and I'm thankful I can. The guy in before me told me he's been waiting 1 year & 7 months for his NHS scan and has had enough! How's your day been?

@HopefulGlow it went well until I went to work on Monday 🤣🤣
I'm the same as you with testing! A negative test has become worse than getting AF for me. I've got 1 pack of FRER's in the house and will only use if I'm almost sure I am pregnant lol if I start clomid I'll see how I feel and start testing and will record too 🤞🏻

Scan went well, glad it's over. Will know my results in a week!

@xoJellyBean good luck for the scan. Keep us updated on how it goes. Definitely a good decision to go private (I know it hurts when you see the bill), as I am still waiting for my scans which were ordered months ago. At least it'll get you somewhere and you'll know what the next steps are.