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Faith, trust & baby dust! βœ¨πŸ’•βœ¨ TTC 12 months + 🀞🏼 On this rollercoaster together with a little love, support and giggles to get us by! πŸ’•

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HopefulGlow · 30/10/2021 10:20

Hi all!

We were getting to the end of the previous thread, so thought it’s best to start a new one.

A quick catch up I think mainly everyone on the old thread is as 12 months + TTC.

Newbies are always welcome.

Just sharing our journeys, supporting each other when possible, and having somewhere to moan and let it all out

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HopefulGlow · 06/01/2022 19:33

@Fra1991 thank you, I’m feeling Khan better today. I was feeling low about TTC but it just came from nowhere. It was very odd and I took me a while to bring myself out of it.

But I have contacted a local NHS counselling service to speak with someone about how I feel. So that’s made me feel a bit better. I just don’t want to feel bitter anymore. My OH is also going through this with me and it’s not his fault he had no issues conceiving his first 2, but I take that as I’m the problem. Even though he doesn’t think that at all.

I was the same. The first few months I tested and took videos, so I could capture that moment…then as time went on the BFN were harder to see than my AF. So I stopped.

I don’t really drink much anymore, maybe a could on the weekend but not in my TWW. Over Christmas I went for it though haha I was actually tipsy one day and I’ve not been like that in ages haha

I use flow for tracking generally then Femometer for my LH tests. what about you?

@AZ1992X the moving was a nightmare haha the movers van got stolen so they had to cancel and the replacement the company sent said it wouldn’t all fit and tried to con us out of x4 the amount! Haha so we ended up hiring a van and moving it ourselves…NEVER AGAIN! πŸ˜‚ we only have the old house to clean up the last bits and then we are done. Can’t wait!!

Your Christmas sounds lovely! I always end up feeling ready for normal food and drink after binging on the good stuff over Christmas haha did you get anything nice?

@LA9610 as long as you’re okay! You know you can take breaks and check in, we are always here 😁 it sounds like you and your hubby are both taking a little step back from
The active conversations about it. Have you found that’s helped? Are you happy with that too?

Maybe you’re onto something there! Yesterday was my first day WFH alone, maybe it just got to me? I’m sorry you felt like that too, are you feeling better now?

I am now 3 DPO- where are you?

Hi there @xoJellyBean 😁 how are you?

The move was a nightmare, we ached for days after BUT the new house is looking so good and it feels so nice to have our own little space! The old house was his and I moved in with him before, so this feels more like it’s ours πŸ₯°

Did you have a nice Christmas?

What plans does everyone have this year?

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xoJellyBean · 06/01/2022 19:09

Apparently nobody is getting notifications anymore 🀣 ooooops

@HopefulGlow how was your house move? Are you settling in ok?😍

LA9610 · 06/01/2022 15:24

Hi @HopefulGlow, yes i've been okay thank you, i'm the same if i've not recently posted a message then I don't get notifications anymore so then forget to check and see what's going on! Just haven't really had much to say in all honesty, not much has been happening - no tests or anything, just the same old cycle of trying, waiting, failing and then trying again!

How have you been? Sorry to hear that you've been feeling down, I had a couple of down days too, not about TTC. Just from being around so many people over the holidays to suddenly just being back to WFH and in the house alone all day. Agree with @AZ1992X January can be such a rubbish month. Glad to hear your move went well and has been a good distraction for you.

I can remember feeling quite upset at Christmas last year as we were quite new to the TTC game and naively had our hopes up every month but I think i'm more convinced nowadays that it won't happen, than it will so didn't think about it too much over Christmas. In-fact my husband and I haven't even really talked about it for the past couple of months.

What stage of the cycle is everyone at just now?

@Fra1991 sorry to hear about the spotting, when is AF due? I literally never spot actual pink/red blood before AF so if I got that i'd definitely have my hopes up. Can imagine it playing tricks on you.

AZ1992X · 06/01/2022 08:15

@Fra1991 Glad to hear, it was very good thank you. Same as you - really looking forward to this year and hoping it will be a great one with plenty of memories 🀞

Hope your first day back today isn’t too bad and sorry to hear you’ve started spotting too!

@HopefulGlow It’s horrible when it’s late ain’t it as you just get your hopes up just to get shot back down again. How did the moving go! Are you all settled in now?

Christmas was really nice thank you, had loads of plans and ate lots of nice food. Was ready to go back to eating better this week and getting back on track. Works not been too bad actually, gone quick so far so hoping Friday hurry’s up so it’s the weekend again haha. How was your Christmas?

Also sorry to hear you’re feeling down, Im hoping you’re feeling a little better today. I agree that January is always a bit of a rubbish month for making you feel a little down.

Fra1991 · 05/01/2022 23:52

@HopefulGlow aw I’m so sorry you are having a down day - with ttc in particular or just generally down? January is pretty bad for that - I guess there is the high of xmas then it’s just dark and rubbish. I find with ttc I’m ok then I’m really down the week before af then I’m ok but if I really think about the situation I get really down.
When we were first ttc I literally used to do the tests as soon as those early ones could tell you then gradually I did less and less - I used to get in my head that the spotting might be implantation bleeding but I know now that I also get acne - so I can tell I’ve a bfn before a test reliably could! What about you? What do you do about drinking alcohol?

Yeh before af arrives I just do 40 weeks from my estimated af date but then after it comes I do it on the nhs website. Do you use an app for tracking?
Have you got any nice plans for things coming up? Hopefully your day is better tomorrow x

HopefulGlow · 05/01/2022 19:39

@Fra1991 I thought I was doing okay but today got me down and I have no clue why?! Some days are just like that I suppose!!

Do you have a look at what month you would be due if you get a BFP next cycle then? Also are you a tester or do you wait? Sorry about the spotting too πŸ’•βœ¨πŸ’•

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Fra1991 · 05/01/2022 19:10

@AZ1992X @HopefulGlow sorry about your AFs - lates ones are the cruelest. I got spotting today so cried in my bed for a bit and now working out when my next due date is (I’m such a planner think it gets me through!)And nice to meet you hopefulglow! Hope everyone is having a good week!

HopefulGlow · 05/01/2022 18:58

Hi all!

Sorry for being quiet, apparently I don’t get notifications anymore so that’s weird. I just thought everyone was having a quiet Christmas haha

Sorry that AF came too @AZ1992X - same
Happened to me, later than usual so I got a excited and did a test πŸ€¦πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ But luckily I had moving to distract me! Did you have a nice Christmas? How is being back at work?

Welcome @Fra1991 sorry for the delayed hello! How are you? Sorry you’re in this journey too.

@LA9610 hi! Have you been okay? Feels like a while since I’ve seen your name! Hope you had a good Christmas too?

@Amy259 just checking in on you and bump! Hope you’re all doing okay.

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Fra1991 · 04/01/2022 09:45

Hi ladies! Happy new year! Fingers crossed for the best year yet!
@LA9610 yeh I was using clear blue - I had even switched to the one with the app as if that may help somewhat but of course it hasn’t and I almost feel annoyed that they charge so much because they know some people will pay it through sheer desperation. Same with the early tests - but my sister advised me Morrisons own pink ones are the best. I think I will stop with the tests I don’t think they are working for me!
Xmas was lovely thanks. Can’t believe it’s back to work time almost! I’m on my tww too but I tend to spot a week af before so just waiting nervously as that’ll probably happen in the next couple of days.
@Teachermummy83 wow that’s crazy and so sad for your friends. I can’t imagine getting to that stage and that happening.
I know what you mean re people asking - we finally got married in august after a year and a half delay due to covid - we were trying prior to the wedding but most people wouldn’t have known but now we are married we get the questions. I now basically hint with my answers or just tell the truth depending on who’s asking.
@AZ1992X yeh it was lovely and I’m already excited for next year! What about you? I’m back Thursday. Not sure how I’ll cope given I’ve been eating constantly and napping daily!!

AZ1992X · 04/01/2022 08:03

Morning ladies!

How’s everyone doing?, I’m back to work today after 17 days off and defo not feeling it today haha.

@xoJellyBean So glad to hear you’ve talked it out. Hope you’ve had a lovely Christmas/New year.

@Fra1991 Sounds like a busy Christmas, hope you’ve had a good time? , Christmas has been great thanks - very busy too!

I use OPKs but only once a day around my peak week. I use premom but previously used clearblue and just wasn’t getting on with them at all so stopped plus they was mega expensive too.

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Teachermummy83 · 29/12/2021 18:48

Sorry for the radio silence ladies, life has been mental these last few Months and I've been trying not to dwell on the shittiness of AF every month. Or murder folk who ask why we've not had number 2 yet...... 🀬
That's us officially reached the 12months of trying again πŸ˜’ properly trying, timing, testing, vitamins, and so far nothing, zilch, nadda. Trying not to get disappointed, but there are babies everywhere and broodiness with emptiness is the worst. My cousins have just had their IVF baby early due to Pre-Eclampsia and spent Christmas in SCBU. Another friend delivered twins very early, and tragically lost one of their beautiful newborns. I'm so sad for them. It just makes me realise how fragile the whole pregnancy process is. Barrenness is awful, but my heart utterly breaks for them just now.
Anyway, enough of the moaning, surely 2022 will be our year ladies 🀞🀞🀞🀞🀞

LA9610 · 29/12/2021 15:31

@Fra1991, I don't use the ovulation kits. I have tried to use them before but never managed to get a positive so have loads just sitting in the cupboard - total waste of money! I honestly have no idea if hormone levels could give you a false positive but I have heard stories of people ovulating/conceiving at times they did not even think was possible!

My Christmas was good thanks, bit mad also as my family is huge and we were hosting but it was lovely to spend it with the family - ate and drank to excess :) how was yours?

@xoJellyBean - sorry to hear you are going through that with your OH :( How long have you been trying for? Hope he will come round soon.

I'm in the TWW now as my husband went back offshore yesterday so can't DTD any more but not sure how much chance we actually have as my predicted ovulation day is today, not holding my breath anyway!

Fra1991 · 28/12/2021 19:29

Hi all, been a bit quiet as just getting over the madness of xmas. We were driving about every where! How was everyone’s xmas?
@AZ1992X yes I’m very lucky to have her. I’m sorry AF arrived, I was rooting for you. Fingers crossed for 2022. It’ll be our year.
@xoJellyBean glad you had some good news re the tests. I’m sorry to hear that you had that with your OH - I remember my partner said we could try the next month and as my fw was the end of that month I was like well what’s 5 days and assumed we could go for it but he was like no next month - I was totally gutted and cried myself to sleep. Now of course it’s taking longer than planned and he can’t believe we will still have months to wait once we even get pregnant! Hopefully a wee rest will put things back into perspective for your OH.

Can I ask if any of you use the ovulation kits? I got a peak but it was so early and definitely didn’t match up with my cm and ovulation pains. I’m still not convinced my hormone levels are normal even though they’ve been checked!

Hope everyone is well xx

xoJellyBean · 24/12/2021 21:53

@AZ1992X πŸ₯° thank you. We talked it out and he said he just panicked because it could become reality soon. Hoping for a restful Christmas and will plan for the new year! Hope you have a lovely Christmas xx

AZ1992X · 24/12/2021 16:24

Hi ladies,

Merry Christmas Eve! I hope you’re all having a lovely day. It’s been very busy here and finally sitting down and ordered pizza.

@Amy259 Harry Potter marathon sounds perfect! I’ve been watching a few that have been on tv but not all of them.

AF arrived first thing yesterday but was expecting it and I can have a few glasses of fizz tomorrow now.

Hopefully your nausea will start to wear off soon 🀞

@xoJellyBean I’m glad you’ve finally got answers but I’m so sorry OH doesn’t want to try anymore - cannot begin to imagine how you’re feeling. Sending love ❀️

I’m going to take a few days off now for Christmas without any ttc but will be back soon. I hope you all have an amazing Christmas! Xx.

xoJellyBean · 22/12/2021 22:43

Got my results and it's a pedunculated fibroid!!
Been given the all clear for pregnancy and she was going to start me on clomid for my next cycle but I'm currently curled up crying on my own because my OH says he doesn't want to do this anymore. I'm just so confused and feel so shit 😒😒

Amy259 · 22/12/2021 15:22

@xoJellyBean have been thinking of you too - so sorry to hear everything you’re going through. Got everything crossed you don’t need to wait long for results and that they bring good news.

@AZ1992X haha I love that! We finished our annual Christmas Harry Potter marathon last night, NOW it’s Christmas πŸ˜‚

Sorry to hear your test is negative, if it’s going to stay negative then I hope af comes soon for you - the hanging about is so cruel. Obviously I hope it doesn’t stay neg though!! The timing is good to definitely know before some Christmas bubbles too πŸ₯‚

Thank you, the nausea is still kicking my butt a wee bit but I’m told week 16 is the week it’ll magically go away… two weeks to go!

I haven’t joined any other mumsnet groups yet, I’m not sure I will - they’re too big and scary compared to our wee safe space πŸ˜‚

AZ1992X · 22/12/2021 09:01

@Amy259 πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ he’s probably not far off - I made him watch a Christmas movie the other night and he’s not normally into them.

We’ve missed you too and really appreciate you checking in on us to see how we’re getting on!

No sign of AF, I thought either yday or today. I did give in and used one of the really crappy tests I had left and it was negative so it’ll probably be here soon.

Really glad everything’s looking well with the scan, cannot wait to hear about the next one to see if it is a boy.

@xoJellyBean Hey! hope you’re doing ok and I’m hoping you won’t have long till you get your answers. X.

xoJellyBean · 21/12/2021 22:08

Hey again girls :) wee update from me, had my MRI yesterday and I'm just waiting on my results now 🀞🏻

Good luck with your move tomorrow!! @HopefulGlow

Amy259 · 21/12/2021 16:37

@HopefulGlow wow that’s a busy time for you guys, but so exciting! I hope you managed to get all settled in for Christmas.

@AZ1992X has your OH had to peel you off ceiling with Christmas excitement yet? πŸ˜‚

I miss the chat and feel like such a stalker coming on here every few days to see how you’re both doing πŸ‘€πŸ˜‚ I’ve got everything crossed AF stays well away for both of you - and I’ll be creeping in again to check…

Thank you both, we are well! Had our scan last week and all looking good - find out what they are on 9th Jan but I feel like I’m 99% sure it’s a boy πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

AZ1992X · 21/12/2021 15:38

@HopefulGlow I’m with you - I’ll defo have a few glasses of fizz on Christmas if it does show up.

Think we’re almost ready other than the last bits of food shopping, it sounds like you’ll have a busy few days before Christmas!

X

HopefulGlow · 21/12/2021 14:00

@AZ1992X ahhhh we are due on together! Fingers crossed we both get a AF free Christmas BUT if we don't, I'm cracking out the wine or baileys tomorrow!

Is everyone ready for christmas? I need to wrap tonight πŸ˜… and take down my current tree ready to put back up in the new place tomorrow haha βœ¨πŸ’•βœ¨

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AZ1992X · 21/12/2021 13:46

@Fra1991 That’s great your mum has said she will help you go private. Hopefully that’ll mean you’ll not have too long to wait to get any answers.

Great thanks, all wrapping is finished and I’ve just been watching loads of Christmas films whilst I wait for OH to break up today.

@Amy259 It’s lovely to hear from you! I hope you’re keeping well?
Merry Christmas to you too. Hope you have a lovely time with friends/family ❀️

@HopefulGlow Ah amazing, I hope the move goes well for you tomorrow!

I’ll still keep my fingers crossed that AF does stay away for you, I’m due either today/tomorrow and fully expecting it to turn up.

Xx.

HopefulGlow · 21/12/2021 13:05

Hi all, so sorry for being quiet. I wasn't getting any notifications and moving took over. Big move day is tomorrow and it's also my AF date....whoooo! πŸ˜…

Super nauseous today but I think it's all nerves/ excitement/stress of packing and moving. No other symptoms so I think this is another month out πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

How is everyone doing? Is everyone ready for Christmas?

@Amy259 how are you and little bump doing? βœ¨πŸ’•βœ¨

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Amy259 · 20/12/2021 09:38

Hi ladies,

Hope you’re all keeping well!

I’ve backed off from posting because it felt like the right thing to do, but wanted to pop by and say I’m still keeping up with you all and hoping you all have an amazing Christmas β™₯️

Lots of love xxx