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Anyone worried about fertility before even trying?

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CountryGirl189 · 26/10/2021 09:08

I feel a bit daft posting this to be honest, but I’ve always had this feeling in the back of mind that I’ll really struggle to have children.

We’re going to start trying next month and I’m getting so worked up about it, that I feel like not even trying now!

To make matters worse, one of my best friends told me yesterday that she’s pregnant and she wasn’t even trying?! I’ve been an emotional wreck all night and feel awful for feeling this way!

My mum keeps telling me I’ll be fine because she got pregnant so easily on four occasions, but I don’t think fertility works that way!

Anyone else in the same boat?

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goinggently · 26/10/2021 10:09

I was exactly like you. Really convinced I couldn't. I have had various gynae issues too... then I conceived twice within 2 months of trying. Instincts can be wrong!!

Pugmumm · 26/10/2021 10:05

Just try OP, don't let this stop you. Your mind really can go anywhere it wants to at times.

I was terrified also. I am on month two TTC baby no 1. No luck yet but only came off pill early September but always thought it would happen at least very quickly for us. I suffer with small ovarian cysts so it's always been in the back of my mind also.
Good luck xx

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CountryGirl189 · 26/10/2021 09:35

Thanks @FlyOnTheWall89 - I think because I’ve always had very painful periods, I’ve always thought something is wrong, even though I’ve had it checked out so many times!

I even recently had a Hysteroscopy because they thought I had a funny uterus lining, but they came back with nothing to report and said everything looks just as it should.

I think I just want one so badly (for the past three years I’ve been waiting for my other half to be ready to start trying) and I’m worried we’ve left it too long.

I’m already taking all the vitamins I should in preparation and have been doing OPKs every month, but I feel like they’re just draining me mentally, so I’m going to actually stop using them and just see what happens x

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CountryGirl189 · 26/10/2021 09:32

Thank you for replying @Moonshine160 - I really appreciate it!

I think on the whole I do, sometimes they come at 26 days, sometimes 27, sometimes 28 - so there’s a bit of fluctuation by a couple of days each month, but I always have one!

I feel like I’ve been going crazy in the build up to it, trying to track my ovulation etc and I feel like I’m going insane already, so not sure how I’d handle it in the long haul if it came to that!

I’m sure a sweet little baby #2 will be on it’s way for you soon xx

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FlyOnTheWall89 · 26/10/2021 09:31

@CountryGirl189 what are your reasons for feeling you’ll struggle? What is your cycle like?

I would definitely say without you even trying, you cannot get yourself so worked up and lose sleep. It could take a year, it could take 6 months, it could take 1 month. Average is 8. In that time, probably more people will tell you they are pregnant. They will also each have their journey that they may not have shared with you.

From my experience, it is more mentally challenging than I expected. I am trying for number 1 and just moved onto cycle 7. It feels like forever. You’ve got to be tough. Keep your expectations low in terms of a timeline and keep living your life. Don’t delay doing things because ‘you might be pregnant’. Your mum probably has a point as it can be linked. You’ll probably be totally fine and it will happen in a ‘normal’ amount of time.

Read up on vitamins, OPKs and eat and sleep well. Good luck x

Moonshine160 · 26/10/2021 09:28

I was exactly like this. I ended up conceiving the first month of trying. I’m now TTC baby number 2 and it hasn’t happened as quickly so I’m panicking about the same thing again! I’m sure you’ll be fine OP, and remember it’s completely normal for it to take up to a year. A lot of the time it’s all down to chance. Do you have regular periods?