Anyone worried about fertility before even trying?

Hey, just to say I was on sertraline and as far as I remember at the time it was thought ok (and also for subsequent breastfeeding) So perhaps you could explore switching if citalopram is not advised. But talking to your dr about suitable medication is the best thing to do. Best of luck.

I hope this isn’t unhelpful, but I always had a gut feeling I’d have trouble with my fertility too. It was because of excruciating periods I’ve had all my life that weren’t properly investigated.

Infact I was only taken seriously when we weren’t able to conceive. It turns out I have endometriosis and blocked tubes so will need IVF. I can’t change the time we wasted TTC, and the emotional rollercoaster that was, but my advice would be to ask for proper investigation into your painful periods.

My infertility consultant said my pain is not normal and he couldn’t understand why it hadn’t been investigated. Ultrasound scans and blood tests don’t show endometriosis.

If I’d been diagnosed when I should have been, I would have known I had an issue and sought help sooner. With my blocked tubes we would never have been successful TTC naturally. My Dsis and DM both conceived naturally and quickly so although I’ve always worried about my own fertility, that gave me false reassurance to keep trying naturally.

It can take up to a year to conceive and the best test is to just try. I hope it all happens naturally for you but don’t hesitate to get help sooner rather than later if it doesn’t.

My sister took over a year to get pregnant and at the same time I was working with two women who were using IVF to get pregnant as they had had fertility problems. All advised me to crack on as soon as possible as it took up to two years to even start accessing any help. I then got pregnant first time and was pregnant at my scheduled wedding (I even had to buy another dress). I get that you're anxious, but there really is probably no need to be yet. Good luck!

It took me a long time to get pregnant but likely the issue was husbands and not mine.

From what you've said there's no reason why it should take over a year.

Regular cycles like yours can vary by a few days and still be termed regular. The doctors always called me very regular as I vary between 28 and 30 days.

@CountryGirl189
At first no I did not worry, but now after 4 miscarriages and 1 cp it has worried me.

But as everyone said you have nothing at all to worry about until you get to that road. So just relax don't stress trust me easier said than done lol, but it does you the world of good.

If you where doing opk testing for a while you will have a rough idea of when you ovulate, try not to make sex all about making a baby as it just becomes a chore that has to be done and takes the joyment out of it goodluck💚

Yes I definitely felt like this as I've always had extremely painful periods and thought I had endometriosis and I had never got pregnant even when being reckless with contraception in my teens/20s

We did struggle a bit (but were still in the normal range, albeit at the top end) in that it took us 12 cycles to conceive DS. We'd had bloods/scans/semen analysis and I'd had an HSG and we were waiting for our first fertility appointment when it happened naturally, I was 33

I had my AMH tested after I had DS and it was fairly low but I conceived naturally again after 4 months aged 37 (although that ended in MC) and I hope I will conceive that quickly again

Given that you're young and just starting to TTC, try not to worry yourself. It will only make it a miserable experience for you (take it from someone who tortured herself for a year!) and you currently have no reason to think you can't conceive

I was like this. When I was a teenager I was convinced that I was infertile or had some kind of problem that would mean I wouldn't be able to have kids.

Got pregnant accidentally through contraception fail so safe to say everything is in working order.

I think it's completely normal as having kids just seems like the done thing in life and you worry that you will not be able to achieve it.

*Just a general cycle question - do everyone’s turn up exactly on the day they’re meant to?

For example if you have a 26 day cycle, does it turn up exactly on that day? Sometimes mine are a day or two out each month, so each of my cycles is usually 27 days, but it’s sometimes 26 days, sometimes 28?*

This is completely normal.

Also... what antidepressant are you on? There are some which are OK to take in pregnancy. Have you spoken to your GP about it?

Sertraline is very safe, as is citalopram. It's a balance but if your mental health is bad without them, consider carrying on with a low dose. There is very little risk.

It does sound like you are overthinking this a lot. I know it's hard not to, but you are young. At 29 you have lots of time, honestly. And there is actually nothing that has come back that should give you cause for concern.

It's hard to think about this rationally when you are in that frame of mind where you really want a baby NOW, but looking at the facts there is nothing that is highlighting you should have any worries.

So try for 6 months and see how it goes.

If you do struggle, then you will deal with that as and when it happens. I am going through fertility treatment at the moment and honestly, you just deal with it. It's OK.

When you are TTC it always feels like time is running out, but it's actually not. At 29 you really do have time on your side - you probably have at least another 10+ years of fertility. Try not to worry and just enjoy TTC. It will happen when it happens.

I think every woman worries about this. I certainly did.

YES. One hundred percent

But the two times I did fall pregnant is when I 'gave up trying ironically.

Have fun doing it. Don't go in hard. Be kind to yourself and your body and trust your body knows what to do ( and your partners) x

I always assumed I'd have trouble conceiving. This was due to a wide range of issues I have linked to my cycle etc.
My DP had been told years ago that he would likely have issues too.

We've had unprotected sex 3 times. I got pregnant all 3 times. I'm late 30s. First got pregnant at 35.

All being well, it'll take you up to 12 months to conceive and that's really normal.

My mum also told me I'd conceive quickly because she did, three times, my sister did and my grandma did. Well, it took me 8 months, twice. Much longer than them! 8 months however, is normal. I also had fertility tests after my miscarriage (because my mental health was shot to pieces) and it determined that my dh and I had excellent fertility at the time. So despite that, it takes as long as it takes!

Totally understand where you're coming from, it's grim, but honestly you won't know until you start trying and even then if there is a problem you won't know until you either do or don't get pregnant! I was overly cocky when TTC, I honestly thought it would take us 3 months max. Looking back I don't know why as I had 100 day cycles!! naive 😂

Ended up taking 3+ years and we're both 'young' and come from very fertile families as such! The problem was me and the fact I had PCOS. Once diagnosed and treated properly I was put on medication that made me fall pregnant within 2 months ☺️ so even if something was to ever be wrong, fertility medication/ procedures have come a long way!

I'd say, if your cycles are regular it's a good indication that everything 'might' be easier. If they're not just book a GP appointment to get any real concerns looked at!

I wish you all the luck in the world, TTC can be really hard at times. Look after yourself and I hope it doesn't take long for you ☺️xx

I’m in exactly the same boat.

We’re about to start trying, actually I guess you could say we started this month but I’m absolutely petrified. I think, which is brilliant, women have found their voices about infertility that didn’t exists ten years ago (or maybe I was just naive to it). When I was getting my vaccine and I asked about infertility/risk to future pregnancy the nurse told me as matter of fact that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.

I’m healthy, good cycles and in my late twenties therefore I should be ok. But it’s still whirling in my brain that it’s not going to end in success.

I'm the same op I'm on my first month and already feel it's not it. I was pregnant once two years ago and ended in a 12 week miscarriage and I have been convinced since then it won't happen for me.

Yes I ended up doing a Hertility test kit. It was helpful but didn't really help me get any more clarity and actually one result caused me a bit of stress. In the end it happened fairly quickly on my second cycle without much stress.

Hi I'm 4 weeks pregnant finally and I've been trying since feb! It's def not as straight forward as i always thought - girls at work would tell me their stories how they'd get pregnant straight away but the fact is other people's stories are totally irrelevant. You have your health and no mum or friend can tell you whether you'll get pregnant quickly.

It's good that's you're starting ttc soon if you weren't starting soon I'd suggest 21 day bloods to see if you're ovulating, and AMH test to see your egg count x
Good luck 🤞