Conceiving after miscarriage

Hello - can I join?

I had a MMC at ten weeks at the beginning of August. We too had seen the heartbeat at a scan at eight weeks in July; we think the baby died just a few days after that.

I was 'lucky' I guess in that my cycles returned to 'normal' quite quickly afterwards: I ovulated three weeks after the D&C and had my first period at the start of September. But it meant I placed a lot of pressure on myself mentally the next month - I was really hoping that we would get pregnant again straightaway and was very upset when my period arrived again at the end of September. We conceived on the second month of trying in June and I think that also gave me some false hope since the MC - that we would conceive quickly again. I tried to keep my expectations lower last month. Am now on CD2 of my fourth cycle since the miscarriage.

To add insult to injury, the MC happened just a few days before my 40th birthday. TTC at 40 does seem different somehow to TTC at 39. And I've read the dreadful statistic that chance of miscarriage increases to 50% once you're over the age of 40, though I know the risk doesn't increase overnight. If we did conceive this month, the baby would be due a few days before I turn 41 - and just a couple of days after we lost our first baby.

I read 'It starts with an Egg' and am taking the supplements it recommends - ubiquinol, vitamin d, Zita West prenatals with DHA, extra folate.

Wishing everyone on this thread comfort xx

Hi all hope you dont mind me hopping on hear, I had my little girl born sleeping at 24weeks on 17/08/21, had my first period 27/09/21, and I was regular before so think I'm around 4 days late, I keep doing tests but only got really faint lines

Thanks @Chanel05, that has calmed me down a lot. I'll try and accept that it might just be taking my body a while to recover

So I finally gave in a s for some HCG tests, tested with FMU this morning and no hint of a line. Really horrible seeing a BFN after the last tests I did but I’m glad that the hormones seem to have settled. That’s just over 4 weeks since D&C. No sign of OV yet though either…. I just so want things to get back to normal so I know where I am 😵‍💫 xX

@LaForza101 sorry for your loss.

I had a mmc a few years ago and my cycle was completely messed up after my surgery and up until I conceived again, which was 8 months.

I started spotting yesterday evening 11dpo and woke up to AF. I didn't even get the chance to test this month which is frustrating. Has anyone else noticed a change in their cycle since miscarriage that is still consistent after a few months? It's been 4 months and it still doesn't seem normal but I'm presuming my GP will just say give it time

@Irishfarmer omg what an awful situation!! I’d have had to do the same, no way would I have trusted the EPU doc at that point!! I wouldn’t go ahead with the D&C without a second scan, which was awful!! But the thought of getting it wrong was too much. My GP has been terrible throughout my experience, made loads of mistakes that have had repercussions, it’s so hard to trust anyone now!

@BellatrixK sending you so much love!! Two miscarriages must be soul destroying, I can’t even imagine how scared you must be, I’m scared enough after one. Have you had investigations? Do they have any idea what’s caused the MCs?

@everyone …. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ This is a club that I never imagined I would be in and never could have imagined would be so hard. I didn’t realise just how common it is and really wish people would remove the taboo and talk more so that anyone going through this didn’t feel so alone. I hope you’ve all got people you can talk to and hug it out with 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Because I’d had a viability scan showing a heartbeat we had started telling people, at first I wished we hadn’t but I realise it was the best thing as they were all so supportive. And I found out just how many people go through this in silence. Make sure you talk ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Here if nowhere else xxxx

Hi everyone,
Please can I join? I had an early miscarriage at just 5 weeks in June and then another last week at just 6 weeks. I am both determined to try Sharon straight away and also terrified of this happening again.

xx

I should be testing on Friday (12dpo, period used to arrive 13dpo) if I don't get any spotting beforehand. I have some nice things planned for the weekend to help if it's negative but I'm honestly finding this week so hard. I get so much more sad and emotional before my period now. As soon as it arrives I'm okay - I'll enjoy a drink and psych myself up for another go. It took us a fair few months to conceive last time so I'm not expecting much this month

Hi all,

@Tina12745, I'm in the same boat as you. Just waiting to see when AF will show up - definitely not pregnant this month. Pretty sure I ovulated 5 days later than I usually do. Not sure if that's an MC one-off or my new normal, but either way I'm late, not pregnant and bored of this cycle now!

@Kelb79, the limbo is so frustrating, I'm so sorry. If you want to confirm you're not pregnant, then I guess doing a test (while horrible) will put your mind at rest. I definitely had an anovulatory cycle straight after the miscarriage, which is very common. Your body is probably still figuring out what's going on! It's so hard to wait, but you're still in the window of "normal" for waiting for period post MC.

@Bellesjp, good luck tracking! Hope you get a nice clear peak to set you on your way.

@Kelb79 I had a d&c just before Christmas last year, I think it wasn't til nearly the end of Jan before my HCG levels went back to normal.

@Tina12745 two of my sisters both got pregnant very quickly after there miscarriage's so here's hoping. Neither had a second miscarriage though like myself. I knew there was something wrong in August but didn't fully MC until mid Sept. I went for the "natural" way, only because I didn't trust the doc in the EPU. My GP took my blood on the Friday which I brought home with me and brought it into the EPU on the Monday, they then took bloods to compare the two. The doc came in with the results and said as you can see there is a sharp difference in the HGC levels, which sample did you bring in with you and with one did we take here? It was just two lines on a page with the ref no of the blood and the HGC levels + a few other bits. So I had no idea! She said it is important as she needed to know if it was going up or down. Again told her how could I possibly know, I gave the blood to them and they took the second sample. She left for a few mins, came back and said the lower reading was from today so it is going down and offered me the pill to bring on miscarriage, but I had zero trust in her at that point!! Not sure if she was just a crap doctor or it was a language barrier thing but no way was I taking those pill. When I went back for my follow up after the mc the doc I spoke to was brilliant and I asked him a tonne of questions. And he said when I get a positive get referred straight to them, regardless of how many weeks I think I am.

Anyway rant over! Don't think I was wrong not to trust her though.

I'm cd11 today and hoping for peak opk this weekend or start of next week 🤞🏼 before my tfmr I used to ovulate between cd18-20 but not sure if will be different now. Have started dtd every other day just in case anyway!

@Kelb79 I hope you get some answers soon, have you had a negative test since? I didn't get a negative test until af arrived about 5 weeks after and I don't think you can ov until hcg is back to 0. For what it's worth I still was getting faint bfp but my lh was showing as low but know this can be different with everybody. Might be worth checking but know it's upsetting still seeing those 2 lines 😔

I wanted to be sure of having bfn before testing next time so that I didn't get my hopes up seeing a bfn when it could be left over hcg from before x

Hi everyone ❤️
Sending love to you all, this is such a horrible horrible time, I could never have imagined how much it would hurt 😞
I’m a month past the D&C now, ive been tracking my LH levels rather than HCG testing as I felt that positive pregnancy tests would just mess with my head!!
LH levels were at a massive high when I started testing, higher than I’d ever seen before, so I’m guessing that’s the HCG (that was 2 weeks post D&C), I had loads of CM then too so I guess pregnancy hormones were high.
Levels have gone down and down since, no sign of OV, no sign of AF, I’m reading into every possibly symptom of anything right now 😵‍💫 it’s a nightmare!!
Am I ovulating? Is AF due? Could I be pregnant?! I just want to know where I am 😩
Meh!!!

Hi @itsfineyes sorry it's taking so long for you :( it truly is crap and so unfair.

From what I've read there's varying research and evidence, and I was told by the hospital after my first miscarriage that I would be more fertile so who knows, I guess it's chance just like everything else x

@Bellesjp sorry for your loss . There is actually no scientific evidence to show that you're more fertile after a mc. I don't say this to be cruel and unkind because I was in an extremely dark place after my mc, I say it because it sadly isn't true. I held onto this after my mmc and only after a lot of research did I find that this wasn't true. It put me in such a dark place because I panicked as each month ticked by and I still wasn't pregnant. I felt even worse after the six months.

I truly hope you have your rainbow baby soon.

@swanswallow i have ovusense too!
Used it for the 1st month last month and was actually pretty impressed.
Will be using again from tonight!

I'm also in the same boat. I had a missed miscarriage in June discovered on the 12 week scan. I'm in my second month of trying to conceive again and finding it hard. I'm in my PMS week and all my emotions are churned up again. Last month I got myself too excited and was gutted when I started spotting a day early. This month I'm just wanting a small sign that things are going back to normal. I'm hoping even if it is negative my luteal phase and period flow will go back to their pre-miscarriage state.

Wishing us all good vibes!

@swanswallow I'm trying to hold onto the fact that apparently you're more fertile for 6 months after loss 🤞🏼

I've also been taking extra vitamin b6 which is meant to help regulate your cycle. I started taking it the month I fell pregnant last time so hoping it helps again!

Sorry for your losses.

I had a mmc after 8 months of ttc and seeing a heartbeat. It then took another 8 months to conceive my daughter.

Ttc #2 now and hoping that I'll be spared the heartache this time.

Hello, I'm in a similar position. I had a missed miscarriage in August, took forever to get negative tests (quickly followed by period) so just started being able to TTC this month.

I got feelings of my period being on its way yesterday and got a negative FRER. I did ovulate very early this month so it wasn't unexpected but did bring up some difficult feelings. I conceived on first cycle with the miscarried pregnancy so did hold out hope.

I've started pregnacare to try to delay ovulation a bit and also bought an ovusense to try to track my temperature (I get up at irregular times so the usual temping doesn't work for me).

It is so hard being patient though isn't it. We kept the news of the previous pregnancy to ourselves and its so hard when family keep making comments about how there will be a baby on the way soon. I am avoiding them, to be honest.

I think its about bearing in mind that increased fertility after a miscarriage isn't just for one cycle. I know it sadly doesn't work out that way for everyone but it still does give me hope.

Hi @Kelb79 so sorry on hearing about your loss I'm the same as yourself mmc in July just started ttc again from Sept got my period on time after my d&c but was very veryyy painful! I've just turned 30 and apparently the docs said mine was due to chromosomal abnormalities and that it's very common! ☹️ I had no pregnancy symtoms at all sending you all baby dust!! I've just joined this too 💕 i'm new!!

Big love to you all ❤️❤️
I’m in the same boat….
Missed miscarriage last month at 8 weeks after a viability scan showing heartbeat and good growth at 7 weeks
2 years TTC to get to that point and we were so over the moon, we had given up hope but conceived naturally.
Now we’re both broken if I’m honest but really want to get trying again ASAP - I’m 42 so time isn’t on our side!
Being tested for folate or b12 deficiency - hopefully they might face found what caused both our issues to conceive and the miscarriage but I’m angry that they didn’t test for this sooner! 😕 maybe it could all have been avoided? We’ll never know 🤷🏼‍♀️
Praying for November good news for all of us 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼