Ovulation/TTC continued

Hello!
I'm new to this forum, can I join?

I am ttcing for bubba no. 3 and still bfeeding my DD who is now 14 months. Af is supposed to be arriving on Monday but tested yday and got a bfn. I checked my cervix position earlier and it is high and soft..but one thing I don't get is how high is high iykwim....any advice? Baby dust to you all xx

@CShandy01 I'm so sorry hun, I know it was early but it is still so tough... we are all thinking of you and I hope you are doing something nice for yourself this weekend... as @hoola23 says, please rest up and pamper yourself a bit if possible. Glad they did a scan too. Thank you so much for sharing. Just being on this group has made me realise how common it is to experience losses and I am really grateful that I will be more aware and also more sensitive to those around me.

@Aims1991 sorry about your period hun, it honestly is so unfair that we have to find out we aren't pregnant that way - with pain and cramps :( double whammy. I wish it were different.

@hoola23 your GP sounds very insensitive, sadly that's not uncommon :( it's true there has been a vials shortage but definitely push for a scan and bloods if you feel up to it... my best friend was trying for a year and found out after a scan it was an issue with her tubes and it was such a relief. I am going to ask for a scan and bloods in Feb if it hasn't happened for me by then. My sister is a gynae doctor which helps a lot as it is hard to get GPs to listen in the 10 minute slots.

@Aims1991 were all going through it today! I know how you feel, esp when you put so much effort in right! So unfair!!!! You're doing all you can though and getting your bloods done will also add some reassurance I'm sure x

@CShandy01 oh babe, I'm so so sorry. It's shocking how common this is though, I really had no idea this was another massive hurdle to get through for us all! I'm sending you lots of love, have some wine, chocolate whatever you want and watch some nice things on tv and try and rest. Hope DH is there to support you. Like you said, there are still positives, your body is working perfectly and doing exactly as it should be so it will happen but I know how heartbreaking it is. We will ALL get there! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@hoola23 yes had a scan, internal and external. Plus another internal and external examination. No sign of ectopic. No sign of pregnancy either, but it's so early and I'm totally bleeding so understandable. Just waiting on blood work tests now xx

@hoola23 @CShandy01 Thank you, I will defo be asking. Just feel so gutted today. Struggling with work and everything

@CShandy01 did they give you a scan today?

@Aims1991 deffo worthwhile asking for bloods and then maybe an internal scan. I've just literally had one (TMI) and I am relieved to find out there are no abnormalities or things that could get in the way. Ovaries and tubes look fine. So now I know that literally this little nugget didn't stick because something clearly was wrong with how it was made. Oddly enough, that makes it easier to deal with 🙂🙂 I know I've deffo lost it because my pad is now soaked.

@Aims1991 I agree with @CShandy01 a scan would also be really helpful but also sometimes some people just take longer for it to work. No reason either! Maybe start with bloods and then go from there x

@Aims1991 I wonder if you could ask for a scan perhaps? You may have some cysts that could be blocking implantation? It's very common and can be an easy fix 🙂🙂 might be worth asking once they've checked bloods etc xx

@hoola23 Ano I'm waiting a call back today. We have totally cut of caffeine and hardly drink, we both take vitamins and supplements. My periods are as regular as clockwork and I ovulate same time every month. So who knows what they'll do

@Aims1991 that's good! At least they're taken you seriously! Mine literally doesn't care! It will be good to find out if there is anything you can do to to help or just get the reassurance that everything is fine and it's just the waiting game!!

@hoola23 I called my doctor back. Because I was to call them if AF arrived so I'm being sent for bloods to get done to see why it's been a year 🥺

@Aims1991 I bet, try and look after yourself hun. We can look forward to next month and trying again. There has to be some positive vibes next month!!

@CShandy01 oh so sorry lovely, that's so unfair! I hope you're being looked after and get loads of cuddles from DH and Dd. Please try and put your feet up, cry if you need to, rant if you need to or whatever makes you feel better! ❤️❤️

Taken a test and it's 100% negative, so I've definitely lost it. Just now need to make sure it's not an ectopic pregnancy.

@hoola23 yeah Ano, life's so cruel at times. I'm gutted this morning

@hoola23 wish I could tell DD that mummy needs to rest 😂😂 and DH is being bloody useless, as usual when it comes to things like this 😩 ah well. This is the longest wait for a phone call EVER!

@CShandy01 oh! God time goes so slowly doesn't it! I was sure you were over 5 weeks!! Urgh that's so stressful if they can't scan you because then all you can do is wait, it's so horrible! Please just rest and try not to worry too much hun. I know it's hard though. Sending you a massive hug xx

@hoola23 nah I'm not even 5 weeks chick. I'll be 5 weeks on either Sunday or Monday. So it's still super early. I'm wondering if it's too early do to a scan. I'm just concerned about the prospect of it being ectopic with the type of pain I've been having.

@CShandy01 that's a bit strange I think. I know lots of people do have bright red blood and everything is fine! ESP if you don't have noticeable bad pains. I had reallly bad pains once my red blood started. Maybe about 4 hours later or so? I hope everything is ok, I think if you tested now you'd still get a positive so hopefully they can scan you as you're past 6 weeks now aren't you? Sending you a massive hug and ALL the positive vibes xxxx

@hoola23 I've had the same weird right hand pain for 3 weeks. Went to the loo at 6:30 and there was nothing, then went again at 7:45 and there I was. Being passed around left right and bloody centre at the moment. Someone will call me back in 30 mins. Just odd that I didn't have this with DD. Xx

@Aims1991 oh that's so crap!!! You had so many unusual symptoms too! It's so frustrating and upsetting isn't it. There is still hope though as your AF isn't here yet

@CShandy01 oh no! It doesn't always mean the end hun, do you have any pain? Did it just suddenly start?

@hoola23 No, I just know it's AF! Just got that crampy feeling