How hard is it really to get pregnant at 35?

Good luck OP!

Can you remain in the waiting list for a new cycle in March and keep ttc naturally in the meantime?

Oh, well I totally ballsed that up. Let me try again...

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/apr/10/fertility-cliff-age-35-week-in-patriarchy

I just found article [[https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/apr/10/fertility-cliff-age-35-week-in-patriarchy]] from the Guardian a few months ago re: the belief that fertility massively declines at 35 which you may find interesting.

I'm 41, conceived after 4th cycle, ended in mc, now on 4th cycle from mc hoping for a as successful 🌈 baby

@beanchopper17

I'm under active thyroid, and insulin resistant.

Fast800 and then sticking with low carb/intermittent fasting got my BMI down from over 40 to 23 in under a year.

Could be such an easy fix for you. And even if you then need help getting pregnant your BMI wouldn't stop you from getting fertility treatment anymore.

I was 34 and 36 and we were very lucky - first month trying for both of mine.

Somewhere between easy and difficult is the only answer that is actually accurate.

I have friends in their mid-thirties who have conceived within a month or starting trying, I have friends who tried for years, so much of it will come down to you and your partner's general fertility more than age.

I had my son at 35 with no problems conceiving. I had severe preeclampsia as my mum had with me at 21. I think that's down to genetics though as I had no other risk factors. I think if you have problems conceiving at 35 you're likely to have had problems at 25.

First pregnancy-one month at 35. Second one 3 months at 38. I come from a line of older mums - not sure if that helped.

Wishing you all the best. I

Well I conceived the first time I had unprotected sex age 23, took 2 months age 27 and here I am at 34, been trying a year, one chemical in that time. Perfect regular cycles.

So for me, it's been impossible! With the same DH. He's 10 years older though - so that could be making a difference.

First pregnancy - age 36 - conceived in two months but resulted in miscarriage.

Second pregnancy - age 36 - conceived in four months (a month before my 37th birthday) but also resulted in miscarriage.

Third pregnancy - age 38 - conceived in five months (just after I turned 39) and resulted in a healthy baby.

Starting trying aged 37, still trying 16 months later. 9 losses (mostly chemical but a couple of mcs). Varies for everyone.

The main research on this that is still used is from the 19th century! Why then you ask? Well since there was no contraception, researchers looked back at the available data and compared age of woman at marriage with whether they a child.

Virtually every woman who married at age 20-35 had at least 1 child, around 90% if the women aged 35-39, 62% of women aged 40-44 and 14% aged 45-49.

And this was in the 1800s! We are much healthier now and living much longer lives. I can’t believe they’re still using the same old stuff to scare and shame women.

*balanced (not balance)

I have a balance translocation which my DC could have inherited as an unbalanced translocation - resulting in Down Syndrome. Around 5% of DS cases are inherited in this way.

We paid privately for a Harmony test. Although, the screening tests for Trisomy 21, not translocation DS. Therefore, we paid for extra anomaly screening ultrasounds to check for indicators of DS.

It took us 4 months aged 36. Lots of my friends have had babies quite easily post-35, although of course with some miscarriages as well. Your fertility doesn't drop off a cliff at 35, though it does sound like yours isn't super fertile so that's something to consider.

Is your genetic condition SMA? Just wondering as those odds rang a bell. My friend's first child sadly had SMA and died very young. They decided to try naturally for their following children with early screening and termination if necessary, and they were fortunate enough to have two healthy children without any terminations or miscarriages. It seemed like really scary odds to me, but my friend was very pragmatic about it and said at least they knew what they were dealing with, and she preferred to conceive naturally than go through IVF.

Best of luck, whichever route you choose.

It took me 6 months to get pregnant with DC1 at 35, which probably was mostly due to waiting for the pill to get out of my system as I’d been on it since I was 18.

DC2 took about 2 days at 38. We decided we wanted a second, looked at the dates and they were aligned. I didn’t go back on the pill between (or after) the DC.

Everybody is just so different you can’t predict. I got pregnant at 36 first month of trying and at 38 on the second month of trying.

My first I was 33 and it took about 4 months.

My second I was 35 and it took one accidentally missed pill and literally one time (we weren't trying obviously).

Started TTC at 35. It took 13 months.

I'm a carrier for a genetic condition. We paid privately for extra screening during pregnancy. Thankfully, our DC is healthy.

I got pregnant at 35 within first month of trying to my amazement. My BMI is 32 as well so thought it would take longer!

3 months at 37 and first go at 40, we've been very lucky. Good luck!

I fell pregnant first month trying 2 weeks before I turned 39.