Symptom Spotters Anonymous (egg spotting or implantation spotting let's have your symptoms)

I will test and put my mind at rest. Hear is hoping for xmas bfp .

Oh mot I'm so sorry - I meant to say I'm thinking of you and your family too as it seems you are also going through a rough time at the moment. I wish you all the best (never seems quite right to say that, I apologise) for the week ahead xx

Holly I'm really sorry but I have no experience of implantation bleeding so am not much help to you. My best advice is to take a test as this is the only real way of knowing - fingers crossed you get the result you're hoping for

twinklingfairy - as you say, if no ov symptoms just yet then hopefully there's still time for you

Hi ladies, i'm just looking up some things and wondering i thought implantaion bleed was just a speck or trace of blood and tonight i have read that it can last up 2 three days . i had what i think was a very light period (2days) about 2 weeks ago and now i'm wondering if that could have been implantation ? has anyone got any ideas about this? I had a faint spell on friday and have been cramping for weeks, now in hind sight i am wondering if i have actually concieved and not known even though i have been sympton spotting!!thanks Holly78.

Oh how annoying MTW
That silly nurse

How sad for you and your family shreksmissus and, as has been said earlier, what a shame for the time of year.
Goodness MOT your are not having an easy time of it either

Well, I was gonna come on to complain about DH and our lack of BDing.
You show an ounce of despondancy and he has given up completely, or so it seems.
Only once, since a positive opk on saturday and, with DD waking up, it was a race to the finishing line, he won
Mind you, I still haven't felt any ov pains and my temps are still about the same so who knows, there may still be time.
Last time I felt the ov pains about 3 days later, so maybe tommorrow?

I am a blabbermouth excitable I have told mostly everyone. Not sure if it was a good idea or not but I am not regetting the decision yet. Though will admit, I told them all, naively, thinking I would be pregnant really fast
The only person who has asked about how we are doing was my sis, who instantly regretted it as she was given waaaay more info than she had bargained on teehee

Santasmissus so sorry to hear about your fil - my thoughts are with you and your family, as yousay, he is in a much better place now but still doesn't make it any easier.

dg - can you phone the nurse tomorrow? Or is she only there at certain times? It seems to be a loooong rollercoaster for you at the moment, I can empathise as I too suffer from long drawn out cycles and have the same fear that I'm not ov'ing. I'm on cd22 and still no sign of ov.

On the subject of to tell or not to tell excitable, we've only told people if they've asked so far sil knows (she asked and I can't lie very well so told her the truth - altho with her 3rd bubba on the way I think she felt a bit 'guilty' to hear of our difficulties as she started to talk of ivf and adoption which is a long way down the road for us) and so does a good friend of mine. A friend at work knows as well as I know she wont keep asking questions but is there as support if needed. Haven't gone out of our way to tell though as can't deal with the constant 'any news' style questions!!

My fingers are crossed for you Bucky and Abby - sounding 'good' so far!

ScaryHairy - gosh, didn't mean to give off the impression of taking illicit substances, will have to watch how I abbreviate things!! !!!

Mtw what a waste of time, effort and money for you!! Sorry to hear about your (early) bfn.

Hi to everyone else!!!

Good evening everyone.

santasmissus so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are all doing ok, or as ok as you can be. As you say, he has gone to a better place, and that is comforting, but it is hard for those left behind. It is especially difficult this time of year. I know we are finding that with MIL's funeral this week, and now i have found out that my cousin has a day or so left to live. So my thoughts are very much with you and your family. Although i don't "know how you feel" (we can never completely know how another feels) i can empathise and i hope you can all find comfort being with each other. Do look after yourself while you are away, and look forward to seeing you back in a few days.

bucky am secretly hopeful for you - thos sound like good signs!

07MTW what a waste of time for you today! How you must have been. Can we form a virtual "posse" (sp?) and go and shout at them for you?!

excitable we have chosen not to tell anyone that we are ttc, partly because we are ancient and we know it may well take a while and also because some people may think we are mad and tell us! I have been thinking about telling my mum, just to have some sort of RL support (apart from DH of course)

DG what can i say? I hate that you are left in limbo again. Don't have any wise words for you, but thinking of you. Was it today you were seeing the acupuncturist again? Wondered if he / she had anything to say or suggest?

ccolkat it was good to hear from you. Hope you are doing ok. And if you are feeling like surprising your DH then why not - surely it will do both of you good to have that closeness.

abby glad you are ok! When are you testing then????

Hello to everyone else that i haven't mentioned yet

Sorry to hear about your FIL Santasmissus Picknmix - thanks for clarifying that. (D'oh!) For some reason I had visions of women ttc by taking lots of substances banned in the Tour de France and could not imagine that would be good!

Bucky - I had the same symptoms when I got PG with my daughter and was furious when I thought AF was coming, so I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

As for telling people about ttc, the first time round I did not tell anyone and this time I have told one friend, which I actually think might be a mistake. The reason I think it is a bad idea is that it adds to the pressure. I knew someone who told lots of his work friends and can clearly recall a secretary asking him whether his wife was pregnant yet. It actually took them about 18 months and they suffered a miscarriage... in those circumstances I doubt that having people know what they were up to helped.
I am also a fan of keeping pregnancy quiet until after the first scan, just because (for me) until it is properly confirmed it isn't quite real.

Shrek Sorry to hear about your FIL and I hope your DH, MIL and family are coping as well as can be expected.

Excitable DH & I always disagree on what is/isn't private He is a very private person and I like to talk and talk and talk. BUT how exciting you feel PG what CD are you? When can you test?

Abby It's hard not testing look at me how ridiculous hope you can hang on until the weekend.

Well I trundled into the centre of town to hospital this afternoon, Spent £6.30 on parking charges went to my appointment and one of the first questions was are you PG. So I explained TTC and could be but too early to tell and they sent me home I phoned them last week to say all this and the receptionist told me to go anyway

Still onwards and upwards. Lets hope I really am PG then it wont seem like such a waste of time.

Shrek sorry to hear about your FIL. I hope your MIL is okay - it's an awful time of year to lose a family member.

GG doctors never cease to amaze me. Have they not realised that children being born keeps them in business . Tell me if I'm being nosey, but are your BIL and his wife going to pursue having children through other means? I know this sounds like an awful thing to ask, but my mind has wandered to this possibility in the last few months. Infertility in women runs in my family (I don't know why - it was never really discussed); I had DD when I was 19 - for all I know, something could have occured in my system since then which could stop me conceiving. As you point out, I've a year to try before I can investigate, but I was thinking about the possibility that I might not be able to have any more children.

Bucky Have had the cramps for the last few days now. It comes and goes, and can be quite painful. It's not mid-month and AF isn't due for 10 days. Hmm.. the only thing is that I don't really feel pregnant. Though, I'm reluctant to get too hopeful as I've had months with accute symtoms, followed by AF. I'm hoping it's a good sign!

Hello and big waves to everyone else, mums, DG, excitable, cbcb, coolkat(hope you're taking good care of yourself; they say mc prepares you for pg - I had one and got straight back on the wagon ; I fell with DD the very next month) and anyone I've missed .

Mums sorry about BFN, though it's early. I'm having to fight myself as I'm itching to test. Roll on the weekend..

Just popping in to say hello.

Coolkat, glad you're starting to seem a little brighter.

Re telling other people about TTC, only my very close friends know (our bridesmaid and one of my best friends, and my other best friend who I have known since I was 6). We're all TTC together but trying not to get excited about the thought that we'll be on maternity leave together. This will be DC1 for two of us, and for our bridesmaid it will be DC2. Her DS1 is 15 years old from a previous marriage and at the moment he's the reason they're not successfull at TTC because they're convinced he's going to hear them, bless.

Anyway, I think it's very personal about who you tell, and we've only told these people because they're the people I would turn to if I needed to. Anyone else who asks when children are on the way gets the response "maybe oneday".

thanks dg, gg and annie.
i've just re read my post, as i read up from there when i catch up, it doesn't read v well. i meant that i am happier in myself but obviously not happy about fil as that is a sad thing. does explanation sound worse? sometimes i do over explain and muddle everything

hello DG - yes, I am sure our holiday will be a great distraction and I cannot wait to go. Hurrah! Tests will have to wait.

shreksmissus - I am sorry about your FIL and hope that the next few days aren't too tough.

hello to everyone else!

excitable - I am with your DH on this one, but it is a personal thing. Only you/your Dh will know whether you want to tell people you are TTC. In my case, we agreed TTC was a private thing for us and we didn't want to put pressure on ourselves to update/discuss/explain/share things. As it happens I haven't shared with anyone other than fellow MN-ers, who are great. I'll share the joy if/when it happens with people in RL. I am glad I took that view, because after 12 months TTC with nothing happening, it would only add to the pressure if friends were asking "what's happening?". Another (seperate) reason is that my BIL and his wife cannot have DC's because she's had a premature meonpause and we felt it was untactful to announce we were TTC. Friends and family will be excited for you and only want to be happy for you, but for in my case, I like to keep it as our little secret .

p.s. I have always been pretty open with close friends about everything

PS Don't have any symptoms but I'm convinced I'm pregnant, and have been convinced since day 12. Don't know why. Must stop being so silly.

Looks like you might have to have tests a little later GryffinGirl. I really hope all of this is academic and you get a bfp before then - that would be so cool!

I have very little patience with the NHS and their silly rules. I'm convinced that if you cry at the right people, you can probably get moved up the list anyway.

I was out at a friends house last night and they're really keen for us to start ttc. DH really doesn't want to tell anyone so I wasn't able to answer her questions honestly as I'd like to, as he was there with me. She's so excited by the idea, that she doesn't want to leave it alone. I just want to tell everyone, but DH is so embarrassed. He says it's like announcing that we have sex to all our friends. I say that they knew this already, but he is adamant he doesn't want them to know, so I have to keep my mouth shut. I find this really, REALLY hard.

Does anyone else disagree with their partner when it comes to telling other people about ttc?

afternoon all!
hope everyone is well and everyone who is blue is better than they were last week i am a bit happier, everything in general a little less stressful so hormones life easier to deal with. on a very sad note, but sad for itself and not just being miserable, iyswim, fil passed away this morning. it was sudden but he has been ill with one thing and another for a long time, so he's in a better place now and not suffering anymore. i am going to be offline for a few days, while we go down to mil's, but no bumpin me of any lists

p.s. by that last comment, I meant people like me, who have nothing obviously at fault with their cycle but nothing is happening for. Sorry for sounding preachy

hello everyone,

back on line again . The meet up with bucky and DG was great once we found somewhere instead of the wine bar I suggested (which was shut ).

Bucky - v promising symptoms. I have my fingers crossed. No symptoms for me as I am only CD6 today, but already plotting this month's seduction techniques to be implimented on DH

Thanks to everyone for the kind words and good advice about my disasterous doctor's appointment. I have decided to go back and say that I haven't been taken seriously and I want to take things forward. Trouble is, I have missed this month's window of testing, so it's all quite academic now anyway what with my cycle, Christmas and going on holiday . I have mused about it quite a lot and I think that the doctor thinks that i am playing the system - that I'm just impatient and "over-educated" about TTC and that I haven't really been trying for 12 months (which I have) and that I only said I'd be trying 12 months to get to the top of the queue because that is the usual NHS rule of thumb.

I have seen on other threads how people have said they were trying for 12 months when they hadn't been. If you do this, perhaps give a thought to how you may prejudice someone else further up the queue.

cbcb Your no knowing may work for you, you never know

I did do a test and no surprises it was a BFN but then I'm only 9 dpo and a week til AF due. So I will just tell the hospital this afternoon that I could be PG but too early to tell. I'm not disappointed but I will be if I get a AF/BFN next week.

cbcb Your no knowing may work for you, you never know

I did do a test and no surprises it was a BFN but then I'm only 9 dpo and a week til AF due. So I will just tell the hospital this afternoon that I could be PG but too early to tell. I'm not disappointed but I will be if I get a AF/BFN next week.