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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Symptom Spotters Anonymous (egg spotting or implantation spotting let's have your symptoms)

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digitalgirl · 04/12/2007 19:38

New 2ww thread, have brought over mince pies and mulled wine and put up some fairylights

Come in, take your heels off and get cosy!

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BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 20:43

07MTW If I could come round there and batter TEW for you I would . A good kick up the wotsits might teach her a lesson, stupid old evil uninvited unwelcome unpleasant ugly disgusting old cowbag spoiler that she is . Hope she does her thing and leaves as rapidly as she arrived and doesn't come back to your house again for lots of months. Change the locks and get some burglar bars....geez, she just won't get over herself and P*ss off....

Hmm um, a bit angry tonight...sorry .

Thanks DG,hugs back at ya. I am lucky really, but I guess you always want what you don't have. You know me, I'll snap out of it, just feeling sorry for myself tonight! .

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digitalgirl · 16/12/2007 20:32

oh bucky it's like some sort of unfair lottery, where some people are luckier than other. i really hope your luck changes soon. i know you started ttc'ing a few months ahead of me but I feel like we've been on the same road for a while now...neither of us expecting to still be on the conception boards at xmas.

I'm realistically hoping to be pg by next xmas.

you have a lovely DP, an award-winning dog and have just got a promotion at work. yet, there's still something missing and we're bloody hard-wired to want one. it's not right that our minds are ready for motherhood yet our bodies tell us otherwise. and no-one can really know what it's like to desperately want a baby unless they've been there themselves.

i wonder if we get the same pain amnesia once PG like mother's do after childbirth?

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ScaryHairy · 16/12/2007 20:31

Bucky I'm so sorry that this is getting to you... I don't really know what to say, but you do have my sympathy, honestly.
When DH and I were ttc our daughter, I never believed a single early HPT - I always thought they might turn out to be wrong, and every cycle became stupidly disappointed when it really was a negative. In the end, when I finally was pg, I did not even believe the positive HPT - I didn't want another disappointment and I had had (sort of) a false positive a few months before. I wish it could just be easy for all of us.

07Christmasistheword · 16/12/2007 20:30

Af arrived today.

Abby Sorry for BFN.

Bucky I'm thinking the same too I really am starting to not handle this TTC very well. I'm so fed up why oh why is it taking so long? We only get a couple of days a month when it could work then even when you do everything "right" you only get a 25-30% chance of it actually working. I'm quite emotional about it this month so understand how you are feeling too.

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 20:20

Oh Scary I know you are right, but I did get a BFP once (I MC at 9.5wks) and this is exactly what happened. So every time it happens, and it did happen a couple of months ago and it was not a BFP obviously, I start to think its possible. You would think the very clearly neg HPT would tell me something, but I am sooo fed up of nothing happening. I feel bad even saying that where there are people who have been trying for a year or more, but I don't understand why its not happening when I have a pretty good idea when i am ov-ing and I am BDing accordingly. I can obviusly get pg as it has already happened, so why???? Its so easy for some people . Why can't I just have a baby too??? . I really think I might have to take some time out, because despite trying to convince myself otherwise this is really starting to get to me.

ScaryHairy · 16/12/2007 19:55

Bucky I had a similar thing a couple of months ago and kept hoping it was implantation or something. No such luck for me, but I have fingers crossed for you.

Sorry to hear about all of the BFNs. Surely someone should get a BFP for Christmas?

I am pretty much resigned to the fact that it won't be me, as I am continuing to cramp and feel exactly as though AF is coming (she's due Tues/Wed I think). On the upside, DH and I each have 2 weeks off over Christmas which would put us in the same place for a few days around next ovulation as long as nothing total unpredictable happens with my cycle. It's a start!

coolkat · 16/12/2007 19:32

Good luck Bucky, keeping everything crossed (bloody hard to walk!!) X

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 16:12

Waiting a few days is going to drive me mad dg, today a few hours is sending me loco .

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 15:28

I have been reading it a bit, but I don't know what he did originally so can't figure out what's going on..... I only read the first page though.

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digitalgirl · 16/12/2007 14:30

bucky bfn and no AF? how bloody frustrating for you . perhaps give it a few days, could you wait till next weekend? the only way I got through the last week of my cycle (after spotting and cramps) was to pretend that I wasn't pregnant. eat, drink and make merry. and if no AF after a few days, then a BFP might be a nice surprise .

has anyone been reading the 'i have ruined my life' thread? who'd have thought there could be so much gossip on a mothers chat room

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BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 14:21

I should say, AF never actually arrived, just a bit of spotting and cramps. Now no spotting and no cramps.

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 14:21

Hey Pixie nice to see you...we miss your little shoes with bells on pottering around.

Well, call me crazy but I don't believe the test..... AF has totally gone now. I am sure I am setting myself up for a big disappointment but I DO NOT believe the test.

pixie04 · 16/12/2007 10:37

Good Morning Ladies!

Bucky sorry to hear about weird spotting and AF cramps and BFN It aint over till TEW arrives remember

Hi DG

Abby & MTW So sorry to hear about the BFN's.

PMSL though at Abby's altercation with the cyclist, sorry. I hate shops and shopping at xmas time. DP and I went shopping on Saturday, of course it was extreamly busy. Well The BFG thought it safest to walk behind me as somehow I manage to clear the path infornt of us hehehe I get this dont f* with me, angry pixie look on my face and people move. Its quiet comical. DP says I become a totally different person when I'm shopping and it scares him.

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BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 16/12/2007 08:15

Well AF and cramps well and truly disappeared but BFN this morning...so who knows what is going on . Obviously nothing to do with being pg though. .

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 15/12/2007 23:17

I can be a big blabber mouth sometimes .

Sandies · 15/12/2007 23:13

I would ask who came second.....

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 15/12/2007 23:10

Oh sorry . Just saw loads of posts about how people don't want to know who won X Factor....oops. Really sorry if I spoiled it for anyone

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 15/12/2007 23:06

Scary, I think the tests can go weird after the time they tell you to read them. Hence why there is a time limit, but all is not lost till AF pops round uninvited again and tries to rain on our parade! Fingers crossed for you.

Night night Sandies

Sandies · 15/12/2007 23:04

Bless Scarey, I know what you mean. Going to bed now. xx

BuckytheRedNosedReindeer · 15/12/2007 22:57

Goodnight all, just finished blubbing at XFactor...who knew??? Dark horse Leon has won!!

Anyway, quick update. I've still got superstrength cramps but spotting has stopped...for now. The cramps are so bad it feels like someone has stabbed me . If nothing in the morning I will test because today is the day AF was due, based on ov.

All very weird and we are getting our hopes up in camp Bucky. So not good!!! You know TEW is just teasing and will hijack me shortly and we will be gutted .

ScaryHairy · 15/12/2007 22:57

OK that makes me sound like I am too stupid to read a couple of pink or blue lines, but you know what I mean!

ScaryHairy · 15/12/2007 22:55

Sorry to hear you've been through it Sandies. Bucky - also sorry to hear you think AF is coming. I think mine is coming too (am very crampy) and am not surprised, but it still is annoying.

Re pg tests, I took a normal (non digital) Clearblue one yesterday which was negative at first bu then turned positive after an hour of sitting on a chest of drawers. So I took another one to be sure and this was neg also. My experience is that CB digital ones are the best because I liked having the result spelled out in letters.

Sandies · 15/12/2007 22:49

Friend needs help, not to feel bad. I'm a coper. DGS has made us aware how much love we still have to give. Teaching has also had an effect,perhaps it's time to foster and adopt. (although am too old for that now, I think!)

hedgepig · 15/12/2007 22:32

right i understand. I have noticed that in my dotage I get a spotting bleed pre-proper AF probably 3-5 days before so it could be just a drop in hormones prior to AF. Your body has been through a lot with the mc & dc . I do know how frustrating it is just to watch time running through your fingers.

As for your friend, if she is a good mate just be honest with her and say you are there for her but need support too (sorry that sound more Anne of Green Gables than I was hoping for )

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