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TTC #2

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L0tM0w · 12/09/2021 13:14

Hi everyone, it’s my first post on mumsnet, I spent a LOT of time reading through these threads when ttc my son and they helped so much.

Now I’m back ttc my second and it is only our second cycle and I am already much more desperate for it to happen than I was the first time around with my son 3 years a go.

I think it’s because it took us 10 cycles to conceive my son and I’m already heartbroken over it potentially taking that long (or longer) this time around.

Anybody else out there ttc their second baby and feeling the same anxiety? I swear I drove myself mad last cycle, it’s no wonder it happened really, I was borderline insane with googling, symptom spotting and even poas as early as 4dpo Confused

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L0ts · 13/09/2021 15:36

@mrsS21 I really hope it happens for us both soon!! You’ll have to update this thread regularly! I love keeping up to date with people’s stories and being happy for them when they get their BFP Smile

L0ts · 13/09/2021 15:34

@Miarara Oh no! You’re not out though until AF shows Smile It is really hard when you see that negative though! I’ve sworn to myself this time I’m not doing any early testing, I literally drive myself insaneConfused

mrsS21 · 13/09/2021 13:37

@Kiaa I’ll keep everything crossed for you for the16th, let’s hope this is your month. It is lovely they have little friends, but think it’s so different when they booked as siblings.
Thanks @L0ts hope this time is quicker for you. We took 11 months with our daughter, I’ve had my cycles back since September, so will be just a year - but actively trying for a few months x

Miarara · 13/09/2021 13:22

Hi yep I'm feeling impatient too, we're on month 5, DD we were really lucky and concieved 1st try, had a miscarriage prior and that was 1st month as well, this Tim's I'm driving myself crazy, period is currently 2 days late but tested BFN Sad

L0ts · 13/09/2021 13:20

@Elisemum Oh this is fab to hear! I’m so pleased to hear it didn’t take long for you at all, I hope it is the same for me Smile

@mrsS21 Argh, sorry you’re feeling the same stress, it truly is horrible. With it taking 10 cycles for my son I can’t imagine going through that heartbreak again every month, it was horrible! Sad

@Kiaa Oh it’s the worst isn’t it? I think I worse last cycle than I ever was when ttc my son. I was honestly like a mad woman. Was kind of pleased when AF showed so I could just start a fresh cycle and tell myself to chill out this time!!

I have only JUST had AF show two days a go (also like 2 days early what is that all about? Ergh) but this cycle I’ve told myself I am NOT testing until my period is (hopefully) late!!! We will see if I can ignore the tests that are tucked away in the draw!!

Kiaa · 13/09/2021 10:49

@mrsS21 so sorry accidentally forgot to tag you last comment
That's for sure last time was so easy hopefully not to much longer for us both
Yes same we were lucky to make a few little friends at nursery and playgroup
Aww thank you sending lots of baby dust for you too
The 16th so nervous to test ..

mrsS21 · 13/09/2021 10:11

It’s just so hard isn’t it - I wonder if there’s ever a point we don’t pressure ourselves for one reason or another?!
Yes we’re the same, we’re the first to have children in our immediate families, so she doesn’t have any cousins yet. We’re really close with a few friends who have little ones though, so it helps that she’s got little friends with them and at nursery.
Will keep everything crossed for you this month, when are you due to test?

Kiaa · 13/09/2021 08:41

@L0tM0w
Aww I know the feeling I'm trying to ignore the symptom this time I have nausea & sore boobs just doesn't help when are you testing?
It will happen just have to stay positive & try not to stress 🌟
Yes I agree , my daughter doesn't have any cousin near her age so is tough
Not to mention the pressure from family always asking when baby 2 🤦‍♀️

mrsS21 · 13/09/2021 06:39

Hey @Kiaa ditto!
I got excited yesterday afternoon as had some discharge I’ve never had before… googled like crazy and thought we were maybe having implantation bleeding. This morning feels like af is imminent 😭 just sick of feeling like this could be it, just for my period to show. Scared it’s never going to happen.
Agree there feels like so much panic about the age gap, would love my little ones to be close, feel like a smaller gap enhances that (just my opinion)

Kiaa · 13/09/2021 06:27

Hey @L0tM0w
I hear yah
We are currently ttc #2 cycle 6 this month waiting to test ! the symptom spotting is the worst isnt it
My 1st daughter is nearly 3 worried about the age gap getting bigger

mrsS21 · 13/09/2021 04:45

Hi @L0tM0w just wanted to say we’re in a similar situation, LO is almost 2 1/2, been actively trying a few months now but not not trying since last September. Had a couple of times where I felt we were definitely expecting, but nope. The absolute panic that it could take forever or might never happen is awful x

Elisemum · 12/09/2021 17:40

I was terrified as well becouse I always heard stories from people saying it took sooo much longer to conceive second baby. My first baby was conceived on 2nd cycle and I thought I’m going to pay the price while trying for second… well, it happened on the first try!:) so no need to stress, good luck !

L0ts · 12/09/2021 13:19

Oops typo.

No wonder it DIDN’T happen*