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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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L0tM0w · 12/09/2021 13:14

Hi everyone, it’s my first post on mumsnet, I spent a LOT of time reading through these threads when ttc my son and they helped so much.

Now I’m back ttc my second and it is only our second cycle and I am already much more desperate for it to happen than I was the first time around with my son 3 years a go.

I think it’s because it took us 10 cycles to conceive my son and I’m already heartbroken over it potentially taking that long (or longer) this time around.

Anybody else out there ttc their second baby and feeling the same anxiety? I swear I drove myself mad last cycle, it’s no wonder it happened really, I was borderline insane with googling, symptom spotting and even poas as early as 4dpo Confused

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WingingIt101 · 16/10/2021 08:56

@L0ts sorry to hear not only that af arrived but that it was a bad one. Admiring your resilience to go for the next cycle!

@has30 handhold for the early testing - I’m a nightmare for not doing it!

I’ve carried on with the ovulation sticks since my smiley face and not had another positive one (app predicted ovulation today) so I think it must have been right (had convinced myself of a false positive!)
Temp today in the 36s - does temperature rise with success or am I just cosy and looking for any clue 😂

Kiaa · 15/10/2021 21:17

@has30 Aww I know the feeling I am 10dpo & really wanting to test but with my Af always been delayed have to try and wait till next week 😑

kmbegs · 15/10/2021 18:13

@has30 it's not over until it's over!

has30 · 15/10/2021 17:47

I couldn't wait any longer and had to test. 2 days before AF is due. It doesn't look good for me Sad

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kmbegs · 15/10/2021 14:53

In case anyone is interested I am going to give soy iso a go this cycle. There's lots of info on it online but this is really encouraging: <a class="break-all" href="http://go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfps_with_soy_isoflavones" target="_blank">http://go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfps<a class="break-all" href="http://go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfps_with_soy_isoflavones" target="_blank">withh<a class="break-all" href="http://go.mumsnet.com/?xs=1&id=470X1554755&url=community.babycentre.co.uk/post/a12154345/bfps_with_soy_isoflavones" target="_blank">soyisoflavones

Kiaa · 15/10/2021 00:14

@L0ts
Sorry to hear , least it is a new start
Sending you lots of baby dust 💫 xx

Kiaa · 15/10/2021 00:08

@daisiesandpeonies
Oh good hopefully stays shorter for you
Best of luck for this cycle 🌟

has30 · 14/10/2021 19:43

@L0ts

Hi everyone! Just an update, AF finally arrived almost 6 days late yesterday. A lot more painful and heavier than normal, Ergh. What a really shitty cycle that was 😩 Happy to have put it behind me and to be able to finally start trying again.

Hope you’re all well ❤️

Really sorry to hear this. Fingers crossed it's over quickly and you can get back to it. Hopefully next month will be kinder on you.
daisiesandpeonies · 14/10/2021 17:30

@Kiaa my period is just finishing, so first week! My cycles were always quite long, but they've been shorter since they came back after breastfeeding. Around 5 weeks as opposed to 6/7

L0ts · 14/10/2021 14:38

Hi everyone! Just an update, AF finally arrived almost 6 days late yesterday. A lot more painful and heavier than normal, Ergh. What a really shitty cycle that was 😩 Happy to have put it behind me and to be able to finally start trying again.

Hope you’re all well ❤️

Kiaa · 14/10/2021 00:14

@daisiesandpeonies sure thing welcome
Hopefully this time around will be quicker for you 🤞where are you in your cycle?

WingingIt101 · 13/10/2021 12:06

Static smiley! No flashing smiley yesterday either!
First cycle using the sticks so it’s all new to me

kmbegs · 13/10/2021 08:36

@WingingIt101 was it a flashing smiley or static? I normally get a good few days of flashing before the static, and the static is your LH surge.

I started using the Ava fertility bracelet this month and even though I'm only 10DPO it's really obvious that my temps are consistently declining and that this cycle hasn't worked. Feel so gutted 😔

WingingIt101 · 13/10/2021 08:17

Congratulations @blueberryy Smile

@L0ts how are you doing?

I’ve started using the clear blue ovulation sticks and my app expected me to ovulate on Saturday but I got a surprise smiley face on the Lh test this morning - dtd last night and now shuffling diaries to make sure DH and I have some opportunities over the next two days (who says romance is dead 😂)

daisiesandpeonies · 12/10/2021 19:56

Is it OK if I jump on this thread? Took me 14 months TTC for #1 who is now 18 months. Hoping it will be faster this time!😂

L0ts · 12/10/2021 10:30

@has30 I have tested with frer and this morning a clear blue.. All negative.

I suspect when looking at my BBT chart that I ovulated four days later than I originally thought (at the time I just assumed a delayed temp rise) which I’m guessing could make AF late? Especially if a chemical is involved too. It’s now been 3/4 days.

Kiaa · 12/10/2021 00:20

@blueberryy
Congratulations all the best 💐

blueberryy · 11/10/2021 23:45

@birdbybird since it was our 12th month trying, honestly, we got lazy. We did it two days before ovulation and day of ovulation.

birdbybird · 11/10/2021 21:03

Congrats @blueberryy!

Which days did you DTD?

has30 · 11/10/2021 19:37

Congratulations @blueberryy that looks like a beautiful line progression too!

@L0ts how many negative tests did you get? Is it possible for a faulty batch? Did you change brand and they just don't pick up as early? I'm not really very good in knowing much about tests. Maybe wait another day or two and test again??

L0ts · 11/10/2021 18:43

As an update for myself.. Still no AF. She is now 2/3 days late. I’m baffled.

L0ts · 11/10/2021 18:42

@blueberryy So incredibly pleased for you!!! Happy and healthy 9 months to you 🥰❤️

blueberryy · 11/10/2021 13:36

Hello! Looks like cycle 12 was the winner. Posting two tests. From 10DPO and from 15DPO.

No denying. So hopefully it sticks.

Just wanted to share because there were 2 things I did different this time around:
Ovulation yoga every day from period to LH peak. I noticed my ovulation was day 16-17, and when I did this yoga it moved to day 12. Wild.

Preseed. First time trying it.

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has30 · 10/10/2021 17:18

@kmbegs

A few months ago I tested early and the BFN hit me so hard and I was so upset, and then had to wait another few days for my period which felt really tough as I was desperate for a new cycle of that one had failed, and the whole thing was so brutal that I wrote a note to myself basically saying don't test early again, wait for your period (obviously in more words because I wanted to make sure future me would take the advice!). Every month since then, when I'm tempted to test early, I look at that note and I don't test. Might not work for everyone but it really helps me remember the heartbreak of a BFN, which for me is much worse than a new cycle starting.
Thank you. This really is a brilliant idea. I totally agree I'd rather see AF than a BFN. I may give this a go!
kmbegs · 10/10/2021 16:26

A few months ago I tested early and the BFN hit me so hard and I was so upset, and then had to wait another few days for my period which felt really tough as I was desperate for a new cycle of that one had failed, and the whole thing was so brutal that I wrote a note to myself basically saying don't test early again, wait for your period (obviously in more words because I wanted to make sure future me would take the advice!). Every month since then, when I'm tempted to test early, I look at that note and I don't test. Might not work for everyone but it really helps me remember the heartbreak of a BFN, which for me is much worse than a new cycle starting.