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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When to test?

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Nicolelinda96 · 05/09/2021 18:15

Hi guys. I recently had what may have been a chemical pregnancy.

I miscarried at 5.5 weeks and the bleeding stopped around 15 days ago. We have been having sex regularly (2-3 times a week) since about 2 days after the bleeding stopped. There is a possibility that you can conceive soon after a miscarriage, so I do plan on taking a test at some point unless my period arrives within the next couple of weeks. I had mild symptoms last time (I found out at 4.5 ish weeks) and was already having mild symptoms (bloating, cramps, larger breasts) . Should I just wait to see if any symptoms happen? I’m very impatient lol and will struggle to hold off for very long! Should I wait a month and if I have mild symptoms or no period, test then? I will be using a first response as they are the most sensitive.

Note: my hcg will be below 5 now as I feel back to normal and it was very very low anyway.

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LuluF91 · 13/09/2021 08:49

I don't know what to say to make it better for you. There is a hole left when you lose a pregnancy and it seems impossible to fill. I got to the point of feeling suicidal after the last loss. It was an accumulation of things but being physically unwell and unable to care for my child tipped me over the edge. HOWEVER, I don't know how but I just had to carry on and living proof of pregnancy after multiple losses. You will be ok but it takes time. Allow yourself to grieve and don't be hard on yourself thinking you should be ok by now. There is practical help out there if you do suffer multiple losses but the majority go on to have a healthy pregnancy after one loss.
All the best for the future ❤

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Nicolelinda96 · 13/09/2021 08:28

I caved and tested this morning didn’t I? Of course it was negative. The good thing is that I’m barely into a month of trying and I certainly wouldn’t expect it to happen that soon anyway, plus it shows my hcg is now lower than the threshold for pregnancy. It’s a clean slate I suppose.

Regardless, the days are moving so slowly and all I can think about is TTC. It’s scaring me to death reading about people having multiple chemicals before a baby. So even that longed for bfp will probably not equal a baby anyway. I’m
Not going to be happy until I’m at least 8 weeks into a healthy pregnancy to be honest. It’s nice to know that we are actively trying now, including supplements and sperm friendly lube, but I feel like I’m becoming quite depressed. I’ll find brief joy in a nice meal with friends or a date night with my partner, but the constant reminder that I’m not a mum remains and it hurts so much. I don’t know how to make myself feel better whilst TTC when I have no idea how long it’ll take and even if I get a positive test, it’s likely to be a chemical anyway.

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Bundaberg84 · 09/09/2021 08:39

You just figured out that you ovulated around Monday. No way you could get a BFP by now. I don't want to sound harsh, don't get me wrong please but I think you need to take a step back and try to relax a little. I know it's hard, as it's beyond our control. But stressing about the whole TTC won't help at all. Test two weeks after your ovulation, so maybe Sunday in a week. Safe your money and test in the meantime.

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Nicolelinda96 · 09/09/2021 05:01

I caved and took a test this morning didn’t I? A clear blue blue cross one (25mu) there’s still a chance, right? It’s too early and that’s not the most sensitive test, right? Sad

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Bundaberg84 · 08/09/2021 22:11

@Nicolelinda96 they calculate from the first day of the bleeding, as this is the only reliable date so to speak, because bleeding length can vary a lot.

summertimes2021 · 08/09/2021 18:08

I have an early miscarriage in July and ovulated a week and a bit later and am now pregnant again I found out at 3 weeks 5dsys :)

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 16:48

When they say that you can ovulate as soon as 2 weeks post mc, does this mean after the bleeding had stopped or from the start of the mc?

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 16:41

Please tell me that taking a test would be pointless. I’m tempted to buy one lol

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 16:40

Oops I calculated it wrong. If I go by 2 weeks after the mc, the earliest I could’ve ovulated would be the 4th of this month. That means I may be 4dpo- is it possible that I could’ve ovulated before that? Or is it bare minimum 2 weeks post mc?

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 16:37

Ok so if the first day of proper bleeding was cd1, this would be the 14th august. This puts me at cd26. If my cycle was 28 days then I could’ve potentially ovulated on the 28th at the earliest. If I put my cycle at 32 days, then I could’ve ovulated on the 1st-2nd of this month, meaning that I may already be 6-7dpo? Could I potentially have ovulated that early?

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 16:26

No I don’t. My cycles are roughly monthly, maybe a couple of days more, so my ovulation will most likely be later than cd14 as you said. It may also be a little delayed by the mc.

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Bundaberg84 · 08/09/2021 15:51

@Nicolelinda96 yes, first day of bleeding = CD1.
A woman with a 28 day cycle will probably ovulate at CD14. But the longer the cycle, the later the ovulation.
Do you track your ovulation with BBT or OPK?

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 11:57

So I had larger , slightly achy breasts about 3 days after my period was due last time, so if I don’t get those, should I bother testing? Can symptoms vary that much?

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 10:53

To add: if I count the first day of proper bleeding from my MC/CP as day one of my cycle, I’m apparently on CD26? So is it possible that I already ovulated? Confused.

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Nicolelinda96 · 08/09/2021 10:34

Ok so I’m pretty sure I ovulated either yesterday or the day before. Is it a good plan to test 12-14 days from now?

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Bundaberg84 · 07/09/2021 12:44

No, that's not how our body works dear. You don't ruin all your existing eggs just because you were binge drinking. Otherwise our mankind would be doomed :)

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Nicolelinda96 · 07/09/2021 08:44

My mind is torturing me ffs. It keeps going back to one very specific time when I chugged probably 200ml of neat gin. (This was one time only) That must’ve damaged a lot of my eggs, right? Meaning that an embryo can never develop properly? I hate myself and am beyond mortified and devastated that I might’ve ruined my chances of having my own baby.

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Nicolelinda96 · 06/09/2021 21:59

Tbh I’ve seen very little evidence out there to suggest that short term alcohol abuse (these binges occurred sporadically over the course of 2 years) has a significant affect. It’s probably just my anxiety talking and I know one early mc is still within the normal and I didn’t have any issue conceiving either. But it’s just hard waiting to conceive again, because all I have is this negative experience of an early loss.

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Bundaberg84 · 06/09/2021 21:37

I don't think you have anything to worry if you stopped drinking a year ago. It's a different story if you're binge drinking in the 2ww for example.

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Nicolelinda96 · 06/09/2021 21:17

A little off topic, but I’m terrified that Ive harmed my chances of conceiving and keeping a pregnancy due to past struggles with alcohol. I haven’t drank anything for close to a year, but it’s still a worry. I’d binge every few months and I’d drink A LOT. On a couple of occasions, I recall chugging hard liquor, but typically I would drink a mixture of different things until I blacked out. I’m scared I’ve damaged my eggs by doing this. I feel so stupid and regret it so much.

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Nicolelinda96 · 06/09/2021 20:41

Yes I have deduced that I am either currently ovulating or a little past it. It’s tough because the mc could mean that I ovulate a little later and delay my period. But I shall test in about 3 weeks if my period doesn’t make an appearance.

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Bundaberg84 · 06/09/2021 20:24

That would make you cd24 then. Depending on your normal cycle you could be ovulating or even already past ovulation?

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Nicolelinda96 · 06/09/2021 18:33

To add. I mean the bleeding started 38-40 days after my last period started. I started bleeding (at this time only a bit of pink spotting) on the 13th of last month. That stopped on the 20th. So I could potentially have ovulated already, or be approaching it. I had mild sympathy time, so I’m thinking of waiting for those, or if my period doesn’t return by next month.

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Nicolelinda96 · 06/09/2021 18:27

I have no idea. But if you count the first day of my last period, it was 38-40 days from that I believe. I bled for 7 days in total

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Bundaberg84 · 06/09/2021 18:05

I'd calculate with the same cycle as usual. Depending on how long your bleeding was, you'd be on cd 20? 25?